If you've done therapy, read the books, listened to the podcasts and still find yourself reacting the same way under pressure…this episode is for you.

Today I'm beginning a new mini-series that feels like a return home.

For years, the foundation of my work was the mind.

Understanding it. Working with it. Training it. Rewiring it.

Over time, my teaching expanded into relationships, emotional intelligence, energetics, and embodiment. And yet, in this season of my life, navigating stress, transition, love and growth, I find myself returning to the same place.

Inside the mind.

In this episode, I unpack why insight alone was never meant to be enough to help you embody meaningful change (right down to the level of your patterns).

• Insight gives you understanding.

• It helps you name what's happening.

• It can even feel like relief when the light bulb goes on.

These are all good things. But your patterns are not stored in your understanding or comprehension.

Your patterns are stored in your nervous system. They're stored in the habits you repeat. In what your mind and body have practiced over the years. In the automatic way you respond when pressure hits.

And when pressure hits, you don't default to what you understand.

You default to what you're conditioned to do. That's the difference. Conditioning happens slowly, experience by experience, over a lifetime.

And when pressure hits, conditioning wins.

Inside this conversation, I walk you through:

• Why insight feels powerful but doesn't stabilize your reactions

• Where patterns actually live

• Why you lose access to your awareness when you're triggered

• What real transformation requires beyond the "light bulb moment"

• How to begin working with your mind in a concrete, structured way

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This is not about starting over, it's about coming home to yourself with more depth and greater understanding.

If you've felt frustrated that you "know better" but still don't respond any differently under pressure, this episode will meet you exactly where you are.

And if you're navigating something that insight alone hasn't been able to shift, this is the exact work we do at Kiru Psychotherapy.

Reach out if you're ready for support, we're here when you're ready.

Dr. Shyam XO

P.S. If you're ready to go beyond insight and actually retrain the patterns running your life, start with my free masterclass, Inside the Mind.

It will show you exactly what's happening beneath the surface and how to begin shifting it.

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• My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com

• Free Masterclass: Inside the Mind

• 1:1 Support: Cognitive Freedom Program

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My daughter called me the other night via FaceTime.

It was all about a boy, a dilemma, and a conversation she'd had... with ChatGPT.

She read us the entire transcript. Word for word.

The advice was thoughtful. Structured. Strangely familiar. Because it echoed the very guidance I've given her for years. From my book. From our conversations. From my work.

And still, to her, ChatGPT felt clearer. More helpful. More precise.

That moment stayed with me.

Not because the advice was wrong, it wasn't. But because it revealed something deeper about where we're sourcing our wisdom, and why so many are turning toward AI to meet emotional needs that (I believe, in my decades of experience) requires something far more human.

In this episode, I unpack that moment, and the larger shift it signals for all of us.

We explore:

• Why AI is becoming a source of emotional support

• What well-worded advice can't replace

• The gap between resonance and true relationship safety

• What gets lost when guidance isn't rooted in lived experience

• And why embodiment, not information, is the portal to real change

This isn't about resisting innovation. It's about remembering what technology is great at…and what it can never hold.

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If you're navigating something that insight alone hasn't been able to shift, this is the exact work we do at Kiru Psychotherapy.

Reach out if you're ready for support (from humans!)

Dr. Shyam XO

Where to Connect:

• My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com

• Free Masterclass: Inside the Mind

• 1:1 Support: Cognitive Freedom Program

• LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/

• INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

Most of us do our inner work in solitude. We build awareness. We regulate. We deepen into self-trust.

But eventually— life invites us to take that inner work into our relationships. Specifically, into our adult relationships.

This is what I explore in Part Three of The Threshold series: how the emotional mastery I've cultivated privately is showing up inside my partnership, my parenting, and the beautiful complexity of blending families.

This episode is not about theory. It's about practice. About what it means to stay present when you want to disconnect. To choose curiosity in moments of discomfort. To share the responsibility of safety.

Inside, I explore:

• What co-regulation really looks like in adult love

• How two nervous systems shape the quality of connection

• Why presence matters more than perfection

• The moments that turn emotional work into lived healing

If you're on your own path of becoming— and want to show up more fully inside your relationships—this is your episode.

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If this speaks to where you are, The Emotional Reset is the next step.

This private, one-month coaching container helps you regulate your nervous system, reclaim emotional authority, and lead your life—and your relationships—from a place of grounded presence.

Because the version of you who can hold more is already within you. Let's help her take the lead.

EXPLORE AN EMOTIONAL RESET (Private Coaching With Me)

Dr. Shyam XO

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THE FREE PRECIPICE WORKSHOP: https://www.shyamalakiru.com/workshop BOOK AN EMOTIONAL RESET: https://www.shyamalakiru.com/the-intensives

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There's a part of growth we don't talk about enough.

The lag. That uncomfortable, disorienting space between what's changed in your life…and who you know yourself to be.

Even when you've done the work, even when you understand the expansion, your nervous system might still be holding on to the version of you that felt safe.

This isn't resistance. It's protection. And integration is the process of honoring it.

