In this episode of the School of Self-Image podcast, Tonta Leigh discusses the "dos and don'ts" of living a charmed life, inspired by a quote from Neil Donald Walsh. She encourages listeners to be the source of charm in the lives of others and to make everyone they touch feel lucky for crossing paths with them. Tanya also shares some anecdotes from her personal life, including hosting family and training for her first pickleball tournament. Finally, she reminds listeners that it's the little things in everyday life that can bring the most joy.   [00:03:35] Living a charmed life. [00:04:33] The meaning of 'charm'.  [00:06:20] SOSI South.  [00:13:01] Being a Giver, not a taker.   [00:16:51] Impress yourself.   [00:21:13] Stop focusing on the unattractive.   [00:25:03] Don't sweat the small stuff.    [00:29:29] Slowing down for a charmed life.   Quotes:  Charm means the power of giving delight or arousing admiration to achieve something as if by magic. Life gives to the giver and takes from the taker. Live to impress yourself. Another thing to do if you want to live a charmed life is to unplug from the unattractive. Charm and complaining don't go together. But the other beautiful thing about slowing down is that you begin to realize that life can only be as beautiful as you make this moment."   Useful Resources:    Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join     FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/     Join us at SOSI South!:  http://schoolofselfimage.com/south   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:     Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com     Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial     TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh       YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

338: The Dos and Don'ts of a Charmed Life

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 Transforming Your Relationship with Food and Exercise: Insights from Laura Hinton  Weight loss can be achieved by changing our eating habits and our relationship with food, rather than fixating on strict diets and clean eating. Laura Hinton shares her journey with Tonya Leigh of losing 50 pounds by shifting her mindset around food. She stressed that she didn't have to eat only "clean" or "good for you" foods to lose weight. Instead, she focused on consuming the same foods she had been eating but in moderation and with a fresh perspective.  Laura's story underscores the importance of impartial evaluation and self-acceptance when it comes to food choices. She mentioned transitioning from self-judgment to self-love, which ultimately yielded more effective results in her weight loss journey. By approaching food with love and grace, she was able to make sustainable changes without feeling deprived or restricted.  When individuals shift their focus from self-criticism to self-acceptance, they are more likely to make healthier choices, listen to their bodies, and approach weight loss from a place of empowerment rather than punishment. This shift in mindset can lead to enduring results and a more positive relationship with food, exercise, and self-image. The 3 Big Weight Loss Myths: Myth #1: Clean Eating for Weight Loss Myth #2: Exercise Intensity and Weight Loss Myth #3: Self-Criticism and Weight Loss  Talking  Points: 00:51 Weight loss myths debunked. 05:44 Body image and weight struggles. 10:31 Society of immediate gratification. 14:47 Surprising lessons from weight loss. 17:43 Relationship with food changes. 26:05 Liberation from food obsession. 29:26 Debunking clean eating myth. 34:58 Exercise mindset and expectations. 38:35 Exercise as punishment mindset. 43:05 Self-love and weight loss. Quotes:  "But the really pivotal moment was when I got engaged and that was 2008.  I suddenly had this fear and panic that I was going to be fat, quote unquote, for my wedding."  "We want the quick fix now. We want to lose weight by the wedding. We want to lose weight by bikini season. And we have just set ourself up for this toxic cycle of white knuckling."  "So 100%, the most surprising thing to me was that I'm in charge of the way that I feel."  "Well, I think the biggest thing that changed for me in terms of my relationship with food is that food is no longer a source of comfort."  "There aren't good or bad foods. There's just food."  "In a way, it was like a dopamine hit. It was fun for the first day or two thinking about this new diet that may work."  "You can still have pizza, but instead of eating half the pizza, we're gonna have two slices and see how that goes."  "So many people, especially in the diet industry, they use exercise as a form of punishment."  "Yeah, it makes me think of one of my favorite Abraham quotes where they say, there is no happy ending to an unhappy journey." Useful Resources: Sign Up for the Slim Secret Webinar: https://schoolofselfimage.com/slim Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial   

388: 3 Weight Loss Myths Debunked with Laura Hinton

 Unlocking Lasting Peace with Your Body  Success should be judged beyond the scale and dress size. This episode emphasizes the importance of redefining how we measure success with our bodies. Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh highlights that relying solely on the scale or dress size as indicators of success can be detrimental to our overall well-being. Instead, she encourages listeners to shift their focus towards how they feel emotionally and physically.  Tonya shares her personal journey of struggling with weight and body image issues, where she found herself trapped in a cycle of using external measurements to determine her worth. She explains that tying success to a number on the scale can lead to feelings of discouragement, fear, and obsession. By shifting the focus to how we feel each day and how our bodies feel, we can create a more sustainable and fulfilling approach to body success.   Join Tonya as she delves into finding beauty and joy in life, beyond the numbers on a scale.  Talking Points: 02:25 Finding peace with your body. 10:18 - Rethinking Body Success Measurement 15:28 - Creating Intrinsic Body Success 18:10 - Embracing Imperfection and Gratitude 21:01 - Choosing Definitions of Body Success Quotes:  "If you even look at the definition of the word slim, it's to rid of the excess, to slim down."  "We have a limited amount of energy and how much of yours is going into obsessing, hating, resisting, trying so hard to lose weight?"  "I have this belief that we're successful even when we fail, if we use those failures to grow us."  "You'll never feel better when you've set up your world and your paradigm that you can only feel good if you look a certain way."  "Wait, W-A-I-T, leads to wait, W-E-I-G-H-T. It's time to stop waiting to feel better."  "You're not here to be perfect. You're here to enjoy your life, to enjoy your body, to learn and to grow."    Useful Resources: Sign Up for the Slim Secret Webinar: https://schoolofselfimage.com/secret Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial   

