The Derelict Podcast

What happens when a bestselling author and military veteran sits down with a father navigating pain, purpose, and personal growth?In this honest, no-BS episode, Geoff Michael Hopf joins Josh for a deep dive into the topics too many men avoid:Masculinity in today’s worldHealing without losing your edgeFatherhood without a modelWhy faith matters when everything else failsWhether you’re a man searching for meaning, a father doing his best, or just someone tired of surface-level conversations—this one hits deep.👇 Geoff brings the wisdom. Josh brings the fire. Together, they bring the truth.⭐ 5 Key Takeaways:1. You can’t heal what you won’t face. Josh's story shows how confronting trauma is the first step toward transformation.2. Fatherhood is a decision, not just a role. It’s about presence, not perfection.3. Being a man doesn’t mean being closed off. Real masculinity includes emotional depth and empathy.4. Faith gave Josh purpose when nothing else made sense. Surrendering helped him step into strength.5. Consistency is king. Growth doesn’t happen overnight—it happens when you keep showing up.▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬🔗 Join the conversation and uncover real growth and healing.👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬⏱️ Timestamps:00:00 – Intro: Meet Geoff Michael Hopf04:15 – Why masculinity is under fire—and misunderstood09:40 – Josh on growing up fatherless & angry15:50 – Geoff’s military background and leadership lessons21:25 – The price of suppressing pain as a man30:10 – Faith as foundation: Why “The Big Boss” matters38:00 – Fatherhood: Showing up without a blueprint45:55 – Masculine energy vs. cultural confusion54:20 – Emotional courage & being honest with yourself1:04:00 – Final thoughts: “You are not your wounds—unless you stay in them.”

This isn’t a celebrity spotlight or a highlight reel—this is a story about a man who hit the edge... and climbed back stronger.In this raw, no-filter conversation, we dive deep into how pain becomes purpose, how discipline rebuilds identity, and how fatherhood becomes the fight worth staying in.🧠 If you’ve ever felt lost, angry, or like you weren’t enough—this episode will speak straight to you. It’s not about hype. It’s about honesty.👇 The transformation is real. The message is strong. The man? You’ll find out.▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬🔗 Join the conversation and uncover real growth and healing.👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬⭐ 5 Key Takeaways:1. You don’t need to be perfect—you need to be real.Most men think they have to “get it all together” before they can show up as leaders, fathers, or partners. But in this episode, the message is clear: your power comes from honesty, not performance. Owning your flaws and showing up anyway is what makes you trustworthy and strong—not pretending you're bulletproof.2. The pain you’re hiding from is probably the path.The conversation digs deep into how running from emotional pain only prolongs it. Both men talk about the moments they had to confront old wounds—fatherlessness, anger, abandonment—and how facing those things head-on led to personal breakthroughs. Pain isn’t the enemy—it’s the invitation to heal.3. Men don’t heal in silence—they heal in truth.This episode challenges the toxic silence men often keep. Vulnerability, often seen as weakness, is reframed as the gateway to real transformation. When men speak their truth—not to complain, but to own it—they unlock real strength and begin to reconnect with their authentic selves.4. Discipline is the ultimate form of self-respect.One of the most practical takeaways: discipline isn’t about punishment—it’s about protection. Discipline creates the structure that allows a man to become who he’s meant to be. It’s a way to show up for yourself and those you lead, even when motivation fades.5. Fatherhood is a second chance to rewrite your story.Whether you had a father or not, this conversation shows that how you parent is your chance to break cycles. The guest talks openly about how he learned to lead and love his children without ever being shown how. That journey proves that the man you become is not limited by the man who raised you.Timestamps:00:00 – The moment everything broke04:00 – Why most men are lying to themselves09:20 – Pain, trauma & the turning point15:15 – The father wound & building a new legacy21:50 – What real discipline does to your soul28:45 – Becoming the man you needed as a kid36:00 – Faith, masculinity & emotional strength44:50 – The myth of perfection56:40 – The Standard You Set as a Man1:01:30 – Advice to the Next Generation of Men1:13:00 – Last Words That Stick

