We all know the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day. The one where your brain is foggy, your patience is short, and everything feels like trudging through mud.

Bad days aren’t proof of failure. They’re proof of being human. The question isn’t how do we fix them? but how do we move with them without unraveling? How do we allow our diverse thinking to still flourish?

In this reflection, I explore:

• Why bad days don’t make you inconsistent

• How to build flexibility into your routines

• Small swaps that keep you nourished and grounded when the plan falls apart

• What it means to hold space for storms without shame

This isn’t a pep-talk episode. It’s a reminder that consistency is not perfection—it’s resilience.

✨ Takeaways:

• Consistency = flexibility

• Bad days are part of the human rhythm

• Don’t toss progress because of one off-day

• Build margin, not just goals

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If overthinking got out of the way, you’d meet the rawest version of me. The silly, goofy side. The kid-like wonder that gets hyped over a perfectly seasoned fry or a new leaf on my plant.

For a long time, I believed those parts of me had no place in “professionalism” or even manhood. I learned to tone them down because joy made me feel exposed. But those very quirks—the excitements and sensitivities—have been the bridges that connect me to people and remind me that I belong.

This episode is me letting you in. Not the polished, “always put together” me. But the real me—unguarded, corny, wide-eyed, and hungry to see wonder in the world.

Because I’m learning that hiding my rawest form doesn’t just make me smaller—it makes my impact smaller too. And I think the same is true for all of us.

Sometimes, the freeze comes right after the fire.You’re lit up. Inspired. You can see your next steps so clearly…And then—nothing.

Our shadow self—the part of us carrying old fears and unprocessed grief—often steps in right when we’re ready to leap. It’s not there to ruin us. It’s there to shield us from a pain we still don’t know how to hold. The trouble is, that protection can look a lot like procrastination, perfectionism, or paralysis.

This week, I talk about tracing my own shadow back to childhood losses, realizing it wasn’t my enemy—it was my bodyguard. By asking, “What are you trying to protect me from?” I’ve been able to move forward with all of me—not just the bold, eager parts.

This isn’t a fight against yourself. Rather it’s an invitation to bring every part of you to the table. When you do, the work feels less like a battle and more like a conversation.

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Key Takeaways:

* Stuckness can be your brain’s safety system, not a sign you’re broken.

* Shadows carry the memory of past pain—even if your conscious mind has moved on.

* Asking your shadow what it’s protecting you from can open doors to healing.

* Integration beats opposition—move forward with all of you.

Listen in if you’ve ever:

* Felt momentum stall for “no reason”

* Wanted to understand the link between fear, safety, and stuckness

* Needed a gentler way to move through your shadow work

You don’t owe anyone aesthetics that don’t feel like home. We catch up with slow fashion advocate and pattern designer, Alexis Bailey. We talk about identity, style, and the courage it takes to stop shrinking for other people’s comfort. We talk about the transformation that comes from yes to opportunities before being fully ready and to discovering voice through style and simplicity. Alexis invites us into her world of comfort clothing and self-expression. Follow her on Instagram @wearweregoing and Substack: Wear We're Going.

We talk:

* How clothing can reconnect you with your true self

* What it means to design from intention, not impulse

* Why finding your people gives you permission to thrive

* The link between ADHD diagnosis, awareness, and accountability

* And how naming your needs (and neurodivergence) can change your life

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Takeaways:

* Authenticity starts with knowing your center

* Diagnosis is not a crutch—it’s a compass

* Fashion can be a healing practice

* You don’t have to be loud to be bold

* The right community makes self-expression sustainable

We forget that it doesn’t have to be perfect to begin. Najee unpacks the idea of the minimum viable product—a concept from product management that applies to every creative, dreamer, and builder. The goal isn’t to settle. The goal is to release the heart of your vision now, without letting the pressure of “perfect” keep you stuck.

When we reconnect with our why, we remove the barriers we put in our own way. You’re invited to name your why, identify the smallest version of your dream that still carries its essence, and give yourself permission to begin—imperfect and present.

If you’ve been holding your vision hostage to optimization and perfection, this is your reminder: start where you are, with what you have, today.

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Key Takeaways:

* Your why is your anchor when the what feels too heavy.

* The smallest version of your dream still has the impact.

* Perfection is a barrier, not a prerequisite.

Start your dream, overcome creative perfectionism, reconnect with why.

It’s easy to believe we’ll feel fulfilled once we hit that milestone, finish the project, or finally “arrive.” But life keeps showing us that joy, peace, and fulfillment aren’t found in the hustle—they’re here, now.