In this episode of the podcast, I'm diving into The Threshold Part 2 and I'm opening up about my own season of growth— and the quiet, messy, embodied work of catching up to your own evolution.

Inside, we explore:

• Why cognitive growth isn't enough (and what your body really needs)

• The biological lag between change and safety

• How identity expands through emotional regulation, not reinvention

• The subtle ways high-achieving women try to control safety

• What integration actually looks like in a woman's life

If you've been feeling the pull toward something bigger— but also feel unsettled by how it's showing up—this is your episode.

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If you're being asked to hold more— and every part of you knows it— but you're not sure how to expand without burning out…

Book your complimentary Emotional Clarity Call.

This is not about adding more to your plate. It's about anchoring deeper into the version of you that can hold it all—without abandoning yourself.

30 minutes. One conversation. A different way forward.

Book your call now - these complimentary calls are only available until November 30th.

Book yours here

Dr. Shyam XO

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There's a moment in every woman's evolution that can't be mapped or managed.

Not with a new routine. Not with better boundaries. Not even with mindset work.

Because what's being asked of you… is to hold more. With your nervous system, not just your ambition.

In this week's episode of the podcast, I'm doing something different.

It's the beginning of a new series called The Threshold — a look inside my own personal and professional evolution, where growth is no longer theoretical… it's visceral.

Inside Part One, I share:

• What expansion really demands of your nervous system

• Why the "in-between" seasons often feel unsteady (and how to not abandon yourself there)

• The surprising difference between acceleration and true growth

• How capacity is built — not through certainty, but through self-compassion

If you're navigating a shift in identity, in relationships, or in your work… this one will land.

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And if this conversation resonates — if you're standing on your own threshold between what's known and what's next — join me inside The Precipice.

This live masterclass is where we go deeper into what your nervous system truly needs to expand with steadiness.

Nov 19 at 12pm EST Sign up here (its free!): shyamalakiru.com/workshop

You don't have to race ahead. You just need to build an internal system that's ready for what's coming.

Dr. Shyam XO

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SIGN UP FOR THE WORKSHOP: https://www.shyamalakiru.com/workshop BOOK AN EMOTIONAL RESET: https://www.shyahttps://www.shyamalakiru.com/workshopmalakiru.com/the-intensives

EXPLORE WORK WITH MY PSYCHOTHERAPY CLINIC: http://kirupsychotherapy.com

WEBSITE: https://shyamalakiru.com

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/

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Last week, we named the moment. The one every powerful woman eventually meets — where the life she's built begins to exceed the nervous system she built it on.

We called it The Precipice. And if you're here, you know it intimately.

But naming it is only the beginning. Today, in Part 2, we begin the real work: Rewiring the capacity to hold more.

Because here's the truth: You cannot expand from a system wired for survival.

If your emotional architecture was built on protection — perfectionism, control, over-responsibility — you will always associate more with risk.

This episode is for the woman who already has enough to manage — and still desires more. Not more to do. But more freedom. More ease. More her.

Inside this conversation, we explore:

• Why calm often feels unsafe for high-functioning women

• How your system confuses expansion with threat

• What actually needs to change (hint: it's not your mindset)

• How to begin the rewiring process

• The three pillars of emotional authority that form the foundation of true capacity

You'll also hear real client stories — women who went from burnout to anchored expansion. And I'll share my own precipice moment — the one that made emotional mastery non-negotiable in my life.

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And if this is the season you're in — The Precipice Workshop is where we take it deeper. It's where I coach you in real-time through the rewiring process.

This is real-time coaching, rooted in emotional intelligence, leadership psychology, nervous system science (and the realities of real life).

Sign up here (its free!): shyamalakiru.com/workshop

Dr. Shyam XO

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SIGN UP FOR THE WORKSHOP: https://www.shyamalakiru.com/workshop BOOK AN EMOTIONAL RESET: https://www.shyahttps://www.shyamalakiru.com/workshopmalakiru.com/the-intensives

EXPLORE WORK WITH MY PSYCHOTHERAPY CLINIC: http://kirupsychotherapy.com

WEBSITE: https://shyamalakiru.com

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

You are the one who holds it all.

The career. The family. The relationship. The emotions no one else knows how to name. The expectations no one else is carrying.

You've built a beautiful life. And still — you've hit your edge.

There is no more room in your day. No more space for "one more thing". No more capacity to simply push through.

But life doesn't seem to care. It keeps asking for more. And you don't know how to hold it without losing yourself.

If this is you — today's podcast is the conversation you didn't know you needed.

I call it The Precipice — the moment where expansion and exhaustion collide. The invisible ceiling that so many high-functioning women quietly live under.

Inside this episode, I walk you through:

• What it means to truly hit a capacity threshold

• Why your nervous system sees growth as a threat

• How "self-sabotage" is often just self-protection

• Why mindset alone can't carry you through this moment

• What it actually takes to hold more — without breaking

This is not about doing more. This is about becoming the woman who can hold more, with less cost.

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This is the beginning of everything you've been asking for — you just haven't had the wiring to hold it. Until now.

