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Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at

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Physical effects of anger

Anger starts in the mind triggers the body’s ‘fight or flight’ response. Other emotions that trigger this response include fear, excitement and anxiety. The adrenal glands flood the body with stress hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol.The brain shunts blood away from the gut and towards the muscles, in preparation for physical exertion. Heart rate, blood pressure and respiration increase, the body temperature rises and the skin perspires. The mind is sharpened and focused.

Health problems with anger

The constant flood of stress chemicals and associated metabolic changes that go with ongoing unmanaged anger can eventually cause harm to many different systems of the body.Some of the short and long-term health problems that have been linked to unmanaged anger include:

headache

digestion problems, such as abdominal pain

insomnia

increased anxiety

depression

high blood pressure

skin problems, such as eczema

heart attack

stroke.

 

But where did it start? In the brain… actually what you fed the brain…

 

Lets look at spiked insulin and diabetes and other health risks… but lets look it from a diet soda perspective. When you drink a sugary drink it hits your digestive system and wham your brain spikes your insulin levels and a whole host of side affects physically….

But your brain is smart… no pun intended. Once your brain is trained, your body will dump insulin simply at the taste of a sweet taste… before it ever hits your stomach and is digested - ON TOP OF THAT…. now your brain will dump insulin when you taste sweet low cal or no cal ingredients. So you can drink a diet pop and your brain taste sweetness… and with no sugar or calories at all spike your blood sugar.

 

What am I talking about today… simply the power of your brain! What you need to understand is 

Proverbs 23:7 

For as he thinks within himself, so he is.He says to you, “Eat and drink!”But his heart is not with you.

 

 

Wether your brain is triggered by an emotion like anger, pride or fear… or it can be triggered by your taste buds… the point is that your internal operating system “your brain” is the key to how successfully you live your life physically and spiritually.

 

So next time you pick up your bible don’t simply look at it as a spiritual manual, but rather as a program for your mind which will impact your entire life.

Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at

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A website that is nothing but top ten lists of just about everything. The top 10 car insurance companies, Pepper spray, suntan lotions, NBA players, Milk shakes, Cartoons, love songs, horror movies, the top 10 people born in the 1860’s and who died in the 1920’s… Today we cover our own top ten list but with a twist… Hey i wonder if they have the top ten donuts?

 

10 Marriage Mistakes That Can Lead to Divorce

1. Having unrealistic expectations. most Christians have unrealistic expectations… what I mean by that is they just want to be a good person… Jesus calls us to do more that what he did. 

Many marriages fail because of unrealistic expectations people put on themselves, their partner, and their marriage. Marriage is a serious (and hopefully lifelong) commitment that will have good and bad days, ups and downs, romance and frustration, and obstacles you could not have foreseen from the outset. Because of all these things, expecting your marriage to be in perfect harmony at all times is completely unrealistic! Similarly, expecting yourself and your partner to be perfect at all times is equally unrealistic. People are human, and we must accept mistakes as they come, learn from them, and move on. Another common problem in many marriages is when someone expects their partner to solve all of their problems. You cannot expect your partner to be your therapist. It isn’t fair to them, and frankly, they probably don’t have the proper training to help you deal with your demons. Expecting too much of your partner emotionally will totally drain them, and add stress to their lives. They are there to support you through tough times, not to assume your burden. In order to avoid setting unrealistic expectations, try to focus on acceptance in all its forms. Acceptance of change, frustration, fights, but most importantly, acceptance of your partner, yourself and your union, and all the flaws and strengths that go with it.

2. Poor communication

Communication is KEY. I know that we all know this, but I don’t think many people realize how detrimental poor communication can be to your marriage. A lack of good communication can transform small, resolvable problems into completely insurmountable issues - and in some cases, ‘irreconcilable differences’. Misunderstandings can cause you or your partner to feel unheard and unimportant, which can breed resentment. Good communication is the foundation of any strong relationship, so the lack of it is well... let’s just say NOT good. Not good at all. The thing is, good communication habits can be really difficult to build, and bad communication habits are even harder to break. But your relationship deserves honesty, vulnerability and trust. It requires you and your partner to articulate what is on your mind (out loud, and directly!), so that you can support each other and your emotional needs. Good communication also means talking about the things that aren’t so easy to talk about. You have to be willing to fight, and fight often (but only when necessary, of course), so that problems get resolved and solutions are reached.