🧠 What if everything you thought you knew about God, religion, and purpose… was incomplete?In this soul-searching episode, Josh sits down with Nathan Hoffman (a.k.a. the Jewish Tony Robbins) to discuss what it really means to go through a spiritual awakening—especially as a man in transition.Raised secular, Nathan became observant later in life, while Josh shares his story of deconstructing faith and rebuilding a relationship with God on his own terms. Together, they explore why so many men struggle with spirituality, how ego and shame get in the way, and what true connection with a higher power can actually look like.Whether you’ve left religion behind or are just beginning your spiritual journey, this conversation will challenge, inspire, and invite you to ask deeper questions about who you are and why you’re here.🔍 What You’ll Learn:What a spiritual awakening really is (and isn’t)Why middle-aged men often feel empty despite successHow rules, structure, and freedom can coexist in faithThe dangers of living the same 6 months on repeatHow to start discovering your mission and divine purpose📩 DM "ALIGNMENT" to Nathan on Instagram @nhoffmanonlyupfor his free Purpose-Finding Exercise — a tool to help you identify what you love, what you’re good at, what the world needs, and how to get paid for it.👉 Drop a comment if you’ve been through a divorce. Let’s talk about it.🔥 LIKE & SUBSCRIBE for more real talk about growth, healing, and rebuilding your life!▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Connect with Nathan on instagram👇: https://www.instagram.com/nhoffmanonlyup▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬🔗 Join the conversation and uncover real growth and healing.👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📌 Timestamps00:00 – 05:00Intro —from religion to rebellion to rediscovery05:00 – 13:00Nathan’s story: secular upbringing, vision of death, and the start of spiritual seeking13:00 – 21:00The emptiness of success and searching for meaning21:00 – 30:00Relationship Rules — reframing faith as connection, not control30:00 – 38:00Why most men avoid spiritual conversations38:00 – 45:00How to start your mission and find purpose in the pain45:00 – 53:00Final reflections: legacy, God, and how to stop sleepwalking through lif

🍎 Tired of diet culture, food guilt, and feeling like you're constantly failing at health?In this raw and real episode, Josh sits down with Shar—a former burnt-out IT project manager turned perimenopause & fat-loss coach—to break down the real reasons why so many of us struggle with food, body image, and mindset.Shar shares her journey from restrictive dieting and burnout to discovering macronutrition, balance, and food freedom. Together, they explore why most diets fail, how to rewire your relationship with food, and why shame around eating is more harmful than food itself.This isn’t just about fat loss—it’s about breaking free from self-sabotage, healing old patterns, and reclaiming joy in the way we fuel our lives.🧠 What You’ll Learn:Why “cheat days” and strict diets backfireHow emotional eating often starts in childhoodThe connection between ADHD, addiction, and food controlThe power of macro tracking without guiltWhy mindset is more important than meal plans📲 DM "GUIDE" to @designedbyshar on Instagramto get her Ultimate Fat Loss Blueprint – a flexible, sustainable, and shame-free approach to nutrition.👉 Drop a comment if you’ve been through a divorce. Let’s talk about it.🔥 LIKE & SUBSCRIBE for more real talk about growth, healing, and rebuilding your life!▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Connect with Shar on instagram👇: https://www.instagram.com/designedbyshar▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬🔗 Join the conversation and uncover real growth and healing.👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📌 Timestamps00:00 – 03:00Intro — why Shar is on the podcast and the shared mission of breaking unhealthy cycles03:00 – 08:00Shar’s backstory: burnout in corporate life and the wake-up call from her son08:00 – 14:00Ditching fad diets: discovering macros, food flexibility, and freedom14:00 – 20:00Perimenopause, gaslighting by doctors, and reclaiming hormonal health20:00 – 27:00Food as a servant or master: emotional eating, mindset shifts, and client stories27:00 – 33:00Why "cheat days" and binge cycles keep you stuck in shame33:00 – 39:00The link between ADHD, addiction, and overconsumption patterns39:00 – 44:00Reframing beliefs, identity shifts, and creating sustainable self-compassion

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In this raw and revealing episode, two divorced dads—Josh and guest Mike Huber—have a no-BS conversation about what it's like to navigate fatherhood, vulnerability, and identity after divorce.

From toxic silence to emotional recovery, they expose the invisible weight many men carry, and why so many suffer alone. Mike also opens up about his past struggles with addiction, building a new life, and becoming the kind of support he never had as a kid.

This isn’t just a talk about divorce—it’s about self-worth, masculine identity, and showing up when it counts.

👉 Drop a comment if you’ve been through a divorce. Let’s talk about it.🔥

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5 Key Takeaways:

1️⃣ Most Men Suffer in SilenceWhether it's fatherhood, divorce, or mental health, many men avoid vulnerability out of fear of being judged—especially by those closest to them.

2️⃣ Youth Sports Are a Pressure CookerToday’s young athletes face intense performance pressure, both internally and from parents. Many don’t have the emotional tools to cope—and that's where mentorship matters.

