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The Dark Side of Growth
When I went viral, I was not prepared for the negative comments that rolled in!
We look at the criticism that people give us with a grain of salt rather than ignore it. I don't say to ignore people's opinions of you, but what can you learn from this? Is any part of this true? And what is like none of your business that I need to let go of?
This summer I had some tik-tok videos get very high views, and my account grew in followers from 300 to 16,000 within a week. The first popular video was not very polarizing, it was about how you differentiate between your soul speaking to you versus your mind speaking to you, and apparently, that resonated with the people and it went crazy viral.
As things happen right in life, something explodes in a good way and there's a rubber band effect. From then on, my videos only had a few hundred views. But I've learned with social media consistency is the most important thing. So I continued to show up on TikTok.
Some days I fall off, but for the most part, I post five to six times a week, and then back-to-back, two went viral. I didn't think there was anything wrong with one of those videos when I made it.
Some people thought I was racist, some people thought I was making a big deal out of nothing. Those were hard things to hear.
I was sharing a very small sliver of my story. Social media is all about sharing your stories of what made you, you, how did you end up where you are, and why do you do the thing that you do? If you want success, any sort of success, that comes with more visibility.|
So I worked through that discomfort and in my breath work session, what came up was, I am worthy of success no matter how many mistakes I make, that it is safe to make mistakes, It is safe to be seen.
Maybe you aren't putting yourself out there on social media, but you are someone who's never spoken up, who's always avoided conflict and you've realized you have a voice and you're going to use your voice.
When you do stand up for yourself, you are going to upset people by the very fact that you are changing and growing. There's no way around it. This is one of the most uncomfortable side effects of growth. You cannot want to change who you are without having a ripple effect on all of those around you.
As we grow and change, you're gonna realize that not everybody likes how you are growing and changing. The dynamics of a relationship are going to change and people won't want to tolerate that anymore and you might not want to tolerate how someone treats you anymore. As painful as it is, you might have to end some relationships as you realize you two are not aligned anymore.
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By Visa Shanmugam
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When I went viral, I was not prepared for the negative comments that rolled in!
We look at the criticism that people give us with a grain of salt rather than ignore it. I don't say to ignore people's opinions of you, but what can you learn from this? Is any part of this true? And what is like none of your business that I need to let go of?
This summer I had some tik-tok videos get very high views, and my account grew in followers from 300 to 16,000 within a week. The first popular video was not very polarizing, it was about how you differentiate between your soul speaking to you versus your mind speaking to you, and apparently, that resonated with the people and it went crazy viral.
As things happen right in life, something explodes in a good way and there's a rubber band effect. From then on, my videos only had a few hundred views. But I've learned with social media consistency is the most important thing. So I continued to show up on TikTok.
Some days I fall off, but for the most part, I post five to six times a week, and then back-to-back, two went viral. I didn't think there was anything wrong with one of those videos when I made it.
Some people thought I was racist, some people thought I was making a big deal out of nothing. Those were hard things to hear.
I was sharing a very small sliver of my story. Social media is all about sharing your stories of what made you, you, how did you end up where you are, and why do you do the thing that you do? If you want success, any sort of success, that comes with more visibility.|
So I worked through that discomfort and in my breath work session, what came up was, I am worthy of success no matter how many mistakes I make, that it is safe to make mistakes, It is safe to be seen.
Maybe you aren't putting yourself out there on social media, but you are someone who's never spoken up, who's always avoided conflict and you've realized you have a voice and you're going to use your voice.
When you do stand up for yourself, you are going to upset people by the very fact that you are changing and growing. There's no way around it. This is one of the most uncomfortable side effects of growth. You cannot want to change who you are without having a ripple effect on all of those around you.
As we grow and change, you're gonna realize that not everybody likes how you are growing and changing. The dynamics of a relationship are going to change and people won't want to tolerate that anymore and you might not want to tolerate how someone treats you anymore. As painful as it is, you might have to end some relationships as you realize you two are not aligned anymore.
Sign up for FREE live breathwork sessions here
Set up a free consultation call to work with me privately here
Send me a DM on Instagram HERE