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3. Lack of respect. Read Gods word and do it. 

Marriage is a partnership of equals. Accepting this fact means that you have you to respect your partner’s actions, choices, opinions and criticism. If there is a lack of respect in your marriage, whether one person lacks respect for the other, or there is a mutual lack of respect, your marriage is likely to fail. A lack of respect can take on many different forms, whether it’s extreme jud

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Sitting as a kid reading up on black bears in order to do a book report. I sat there thinking, I love learning (what I am interested in) I love writing, I love speaking, I love making people laugh and think and teaching new things… to bad there’s not a job like that….

 

I remember sitting in the little east high school theatre taking the SAT or ACT test. And I knew this didn’t matter in my life. I knew my score would suck, but I also knew it would not matter. I am not saying- don’t study. I am just saying if you know your strengths and you are being tested on your weaknesses, don’t worry about it. Put all your effort into your strengths. 

 

I knew so young that my gifts were not based on math scores or english or even my ability to memorize algorithms or write code…

In fact I hate english but it didn’t stop me from writing 13 books, I have a hard time memorizing but it didn’t stop me from writing and recording songs or playing guitar and playing drums… 

I never tried to focus on my weaknesses… 

 

Back to my story about being in 5th grade and thinking wow, wouldn’t it be great to have a job where you read, study, write and then speak… and uh yes that is a lot of what I do now as a pastor….

 

My son is a genius. Almost a perfect ACT SAT score.

 

My younger son is more of the street smart type. If your going to go to war my oldest will draw up the strategy, my youngest will lead the war. but what is most important to me is that they both know their gifts, talents, abilities and strengths. 

 

So important to know your gifts, talents and abilities. 

Gift- great voice, you had nothing to do with it

Talents - your genetics combined with your hard work

Abilities- typically sheer work

Strengths are a combination of all 3 used in the right place with the right people at the right time. 

 

One of my gifts is I can encourage and fill others up. Much of my gift or at least it’s impact is due to how much I have spent with the gift giver.

 

One of the reasons Jesus came is so that the soul could feel it’s worth. And once you feel your worth you no longer run after money or fame or popularity… you no longer run after what you think will give you worth… you just simply rest in his worth being you.

 

Take time today to write down what your Gifts, talents, abilities are how they can be your strengths… it will leave you with the road map to begin to feel what God feels for you.

Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at

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It feels so good. I mean right in the middle of feeling the worst of the worst you can just do this and feel incredible. You know those times when you do, say, act in ways that make life miserable… and all you have to do is this one thing… and aaahhhhh its all better!

 

 

I remember in 7th grade I was at Orange-way big store. Just think of a K-mart. I stole an album… now it was a Aerosmith album… so it was kinda worth the risk… anyway… I got busted. They called the cops… but the real story is what happened in the back room…

 

When I confessed I couldn’t say it loud enough or just say it enough…it felt that good. Yes my mom and dad were furious and very very disappointed (which actually hurt the most) but I had no more guilt. I confessed and even prayed to God to forgive me and it was amazing… even though I knew I was going to pay a big price with my parents… and with Prange way (I could no longer shop there… hey I wonder if I can get my wife to shoplift on amazon prime and get busted so she can no longer shop there… uh, anyway) Yes there was a big set of penalties… but confession actually made those penalties ok to deal with. Because I knew I was back in right standing with myself, my God and my parents. Listen to this Psalm after David throws down on Bathsheba, kills her husband and then lies about it. 

 

Psalm 32:1-8

1 

Oh, what joy for those    whose disobedience is forgiven,    whose sin is put out of sight!

2 

Yes, what joy for those    whose record the Lord has cleared of guilt,[b]    whose lives are lived in complete honesty!

3 

When I refused to confess my sin,    my body wasted away,    and I groaned all day long.