Ep 387: Body Success Beyond the Scale

 Illuminating Your Path: The Decision Switch in Action  Making decisions is essential for moving forward in life and creating change. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of making decisions to break free from feeling stuck and to propel oneself towards desired outcomes. She discusses how indecision can keep individuals in a state of paralysis, preventing them from progressing in life. She also highlights that decisions, whether big or small, play a crucial role in shaping the trajectory of one's life and influencing the overall experience.  This episode underscores the transformative power of making decisions and highlights how each choice, no matter how small, can have a significant impact on one's life journey. By embracing the decision-making process and being willing to step into the unknown, individuals can break free from stagnation, create positive change, and ultimately shape a more fulfilling and purposeful life.  Talking Points:  00:42 - The Decision Switch Concept 02:22 - Reasons for Decision Paralysis 04:38 - Overthinking and Perfectionism in Decisions 05:45 - External Pressures Impacting Decisions 07:53 - Worry and Business 08:15 - Breaking Connections with Old Self 09:41 - Team Dynamics and Decision Confidence 11:59 - Stop Self-Criticism 14:38 - Personal Decision to Build a House 17:50 - Clarity After Making Decisions 18:12 - Relationship Decisions: Stay or Go 19:05 - Comfort in Indecision 19:37 - Removing Right or Wrong from Decisions 23:00 - Investing in Personal Growth  Quotes:  "People fear losing things more than they get excited about gaining things."  "I literally said out loud, I am no longer available to worry about my business. It is not even an option."  "What is the decision switch that you need to make in your life right now?"  "It was like, oh, now I am a homeowner. Now I am adulting officially. And it was the best feeling."  "Either way, just switch the light on. That's what decisions do. They turn the light on so you can see what your next steps are."  "There is no right or wrong decisions that we will make from a place of wanting the best for ourselves."  "It is done. Now, can you learn something from it? 100%."  Useful Resources:   Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join   FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/   Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial     

386: The Decision Switch

 From Stuck to Unstoppable: Strategies for Personal Breakthroughs  To overcome feeling stuck, it is crucial to provide your brain with clarity and direction. In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of giving clear instructions and goals to your brain. She shares that when she felt stuck while recording the episode, it was because she lacked the direction and clarity needed to move forward.  Tonya also stresses the significance of setting extraordinary goals to combat feeling stuck. Many individuals struggle with this because they have not determined what they truly want. By establishing clear and specific goals, individuals can give their brains a sense of purpose and direction, enabling them to progress and break free from feeling stuck.   Tonya highlights how perfectionism can hinder progress and steal time. By letting go of the need to be perfect and focusing on taking action, individuals can overcome the fear of imperfection, make decisions, and move forward in their personal and professional lives.  Join Tonya as she delves into why we get stuck and how to move forward with purpose and intention.  Talking Points:  01:24 - Clarity and Direction for Getting Unstuck 02:18 - Choosing an Extraordinary Goal 03:42 - Discomfort of Change  07:21 - Acceptance and Authenticity 08:03 - The Trap of Perfectionism 09:07 - Embracing Where You Are 10:00 - The Analogy of Water Skiing 11:46 - Letting Go of the Rope 13:22 - Creating Desired Feelings 14:48 - Moving Towards Desired Emotions   Quotes:  "You don't know what you're trying to create. And the reason why the majority of you don't know is because you're afraid of the answer."  "Perfectionism will not only steal your time, it will steal your life."  "But if I've learned anything, the world doesn't want the perfect version of you. They want the real you."  "The way to get unstuck is to let go of the rope. Let go for a minute and just relax."  "Done is better than perfect" Useful Resources:   Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join   FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/   Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit     Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial          

385: How to Get Unstuck

 How Your Environment Shapes Your Self-Image  Let's delve into the psychology of space and how our environments can shape our self-image. Tonya shares personal experiences of how different homes she has lived in reflect her inner world and how she uses her spaces to evolve her own self-image. She discusses the importance of using our spaces intentionally to change how we feel and see ourselves. By making small changes in our homes, we can align our spaces with who we want to become. She also emphasizes the power of using our spaces as tools for personal growth and transformation. Overall, the episode highlights the significance of our environments in influencing our self-image and provides practical tips for using our spaces to support our personal development journey.  Talking Points:   00:00:00 - Introduction to the Psychology of Space   00:05:30 - Reflecting on the Story of Different Homes   00:10:38 - Personal Style and Home Decor Preferences   00:15:04 - Using Spaces to Change Self-Image   00:18:39 - Bridging the Gap Between Current Space and Desired Self-Image   00:22:17 - Blooming in Your Current Space   Quotes:  "Our environments are shaping us and we shape our environments."  "Our homes are more than just physical spaces. They are literally mirrors that reflect our inner world."  "Red is very fiery, very passionate. And let me tell you, that was me. And not in a good way."  "If you want to see yourself as a woman who is fit and healthy, imagine what her kitchen looks like. Imagine what her pantry looks like." "I'm going to clean this up and I'm going to organize it. And I'm going to keep it that way to send the message to my brain of this is who I am." Useful Resources:   Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join   FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/   Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit     Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:   Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial        

338: The Dos and Don'ts of a Charmed Life

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