In this episode, I talk about what it means to stop treating life like a crisis to fix. To release the silent, restless demand to “figure it out” and remember: you are not a living emergency—you are life itself.

I share reminders from athletes like Scottie Scheffler, Shaq, artist Latto, and poets like Jaiya John, who all point to the same truth: the real win isn’t just in the risk and the work—it’s in the now.

Takeaways:

* The pressure to produce is not your identity.

* Joy and peace are available before the goal is reached.

* The discernment between pressing and pausing is key to fulfillment.

Let this episode remind you to live as you work—not work to live.

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Keywords: self-love, presence, fulfillment, Black creatives, neurodivergent dreamers, slowing down, joy, ambition, balance

Hyper-awareness is a gift—until it turns into hyper-fixation. This conversation dives into the thin line between being self-aware enough to grow and being so critical that you suffocate your creativity and your joy.

I reflect on what it costs us to stay stuck in our heads, always analyzing, never applauding. And I walk you through 5 soulful tools to quiet your inner critic, ground yourself in gratitude, and collect the evidence of your brilliance so you can keep showing up as you are—while you grow into who you’re becoming.

Your dream deserves your belief more than your perfection. And so do you.

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Takeaways:

* The danger of turning self-awareness into self-sabotage

* 5 tools to reframe and reclaim your self-talk

* Why self-celebration is part of the strategy

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We can define and refine anything into chef’s kiss perfection. But too often, we turn that same critical eye inward—and it keeps us stuck. In this reflection, Najee unpacks how hyper self-awareness can spiral into imposter syndrome, second-guessing, and shrinking your own light. From overthinking drafts to doubting your worth, we name the quiet traps we fall into when we “know ourselves” a little too well. If you’ve ever struggled to rest, receive, or release your work because you’re too focused on fixing yourself first, this one’s for you.Takeaways:

* Hyper self-awareness can masquerade as growth but actually undermine confidence.

* Imposter syndrome often starts with over-focusing on flaws.

* Over-editing yourself erases your personality, edge, and authenticity.

* You are already enough—and worthy of showing up now.

* Awareness is healthy when balanced with self-acceptance.

Keywords:self-awareness trap, imposter syndrome, inner critic, perfectionism, hyper-vigilance, overthinking, confidence, Black creatives, neurodivergent dreamers, self-acceptance, healing, creative momentum, visibility, authenticity

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For those with gold in the drafts, but your finger won’t hit post?

Najee shares how one simple question moved him past fears, doubts, and insecurities just long enough to take small actions towards a big dream.

This episode is a call to reclaim our courage, post the thing, say the truth, take the step—and build trust with ourselves again. Creating is more complicated than ‘content’ when we’re putting out parts of ourselves into it. Pressing publish, visibility, is vulnerable.

But..

What if we don’t need to be fearless? What if we don’t need the perfect setup or the perfect confidence? What if five seconds of bravery is enough to change everything?

What we cover in this episode:

* Why talent has nothing to do with visibility struggles

* The tenderness of releasing work that holds your story

* How shrinking for peace slowly erodes your momentum

* Why safety sometimes becomes the ceiling

* The power of five seconds of bravery

* What confidence really is (spoiler: it’s just evidence)

Mentioned in this episode:

* The “Five Seconds of Bravery” mindset

* Ghosting your own growth

* Reclaiming your voice from fear

* Letting go of control in the creative process

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In this episode of The Divergent Dreamer, I reflect on Michael Cooper Jr.’s powerful portrayal of a Black boy with ADHD in Netflix’s Forever and why it matters.

We talk representation, rejection sensitivity dysphoria, and the emotional weight of living with a divergent mind in a world that doesn’t always see the full story.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt misunderstood, misdiagnosed, or mislabeled. ADHD doesn’t just impact focus. It touches love, trust, creativity, confidence, and how we see our worth.

You’ll hear about:

* What Forever got right about neurodivergence

* How rejection sensitivity shows up in the body

* Why representation in Black families and mental health matters

* The grief, joy, and magic of dreaming vividly in a world not built for you

* And how knowledge can become a form of freedom

If you’ve ever wondered if your story is valid—this one’s for you.

Keywords: Black neurodivergent creatives, ADHD in Black boys, rejection sensitivity dysphoria, Netflix Forever show, Michael Cooper Jr., Black mental health, neurodivergence podcast, Divergent Dreamer, ADHD and identity, emotional representation on screen