4 

Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me.    My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat. Interlude

5 

Finally, I confessed all my sins to you    and stopped trying to hide my guilt.I said to myself, “I will confess my rebellion to the Lord.”    And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone. Interlude

6 

Therefore, let all the godly pray to you while there is still time,    that they may not drown in the floodwaters of judgment.

7 

For you are my hiding place;    you protect me from trouble.    You surround me with songs of victory. 

 

 

This doesn’t sound like a man who is ashamed, or saddened or sick inside anymore. it sounds like a man who was forgiven. 

So today… lets just anti up and deal with our sin and guilt knowing that God will welcome us with his forgiveness and joy!

Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at

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Patrick Bet-David sent out an email 2 weeks ago that really hit me hard. I’ll read it to you.

I was driving home from work a few years ago when a friend of mine called me to ask if I could mentor him.

He wanted to start a business, and I was like, “Sure no problem.”

So we met at a restaurant, he explained what he wanted to do, and I started challenging him on what he needed to do and what suggestions I had.

And as I was talking, I noticed a weird look on this guy’s face. 

So I asked if everything was right 

He paused for a minute and said…

“You know what Pat, I don't know why you’re challenging me so hard. I thought you were just gonna motivate me and tell me that I can do it.”

Now, why am I telling you this story, Garth?

You see, most people say they want to be successful…

But the problem is… they’re not willing to get challenged.

Most people are just looking for motivation.

 

And over the last few days it has morphed into this idea

I can’t get away from this thought…

What if you just cut away everyone in your life who was not all out for Jesus. I don’t mean You only hang with people who are super spiritual wacky, only talk about Jesus. but those who you know for a fact by the example they set, are all in it for Jesus. They witness on a regular basis, they have a consistent proven quiet time, they know their bibles, they are not easily swayed by opinions or fear or media or even their boss or circumstances… They do not look at porn, they have not had affairs, they do not gossip… they are not about the latest toys or money or reputation… they have a rock solid self esteem because they know who they are in Christ… they are proven.

So what if you cut out all of those people in your life who were not like that… 

Now let me say this… I hang around sinners, but I am now cutting out people who I know have a negative influence on me. Look there are so called Christians who for some reason I know have a negative affect on me, and again there are some non Christians who do not have a negative affect on me… but none the less

 

Now again listen to me. I am not saying you are no longer friendly, nor do you only hang out with Christians… but all of those people you talk to, hang with, do lunch with, all of those people you give an ear to WHO YOU KNOW HAVE SUCK THE SPIRITUAL LIFE OUT OF YOU AND DON’T GIVE ANY SPIRITUAL FIRE BACK…. you just don’t anymore. And more than that you take your worst influence and cut that person out as well… and who is that worst influence? Its you. So how do you cut you out… well it truly comes down to how you spend your time. Don’t allow YOU to just randomly or habitually do what you always do. You must consciously fill your time with others who fill your spiritual bucket up and overflowing. 

Here is my list of who I cut out of my life in the last few years to heighten the impact of those I have left in my life to fill. 

Jarod, Justin, Elijah, Pete, Wendy, Abby, 

Now some of these people left my circle and I just let them leave… where as before I am so loyal I would have tried to keep them around…

And there are quite a few more I have cut out just in social media and in the gym, by not wasting my time talking to them… and honestly, most of these - like 95% of them are so called Christians. But I am trying to be more like Jesus by spending time with those who are more like Jesus. 

 

 

What would your life be like right now if you had cut out all the fluff and meaningless and poor relationships in your life 3 years ago and filled your time with strong, vibrant Godly relationships? I bet if you had done this, it would be radically different. So start now.

One secret people stumble on as they mature and grow deeply in God

Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at

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Luke 6:38 

Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”

Galatians 6:7-10 

Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.

2 Corinthians 9:6

The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.