3️⃣ Strangers Feel Safer Than FriendsIt’s often easier for men to open up to strangers (like in recovery rooms or on podcasts) than with their own friends or family, where fear of rejection runs deep.

4️⃣ Divorce Isn’t Just a Breakup—It’s Identity CollapseDivorce can unravel a man’s identity, self-worth, and community. Healing requires more than time—it requires presence, ownership, and grace.

5️⃣ Be Kind to YourselfThe biggest shift begins with self-compassion. Without it, the healing process stalls. Being kind to yourself is not weakness—it’s emotional strength in action.

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📌 Timestamps

00:00 – 03:30Introduction, fatherhood pressures, and sports culture

03:30 – 10:00Mike’s childhood: lack of fatherly support and inner struggles

10:00 – 18:00Why today’s youth athletes are under more pressure than ever

18:00 – 27:00The cost of emotional isolation for men and kids

27:00 – 38:00Vulnerability with strangers vs. inner circle discomfort

38:00 – 47:00Divorce during COVID and the silent suffering of men

47:00 – 55:00

Being judged vs. being seen, and redefining masculinity

55:00 – 1:01:00Final thoughts: self-compassion, showing up, and building the support you never had

In this deeply personal episode, Jessica opens up about a chapter of her life no girl should ever have to endure — from emotional wounds to moments of complete uncertainty. Together with Josh, she shares how she found the strength to rebuild her life, trust again, and co-create a business from scratch. This is more than just a story of entrepreneurship — it’s about survival, healing, love, and the resilience to turn pain into power. If you’ve ever felt broken or stuck, this conversation will remind you that you’re not alone — and that starting over is possible.👉 Drop a comment if you’ve been through a divorce. Let’s talk about it.🔥 LIKE & SUBSCRIBE for more real talk about growth, healing, and rebuilding your life!▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Connect with Jessica on instagram👇: https://www.instagram.com/jessicalaurenvine▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬🔗 Join the conversation and uncover real growth and healing.👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📌 Timestamps00:00 – 03:15Intro and teaser into Jessica’s emotional journey.03:15 – 09:50Discussion of childhood, identity, and growing up Ugandan-American.09:50 – 17:30Her early career in education and the U.N., leading to burnout.17:30 – 27:30Decision to travel the world and challenges as a Black woman traveler.27:30 – 34:00Struggles with mental health, breakdown, and turning point.34:00 – 41:00Finishing her travel journey and emotional aftermath.41:00 – 51:15Reflections on self-worth, representation, and reclaiming space.51:15 – 1:02:00Turning her travel experiences into a sustainable business.1:02:00 – 1:10:00Personal insights, future vision, and life after global travel.1:10:00 – 1:17:00Listener Q&A and final messages of strength and resilience.

In this deep and real conversation, Josh, Jonathan, and Josh P. break down why vulnerability is not weakness—it's the path to power.They dive into how masculine culture affects men, how to escape victim mentality, the role of gratitude, and why purpose is critical for resilience.If you want stronger relationships, better leadership, and a life you're proud of, this episode will hit you hard in the best way.👉 Drop a comment if you’ve been through a divorce. Let’s talk about it.🔥 LIKE & SUBSCRIBE for more real talk about growth, healing, and rebuilding your life!▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Connect with Jonathan on instagram👇: https://www.instagram.com/jamiemlimaConnect with Josh Passchier on instagram👇: https://www.instagram.com/joshpasschier▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬🔗 Join the conversation and uncover real growth and healing.👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬5 Key Takeaways:🔑 1. Vulnerability Is a Strength, Not a WeaknessThe guys challenge the cultural belief that vulnerability equals weakness. They show that being open and honest is actually what builds deeper trust, connection, and long-term confidence.🔑 2. Your Mindset Shapes Your RealityJosh shares how reframing his defensiveness helped him take ownership without shame. The shift from victim to empowered starts with curiosity, not blame.🔑 3. Purpose Transforms PainThe episode explores how finding your purpose gives meaning to suffering. When your “why” is stronger than your pain, you can endure almost anything with resilience.🔑 4. Growth Happens in DiscomfortSelf-work is hard because it's unfamiliar—just like learning to ride a bike. But as you build emotional “muscle,” things like meditation, journaling, and reflection become transformative tools for change.🔑 5. Gratitude and Service Are Antidotes to SufferingJonathan emphasizes how gratitude can anchor you in tough seasons. When you focus on serving others, you shift from internal struggle to purpose-driven peace.Chapters:00:00 — The Power of VulnerabilityJosh, Jonathan, and Josh P. kick off with why men struggle to open up—and how vulnerability is misjudged as weakness.11:20 — Defensive? Here's What It Really MeansJosh shares a raw moment about being called an "asshole" and how curiosity, not shame, helped him unpack his emotional reaction.22:10 — Self-Work Is Like the GymJonathan compares meditation and emotional growth to building muscle—hard at first, but transformative with consistency.33:45 — The Danger of Outgrowing Your PartnerThe guys get brutally honest about relationships: what happens when one partner grows and the other doesn’t?44:10 — Purpose is greater than PainThe trio dives into how having a mission or purpose makes suffering tolerable—and often necessary for transformation

