The Dragonfly Perspective - clarity, freedom, and business beyond the traditional path.

What if midlife isn't about slowing down, settling down or becoming less - but finally becoming more of who you are?

In this episode of The Dragonfly Perspective, I'm joined by Shelley Holland, founder of The Queenager Club, to talk about what it really means to be a woman in this stage of life.

We talk about identity, connection, curiosity, community and that moment when you realise you've spent years being everything to everyone else and you're ready to ask: "What do I actually want?"

Because maybe midlife isn't a crisis.

Maybe it's an invitation to change the rules.

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After two days of learning, conversations and new perspectives at Peakefest, Paula explores why we can spend so much time trying to fix ourselves when what we really need is to understand the patterns behind how we respond. 

From overwhelm and people-pleasing to overthinking and travel anxiety, this episode asks a powerful question: 

What if you're not broken - you're patterned?

A conversation about perspective, self-awareness and creating more choice in how we respond.

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This week's episode of The Dragonfly Perspective is about the money stories running the show - and why I think we need to start looking at travel differently.

Because getting more from the money you've already decided to spend is a very different conversation from simply spending more.

What money rule are you still living by that you never actually chose?

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What if there’s more influencing the way we think, feel and respond than we realise?

In this episode, Marina Beech introduces us to the world of the Akashic Records and explores how accessing deeper information can help us understand the patterns and experiences shaping our lives.

A fascinating conversation about awareness, possibility and seeing yourself from a different perspective.

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- LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/marinathesoulalchemist/

Take a look at how the Akashic records can guide you and map your 2027

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Season 3 of The Dragonfly Perspective is here.

After exploring stress, anxiety, survival mode, the pressure to keep everything together and the importance of connection in Seasons 1 and 2, Paula takes the conversation deeper in Season 3.

From the caravan and the power of connection to understanding the patterns and experiences that shape how we respond, this season brings honest conversations with brilliant guests, exploring what’s really going on underneath the surface.

Different stories, different perspectives, but one common thread: understanding ourselves can be the first step towards real freedom.

Knowledge is power. Awareness is freedom.

Season 3 starts September 11th.

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Who actually decided what your life was supposed to look like?

Go to school. 

Get a job. 

Find a partner. 

Have children. 

Work hard. 

Keep everyone happy. 

Be successful. 

Be grateful. 

And somehow manage to do all of it while looking like you've got your shit together.

But what if the life you've been living isn't actually the life you chose?

In this Season 2 finale, we're looking back at everything we've explored - patterns, conditioning, survival mode, influence, parenting, technology, expectations and all the invisible rules that shape our choices.

Because awareness is brilliant, but eventually you have to do something with it.

I'm asking the uncomfortable questions:

What do you actually want?
What are you doing because you genuinely choose it?
And what are you doing because you think you should?

Maybe you're not failing.
Maybe you're not behind.
Maybe you're not having a midlife crisis.

Maybe you've simply outgrown the version of yourself you've been trying to be.

And as Season 2 comes to an end, we open the door to something new......

Season 3 will bring more guests, more real stories, more perspectives and conversations with people who've questioned the script and chosen to do things differently.

Because your life doesn't have to look like everyone else's.

And maybe it's time you started choosing what yours looks like.

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How much of your life is actually you ..... and how much of it is the version of you you've learned to be for everyone else?

The good mum. 

The reliable one. 

The strong one. 

The successful one. 

The person who keeps everyone happy, remembers everything and somehow manages to hold it all together.

But what happens when you stop performing?

In this episode, we're looking at the invisible expectations, conditioning and survival patterns that can shape the way we live - often without us even realising it.

I'll be asking some uncomfortable questions about identity, self-trust, people-pleasing, midlife, responsibility and that nagging feeling that there must be more.

Because sometimes you're not having a crisis.

Sometimes you've simply outgrown the version of yourself you've been trying so hard to maintain.

And perhaps the question isn't "What's wrong with me?"

Perhaps it's......

"What would I choose if I stopped worrying about what everyone else thinks?"

This is the episode where awareness starts turning into choice - and where we begin to open the door to the final question of Season 2:

What do you actually want?

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We keep talking about children's screen time, smartphones and social media - but are we actually looking at the real issue?

In this episode, I'm going underneath the headlines and looking at why we're all so overstimulated, why boredom has become something we feel we need to fix, and what our own relationship with technology is teaching our children.

Because let's be honest - telling our kids to get off their phones while we're scrolling ours isn't exactly the lesson we think we're teaching.

I'll talk about parenting in a world that didn't exist when we were growing up, the pressure and guilt parents are carrying, emotional regulation, validation, comparison and the patterns we can unknowingly pass on to our children.

And most importantly, I'll explore the difference between controlling behaviour and creating awareness.

Because maybe the goal isn't to raise children who never use social media.

Maybe it's to raise children who can use it without allowing it to decide who they are.

A very real conversation about phones, parenting, patterns and learning to choose instead of simply react.

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Summer holidays can be amazing........ but let's be honest, they can also push us right to our limit.

If you've found yourself snapping more, feeling guilty, overwhelmed, or wondering why everyone seems to need something from you every five minutes, this episode is for you.

We're digging into what emotional regulation actually looks like as a parent - and it's probably not what you've been told. We'll talk about why your nervous system gets overloaded, how your own childhood patterns can sneak into your parenting, and why losing your patience doesn't make you a bad parent.

I'll share simple, realistic ways to calm your mind and body when life feels chaotic, without adding another impossible to-do list to your day.

Because your children don't need a perfect parent. They need one who's willing to understand themselves, repair when things go wrong, and keep showing up.

If you've ever ended the day thinking, "I could have handled that better," I want you to know you're not alone - and you're definitely not failing.

Grab a cuppa, take a breath, and let's have a real conversation about surviving (and maybe even enjoying) the summer holidays without losing yourself in the process.

If this episode resonates with you, I'd love you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another parent who needs to hear that they're doing better than they think.

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In a world dominated by endless headlines, AI, global uncertainty and constant digital noise, the greatest threat may not be what's happening around us - but what it's doing to us. 

This episode explores survival mode, the subconscious mind, nervous system overwhelm and why awareness is the key to reclaiming your peace, perspective and power. 

Discover how to stop reacting to the world's chaos and start responding from your authentic self. Because the greatest revolution isn't happening in the news - it's happening within you.

Carry on the conversation at www.paulafearn.com