 

Like in farming, spring is when you sow the seeds, water and weed and plants begin to grow. Summer is a time of rapid growth, when a healthy crop just seemingly explodes and everything is in bloom. Autumn is marked by abundance, maybe some debriefing in what to do next year and its when you harvest and store your crop. And finally, winter is a slow, quiet season where you live off the harvest you worked so hard to cultivate, You problem solve, you prepare you plans and you work on your equipment… getting everything ready. 

 

We saw it during the devastating 2008-2009 recession. Some businesses got hit hard that winter, but after about two seasons were able to recover their financial footing. Others either went bust or hadn’t fully recovered before the pandemic and current recession knocked them down again. 

Patrick Bet-David has been saying for the last year, cash is king. Save your money because in the next couple of years you will be able to pick up investments at a quarter of the cost. If you like Baseball cards… the Mickey Mantle 1.9 million dollar card will go for way less than that. And if you are just looking for some quick stocks… the ones with history that drop in price by 50% are easy to purchase and hang on to… Maybe you just want a few new pieces of gym equipment for your basement… hold on, those deals are coming. But in a winter, in a recession it can be a good thing if you are ready.

Are you ready for Winter? 

Are you ready for winter in your health? Your marriage? Your finances? Your job? Your church? With your kids?

 

SO LETS BREAK THESE DOWN… 

health? If you hit a major health concern have you planted the seeds of healthy eating, exercise and healthy choices (i.e. no drugs or alcohol) so that you are best set up to beat your next health challenge?  Winters coming. 

 

Your marriage? Have you proven yourself trustworthy and dependable in your marriage to handle the next crisis? Does your spouse hear you say “i love you” enough during the week? Have you consistently sacrificed and kept your vows loving them in good, bad, rich, poor, healthy, sick, stressed, joyful situations? Winters coming.

 

Your finances? 

How much do you have in your savings right now? Could you make it 6 months with just your savings? Do you have multiple streams of income? Are you on a budget? Do you tithe? Do you invest? Do you save? You can handle just about an financial crisis if you have a strong savings account and a good budget. Winters coming. 

 

Your job?

have you networked with people by helping them and building friendships so that you have abundant contacts to find new employment? Have you been a great employee so that you get a great reference? Have you continued on your skills and advanced beyond your initial degree or what landed you that job? Are you still hungry to advance in your career? Winters coming. 

 

Your church? 

Do you have a str

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I will never forget walking into a waiting room and sitting there for a Dr. appointment. And these two older men who knew each other were just talking away, a little loud due to them both being hard of hearing… and after a good 20 minutes of talking about hobbies, the war and politics one of the mens wives came out and he said “well the boss is here so I need to go”. Then he leans over to this other man and says “say, what was your name again?”. it struck me instantly that at that age, they realized relationships are most important… 

 

In the next month I am going to hang out with some good friends… some in Texas (Jack Ingram and the boys Franchise Blues Destroyers) Then I am bow hunting with some friends, then I am going on my yearly muskie trip with some of my oldest… were talking from grade school friends way up north and then in November I am going Deer hunting with a friend up on his 200 acre plot of land in Nor’dern Minnesota… and I am more excited about being with friends then I am with what we are actually doing…

 

Good friends are good for you! Friends can help you celebrate good times and provide support during bad times. Friends prevent isolation and loneliness and give you a chance to offer needed companionship, too. 

I love football, but I love it even more with friends, I love the UFC but I love it even more with friends. I love traveling and speaking and ministering around the globe, but I love it even more with friends. 

What does friendship do?

Increase your sense of belonging and purpose, if you have a mission in life - friends help you better understand it, practice it and make you better at it. 

Boost your happiness and reduce your stress

Improve your self-confidence and self-worth

Help you cope with traumas, such as divorce, serious illness, job loss or the death of a loved one

Encourage you to change or avoid unhealthy lifestyle habits, such as excessive drinking or lack of exercise

 

Friends also play a significant role in promoting your overall health. Adults with strong social connections have a reduced risk of many significant health problems, including depression, high blood pressure and an unhealthy body mass index (BMI). In fact, studies have found that older adults who have meaningful relationships and social support are likely to live longer than their peers with fewer connections.