Divorce can wreck your finances if you don’t know what you’re doing. In this episode, Josh sits down with Jamie, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, to uncover the brutal truth about how divorce impacts your money. From tax implications to splitting assets, we’re covering everything you need to know to avoid financial disaster.🔥 What You’ll Learn In This Episode:✔️ Why dividing assets 50/50 is NEVER that simple.✔️ The biggest financial mistakes people make during divorce.✔️ Why attorneys often get the numbers wrong.✔️ How to properly value assets and avoid financial traps.✔️ Why most divorced men go broke—and how to stop it.🚨 If you’re going through a divorce or recovering from one, this episode will save you from financial ruin.👉 Drop a comment if you’ve been through a divorce. Let’s talk about it.🔥 LIKE & SUBSCRIBE for more real talk about growth, healing, and rebuilding your life!▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Connect with Jamie on instagram👇: https://www.instagram.com/jamiemlimaConnect with Jamie here👇: allegiantds.com▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬🔗 Join the conversation and uncover real growth and healing.👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬5 Key Takeaways:1️⃣ Dividing Assets 50/50 Is Not Always FairMost people think a 50/50 split is the simplest solution during a divorce. But Jamie explains why this is a huge mistake, especially when assets like 401(k)s and real estate are involved. Taxes and valuations play a major role, and failing to account for them can leave you financially ruined.2️⃣ Financial Knowledge Is Critical During DivorceAttorneys may be great at legal matters, but they often lack expertise in financial planning. Jamie highlights the importance of hiring financial experts like Certified Divorce Financial Analysts (CDFAs) to properly value assets and structure settlements to avoid devastating financial consequences.3️⃣ Building 'Team You' Is EssentialGoing through a divorce is exhausting, mentally, emotionally, and financially. Creating ‘Team You’—a trusted network of professionals and emotional support systems—is the key to surviving the process. This includes financial planners, attorneys, coaches, friends, and therapists.4️⃣ Divorce Is A Traumatic EventJamie emphasizes that divorce is more than just a legal process; it’s a traumatic life event that requires time, support, and healing. Trying to handle everything alone is a major mistake. Instead, seeking help and support can make all the difference.5️⃣ Honesty And Transparency MatterAttempting to hide assets or manipulate finances during divorce rarely works and usually backfires. Jamie explains why being transparent and working with experts to handle the financial complexities is the best approach. Trying to be sneaky only leads to worse outcomes.Chapter:📌 00:00 - Intro & Financial Disasters From Divorce📌 04:12 - Divorce And Childhood Trauma📌 10:05 - Financial Struggles During Divorce📌 15:40 - Why Most Divorced Men Go Broke📌 22:18 - Why 50/50 Asset Splits Are Misleading📌 28:00 - Understanding Taxes And Valuations📌 33:45 - How To Create ‘Team You’ During Divorce📌 40:12 - Lessons From Financially Surviving Divorce📌 46:55 - Final Thoughts & Advice For Divorced Men

