The Dame Debate

#015 OUR FIRST GUEST! Adrian Lovett - from Dallas, TX living in Oklahoma City, 29, married and a dog mom! We are so excited for you to hear Adrian's perspective on being a genuine person, what it means to her, how she learned to be this version of herself, our take on some of her view points and some good laughs along the way. Find Adrian on Instagram @adrianwlovett to learn more about her.

#014 Perception is such a big topic for us and we could have definitely taken this episode into many episodes and we may even circle back on it in the future. Perception is a way of regarding, understanding, or interpreting something - a mental impression - and sometimes people perceive things differently. We get into the different areas of life where we have experienced difficulties due to a difference of perception. We are big fans of assuming positive intent and seeing things from different points of view but we really dig into why we perceive the same situations differently (think past experiences, trauma, how we were raised, etc). We hope you enjoy our wrestle with this topic.

#013 We decided it was time to dig into the big topic of fear and failure, the fear of failure, what fear means and why failure is something we fear. We talk ourselves in circles while also making perfect sense. We give examples, we touch on imposter syndrome and we even talk more into childhood development (surprise)! We go down some weird paths that are unexpected - like why men are afraid to fail in the bedroom. We know we aren't men but we have some hypothesis from a women's perspective. Dig in and have fun with us!

#012 This episode really gets into narcissism - we look into how the majority of people have tendencies, the origin of the word and degree of severity. We talk about how to identify a narcissist and determine if you are being manipulated in work, friendships, family or a romantic relationship. Gail and I have both dealt with our fair share of narcissistic men in our dating careers and we talk through some of those situations. Enjoy!

sources:

- The Skinny Confidential Him and Her Podcast - #502 Dr. Jaime Zuckerman

- Hollman, L. (2020, May 18). Narcissist vs. Sociopath vs. Psychopath: What's the Difference? Retrieved from Laurie Hollman

- Grannon, R. (2019). A cult of one: How to deprogram yourself from narcissistic abuse. London: Recovery Road Press.

- Green, J., & Bryant, C. (2023, January 17). Narcissism: But what about me? [Episode 1447]. Stuff You Should Know. Retrieved from https://www.iheart.com/podcast/105-stuff-you-should-know-26940277/episode/narcissism-but-what-about-me-29467411/

- Conti, P. (2022, February 14). Narcissism, sociopathy, envy, and the nature of good and evil [Episode 357]. Lex Fridman Podcast. Retrieved from https://lexfridman.com/paul-conti/

#011 We dive into the "Let Them" theory, from Mel Robbins. We look at the positives and negatives of the theory, how best to apply it and some exceptions to the rule. The theory is backed by the way to achieve peace in life. We consider it a fascinating way to approach situations in life but not all situations.

sources:

https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-70

- Hollman, L. (2020, May 18). Narcissist vs. Sociopath vs. Psychopath: What's the Difference? Retrieved from https://lauriehollmanphd.com/2020/05/18/narcissist-vs-sociopath-vs-psychopath-whats-the-difference/

- Peterson, J. B. (2018). 12 rules for life: An antidote to chaos. New York, NY: Random House.

Strayed, C. (2012). Tiny beautiful things: advice on love and life from Dear Sugar. New York, NY: Vintage Books.

#010 We are looking at the quote "Love does not hurt.Stop convincing yourself that you'd rather be in pain with someone than be in pain without them." This is our last episode of this series where we analyze specific self help quotes - the good and the bad - and tweak them a little bit to capture their true meaning. This one we take down a bit of a rabbit whole on the idea that love doesn't hurt - or rather, it shouldn't but some times it does.

#009 We dive into the quote "Not everyone thinks like you. What makes sense to you doesn't necessarily make sense to someone else. Communicate." We see this as more of a reminder and think through all of the times we thought others should think like us. It's a simple thought that we have to remind ourselves regularly because we can get stuck in our own worlds and heads. This episode we kind of go all over the place but we land on the thought and understanding that we need this reminder from time to time. Leave comments if you have any thoughts on this topic and let us know what else you want us to talk through. Find us on instagram @thegenuinegals and visit us on our website at thegenuinegals.com.

-Greene, J. (2013). Moral tribes: Emotion, reason, and the gap between us and them. Penguin Press.

-Yu, C., Chai, Y., & Liu, Y. (2018). Literature review on collective intelligence: a crowd science perspective. International Journal of Crowd Science, 2(1), 64-73.

#008 This is a solo Gail episode where she comes at this weeks quote from every angle possible. The quote: "Falling for the potential of who someone could be instead of who they actually are will cause you grave pain and disappointment. The sooner you let go. The faster you'll heal." Everything from potential in children to significant others and friends. The aim is to try to see it from all sides and we know that everyone can interpret things differently from different audiences. Gail has some giggles for you and some amazing takes on life. Give it a listen and let us know how you interpret the quote!

- J. Peterson and R. Kelley. Parkour and Rough Play: Combatting Infantilization. The Dr. Jordan Peterson Podcast. Episode 343. 27 March 2023.

- Rasmussen University. (2023, March 8). What is rough and tumble play? An educator's guide. Retrieved from https://www.rasmussen.edu/degrees/education/blog/rough-and-tumble-play/

- Durante, K. M., Griskevicius, V., & Roberts, S. C. (2011). The red lipstick effect: Women’s facial attractiveness increases following the application of red lipstick. Psychological science, 22(11), 1359-1366.

- Laeng B, Ellemers N. Evolutionary Theories and Men's Preferences for Women's Waist-to-Hip Ratio: Which Hypotheses Remain? A Systematic Review. Frontiers in Psychology. 2019;10:1-16. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2019.01221

- Weinberg, R. A. (1989). Intelligence and IQ. New York, NY: Oxford University Press.

#007 Looking at another life motto: "No one owes you anything. You are the leader of your own life. Work for what you want. That makes you the most powerful person you can be." We dive into what this phrase really means, how it pertains to our own lives, what it could mean for yours and analyzing some word usage (ie. the word "that"). Self care phrases are all the rage these days but what do they actually mean and why do we like them so much? We are big encouragers of taking a look deeper into ourselves and taking a personal inventory. We talk about what true leadership is and how we can use that perspective to lead our own lives in the direction we hope to go. If you have any questions or comments, let us know on instagram @thegenuinegals or [email protected]. Enjoy!

#006 Well nothing new here, we dive deep into some key phrases people like to throw around as motivation and encouragement. The two sayings are "It's no one's responsibility to make you happy. Stop giving up your power by expecting someone or something to change your life." and " No one owes you anything. You are the leader of your own life. Work for what you want. That makes you the most powerful person you can be." We dive into the meaning of happiness and what it truly means to set priorities, expectations and boundaries. We want to know what you think, so feel free to reach out and let us know via instagram @thegenuinegals.