 

Why is it sometimes harder to develop friends and keep current friends close…

One of the main reasons I hear a lot is that a spouse is more of a homebody, loner, outgoing of truly likes their alone time, which is most of the time. Whaddya do? Allow them to have their alone time, but also reassure them that you are a better spouse if you have your friend time.

Also lets not forget Friendships may take a back seat to other priorities, such as work, caring for children or grandchildren or aging parents and maybe even your own health challenges. You and your friends may have grown apart due to changes in your lives or interests. Or maybe you've moved to a new community and haven't yet found a way to meet people.

But here is the good news… you don’t need a lot of friends. When it comes to friends it is always quality over quantity. In fact here is where I quote a scripture or two… but let me just say this, when the bible talks about the value of friends, it almost always speaks of A friend and not a group of friends.

So try this out for size today, text your friend and tell them how much you appreciate them… and if you don’t have A friend, then be that friend for someone else and watch how God will cause you to reap a few of your own A friends.

Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at

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How do they do it?

What’s their secret?

How are they so lucky?

I know they work hard… but what exactly do they do… how do they do it?

 

What’s the real question… What is your system? 

 

So you want to know the bible better, you want to hear Gods voice more, you want to be more comfortable witnessing, you want to  conquer porn, laziness, bitterness, gossip. You want to tithe AND give an offering on top of it every week. You want to be involved in that ministry, or marry that woman or man, or heal that person… Regardless of what God has place inside your heart, regardless of the desires he has given you…

 

WHAT IS YOUR SYSTEM, YOUR PROCESS. 

it goes beyond goals, wants hopes desires… you need action steps. 

 

Next find people who are doing it… and ask them their system, their process to get there. Proverbs 15:22

22   Without counsel plans fail,    but with many advisers they succeed.

 

Put your own personal system or process in place and get someone to hold you accountable. 

 

Do it and track it! 

Philippians 4:13

13 I can do all things through him who strengthens me.

 

Debrief every day and every week and every month as to its effectiveness. 

Luke 14:28

28 For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it?

 

 

 

Then rework the process and debrief with your mentors.  

 

Count every single little thing that is a step in the right direction.

 

Deprogram every thought that comes against your chosen path and counter it with scripture. 

 

Finally look for the shooting star moments. These are the cool unexpected things that happen when you are just hanging out pursuing your chosen life. You want this… and it’s starting to happen, but you also get this and this and this… 

Proverbs 16:9

9   The heart of man plans his way,    but the LORD establishes his steps.

 

i.e. you want to start to witness more… but over time you learn the confidence to just talk to anyone about anything and you use it in real life asking for a raise, or  asking a girl out or asking for a favor from  a stranger…

Wake the Faith up Slayer… This is Garth Heckman with the David Alliance and you can reach me at

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There are times that if you peeked inside my life you might say “wow God has not taken care of you whatsoever… You could look at the circumstances that were immediately apparent and have plenty of proof to believe I had been forgotten by God… But guess what, Im here to tell you God took care of me the whole way. 

 

 

God took care of them…

 

Moses given up by his mother

adopted by his enemy

Raised in a secular environment

Killed a man

Accused by his fellow Israelites 

Fled to the desert for his own 40 years of wandering

Went to Pharaoh and time after time was denied

Fled Egypt to the sea and stuck until split the water

Stuck out in the desert another 40 years

God took care of him

 

David wasn’t even acknowledged by his Father or Brothers

he had a bad job and was unnoticed and uncared for

He had to face a giant

he was mocked by his brothers

He was anointed King and then the current king spent 23 years trying to kill him

He was wanted by the phillistines 

He was a pretty bad father

He knocked up his neighbors wife

he got her husband killed

His kids turned against him

One of his wives ended up detesting him

 

Paul was an arrogant cocky man of power

paul persecuted the church killing many

Paul was untrusted by the disciples

Paul was tormented demonically

Paul was shipwrecked, whipped, beaten, stoned, imprisoned, robbed, argued with, falsely accused… Bitten by snakes and cursed

 

all of these men learned how to rely on God in the good, the bad (and there was lots of it) and the ugly.

God will take care of you.