In this eye-opening episode, Josh sits down with UK-based certified Jungian life coach Annabel Lane to explore why so many marriages end in heartbreak. They dive deep into societal expectations, the clash of masculine and feminine energy, and the unconscious triggers that cause relationships to crumble.🔥 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ Why most marriages fail and the role of unbalanced energy.✔️ The overwhelming pressure of societal expectations.✔️ How masculine and feminine energy affect relationships.✔️ What it truly takes to rebuild yourself after divorce.✔️ The importance of confronting your shadow self.👉 Leave a comment if you’ve been through a divorce or relationship breakdown. Let’s have an honest conversation.🔥 LIKE & SUBSCRIBE for more deep and real discussions about growth, healing, and relationships!▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Free coaching call with Annabel here👇:https://calendly.com/annabellane/30minFree Resources from Annabel here👇: https://bio.site/annabel_laneConnect with Annabel on Instagram👇:https://www.instagram.com/iamannabellane▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬🔗 Join the discussion and gain insights into self-growth, boundaries, and the art of recovery.👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬✅ 5 Key Takeaways:1️⃣ Why Most Marriages FailMany marriages fail because partners are forced into unnatural roles due to societal expectations. Women feel pressured to adopt masculine traits, and men are expected to suppress their masculinity. This misalignment creates tension that often leads to relationship breakdowns.2️⃣ The Pressure of Societal ExpectationsBoth men and women face unrealistic expectations about what their roles should be. This pressure to “do it all” results in exhaustion, resentment, and ultimately, failed relationships.3️⃣ Reconnecting With Your True SelfDivorce often leaves people feeling lost and disconnected. Rebuilding after divorce requires acknowledging the parts of yourself you’ve neglected and allowing your true self to emerge.4️⃣ Understanding Your TriggersTriggers reveal what lies within your shadow — the parts of yourself that have been suppressed. Identifying these triggers is essential for true healing and growth.5️⃣ Failure Is Not The EndDivorce doesn’t define you. Instead, it can be a powerful opportunity for transformation and creating the life you truly want.✅ Chapters (Titles Only):📌 00:00 - Intro & Why Most Marriages Fail📌 06:45 - Societal Expectations & Relationship Pressure📌 15:30 - Masculine & Feminine Energy Clashes📌 25:10 - Why Trying To Make It Work Often Fails📌 34:45 - Rebuilding After Divorce📌 43:00 - Recognizing & Healing Triggers📌 52:20 - Final Thoughts & Call To Action

Letting go of something you poured your soul into is HARD. In this episode, Austin, creator of The Failure Podcast, talks about why he shut down his show despite its success. 💀 He reveals the emotional and mental toll of running a podcast while managing three coffee shops, fatherhood, and personal growth.🔥 What You'll Learn in This Episode:✔️ The hidden cost of chasing success at all costs.✔️ Why shutting down The Failure Podcast was the most freeing decision of his life.✔️ How to balance ambition with mental health and family.✔️ The importance of embracing discomfort to grow.✔️ Why quitting something doesn’t always mean failure.🚨 If you’ve ever felt trapped by your own ambitions, this episode is a must-watch.👉 Drop a comment if you’ve ever felt lost chasing success. Let’s talk.🔥 LIKE & SUBSCRIBE for more real and raw conversations about growth, failure, and healing!▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬🔗 Join the conversation and uncover real growth and healing.👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬5 Key Takeaways:1️⃣ Shutting down a project isn’t always failure—it’s often growth.Sometimes, quitting is the most powerful move you can make. Austin explains why he chose to end The Failure Podcast despite its success. Letting go of a project you love can be painful, but it can also be the first step toward real growth and clarity. It’s about making room for new opportunities and prioritizing what truly matters.2️⃣ Balancing passion projects and family is HARD but necessary.Austin dives deep into the struggles of balancing multiple businesses, fatherhood, and running a podcast. When passion becomes a burden, the cost can be too high. Learn how he recognized the signs of burnout and decided to prioritize family and mental health over everything else.3️⃣ Quitting doesn’t have to mean giving up on your dreams—it can be a step toward clarity.We often see quitting as failure, but Austin’s story shows how letting go can actually be a strategic move. By stepping away from The Failure Podcast, he was able to focus his energy on personal growth and clarity. Sometimes, moving forward requires taking a step back.4️⃣ Real growth comes from running toward discomfort, not away from it.Austin emphasizes how discomfort is necessary for true growth. Whether it's making tough decisions or embracing your own limitations, the willingness to confront discomfort head-on can be the key to unlocking your full potential.5️⃣ Finding freedom sometimes means letting go.Letting go of something you once loved can be liberating. Austin shares how choosing to quit allowed him to reclaim his time, mental health, and creativity. It’s a lesson in understanding that freedom sometimes requires sacrifice.Chapters:📌 00:00 - Intro & Why Austin Quit The Failure Podcast📌 06:45 - The Cost of Chasing Success📌 15:30 - Passion Projects vs. Personal Life📌 25:10 - Why Quitting Isn’t Always Failure📌 34:45 - Mental Health & Self-Reflection📌 43:00 - Rediscovering Purpose & Letting Go📌 52:20 - The Discomfort of Growth📌 1:01:00 - Lessons Learned & Moving Forward📌 1:12:30 - Advice for Creators & Entrepreneurs📌 1:30:50 - Final Thoughts & Call to Action📌 1:41:00 - Outro & What’s Next