If you know this moment intimately — the Precipice Workshop is where we go deeper. It's free, and it's where we begin rewiring your capacity to expand without depletion - registration is releasing soon, stay tuned!

Dr. Shyam XO

Where to Connect:

BOOK AN EMOTIONAL RESET: https://www.shyamalakiru.com/the-intensives

EXPLORE WORK WITH MY PSYCHOTHERAPY CLINIC: http://kirupsychotherapy.com

WEBSITE: https://shyamalakiru.com

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

There comes a point for most of the women I work with where chasing "better" isn't what she wants anymore. She's done with that.

At this point in her life, what she truly desires is to feel good in her own skin. She wants to move through her days with calm, clarity, and a deep sense of sovereignty.

She craves success on her own terms. Freedom of choice. She wants to spend time with her kids — and actually be present.

To sit across from her partner and enjoy the connection again. To lead in her work with certainty, not second-guessing.

She wants to create the life she knows is possible — without needing to hustle her way there.

This is what becomes available when emotional intelligence is no longer a concept, but a way of being.

In this week's podcast episode, I'm guiding you into the identity of the emotionally intelligent woman — and what happens when she leads your life instead of your patterns taking the lead.

Inside this episode, we explore:

• The 3 default patterns even self-aware women fall into (and how to shift them)

• Why emotional mastery is the gateway to true self-leadership

• How EQ (Emotional Intelligence) impacts not just your inner world — but your partnerships, parenting, and leadership

• What becomes possible when you live from alignment instead of reactivity

This is the foundation for having it all — not just the career, the love, the peace, the impact…but the capacity to enjoy them.

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Dr. Shyam XO

P.S. This is exactly the work we do inside The Emotional Reset. If you're ready to experience what it's like to live, lead, and love from your deepest center — I have space for 2 women this month. Explore this 1:1 coaching container here

Where to Connect:

BOOK AN EMOTIONAL RESET: https://www.shyamalakiru.com/the-intensives

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LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

You know that moment…the conversation ends, and a wave of shame hits your chest.

You replay what you said. How your voice sharpened. How you shut down, gave in, or lashed out.

And then the thought comes: "I thought I was past this."

Not because you haven't done enough. But because it's confusing when insight doesn't translate into change.

This week on the podcast, I'm taking you into the real reason you're still reacting in ways that don't feel aligned — even though you're self-aware.

These aren't character flaws. They're protective strategies — coded into your nervous system long ago.

They once helped you survive. Now? They're keeping you stuck.

Inside this episode, I walk you through:

• Why emotional reactivity is not a mindset problem — and what it actually signals

• The 3 hidden protective patterns women default to when emotions run high

• Subtle signs you're stuck in the reactive, avoidant, or appeasement pattern (even if you look calm on the outside)

• What creates real change — beyond mindset, journaling, or communication techniques

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This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about reclaiming your agency over how you show up in the moments that matter most.

If you've ever felt frustrated by your own reactions — especially when you thought you'd moved beyond them — this episode is a must-listen.

With grounded clarity, Dr. Shyam XO

P.S. If you recognize yourself in those patterns, that's not a problem — it's a portal.

This is the exact work we do inside The Emotional Reset: identifying what's no longer serving you and rewiring it from the inside out. Reach out if you're feeling the pull.

Where to Connect:

BOOK AN EMOTIONAL RESET:

https://www.shyamalakiru.com/the-intensives

EXPLORE WORK WITH MY PSYCHOTHERAPY CLINIC:

http://kirupsychotherapy.com

WEBSITE: https://shyamalakiru.com

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

There's a deeply ingrained belief we've all been taught: you just need to manage your emotions better.

Take a breath. Count to ten. Reframe the thought.

Those tools aren't wrong—but they're reactive. They keep you in a cycle of suppression, avoidance, and frustration.

And here's the truth: emotional management doesn't change your wiring. It doesn't touch the patterns that keep getting triggered in the first place.

In this week's podcast episode, I'm unpacking why management fails—and why mastery is the true game changer, especially for high-achieving women.

Inside, you'll hear:

• The hidden costs of relying on suppression, avoidance, and quick fixes

• Why management never touches the root of your emotional wiring

• What emotional mastery really means, and how it rewires your system at a foundational level

• The shift that allows you to meet life from calm clarity, rather than reactivity

This is about more than coping. It's about becoming the woman who is unshakeable in her presence, her power, her relationships.

Listen now:

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I can't wait to hear your favourite takeaways,

Dr. Shyam XO

P.S. This is the exact work we do inside The Emotional Reset—a one-month private mentorship for the woman who's ready to stop managing her emotions and start mastering them.

And if this episode stirred something in you, reach out - I'd love to hear from you!

Where to Connect:

BOOK AN EMOTIONAL RESET:

https://www.shyamalakiru.com/the-intensives

EXPLORE WORK WITH MY PSYCHOTHERAPY CLINIC:

http://kirupsychotherapy.com

WEBSITE: https://shyamalakiru.com

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/

INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/