The Duality Podcast

Today, we’re going to touch upon three major themes: The history of mass incarceration and its impact on Black families. The psychological toll that imprisonment takes on individuals, families, and communities. What we can do to start healing, both as individuals and as a collective.

On today’s episode of The Duality Podcast, we’re diving deep into the power of vulnerability in relationships. What does it mean to feel truly safe with someone? How can we rebuild our capacity for emotional openness after it's been damaged? Join us as we explore how to create safer connections, heal past wounds, and access resources that support vulnerability as a strength—not a weakness.

Resources:

• Daring Greatly by Brené Brown: A foundational text on vulnerability. Brown argues that vulnerability is not weakness but the birthplace of courage, creativity, connection.
• The Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown: Similar ground, a further dive into embracing vulnerability, authenticity, and connection.
• Fierce Vulnerability: A Colored Girl’s Truths, Trials and Triumphs by Sophia Casey: This one explicitly centers women of color.
• Radical Self‑Care for Wild Women of Color: While not strictly about romantic vulnerability, this book focuses on self‑care, healing wounds, reclaiming pleasure and connection.
• Daring to Love: Move Beyond Fear of Intimacy, Embrace Vulnerability: A practical guide geared toward intimacy, relationships, vulnerability. Good if you want something more focused than the broad Brown books.
• The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships: Again, somewhat adjacent — dealing with anger, patterns, intimacy. Because vulnerability and anger often coexist (we may fear showing vulnerability because we mask with anger, or suppress our anger and that blocks vulnerability). For women, especially, recognizing the role of anger and voice helps build healthier vulnerability.
• Women Who Love Too Much: Classic self‑help about women in patterns of unhealthy relationships. Why it’s helpful: helps you identify when you may be “over‑vulnerable” in unsafe relationships (which ties into your earlier mention of gaslighting/narcissism). So vulnerability isn’t always safe — and this helps spot when it’s gone off track.

Today we have some guests to join us, Linita Burnley & Dr. Erica Morgera, as we’re focusing on a powerful and important subject: the experience of Black women parenting Black boys. We’ll explore the unique challenges, triumphs, and strategies for nurturing our future leaders.

Today we have some guests to join us, Linita Burnley & Dr. Erica Morgera, as we’re focusing on a powerful and important subject: the experience of Black women parenting Black boys. We’ll explore the unique challenges, triumphs, and strategies for nurturing our future leaders.

For more resources check out the pages below:   Books:

1. "Raising Boys by Design" by Gregory L. Jantz Ph.D. and Michael Gurian
   • Focuses on understanding the psychology of boys and includes strategies for raising boys in a way that emphasizes their identity and self-worth.
2. "The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Black History" by D Watkins
   • A guide for parents, especially Black parents, on how to navigate tough conversations with children about Black history and racism, while empowering them with pride and identity.
3. "Between the World and Me" by Ta-Nehisi Coates
   • A letter from the author to his teenage son that discusses race, identity, and the Black experience in America.
4. "How to Raise Healthy and Happy Black Boys" by Joseph White
   • This book focuses on emotional well-being, empowerment, and addressing the mental health needs of Black boys.

Online Platforms & Articles:

1. The Conscious Kid
   • This nonprofit organization provides educational resources, book recommendations, and guides for parents and educators to raise children with a critical understanding of race and social justice.
   • Website: theconsciouskid.org
2. Black Lives Matter Resources for Families
   • The Black Lives Matter website provides educational materials and suggestions for discussing race and systemic injustice with children, empowering parents and caregivers to raise socially conscious kids.
   • Website: blacklivesmatter.com
3. PBS Kids: Race and Racism Resources
   • PBS offers age-appropriate resources and tools for discussing racism with children, helping parents create a foundation for understanding and empathy.
   • Website: PBS Kids Racism Resources

Organizations:

1. National Black Child Development Institute (NBCDI)
   • NBCDI offers resources and programs aimed at improving the quality of life for Black children and families. They provide advocacy, educational tools, and support for Black youth.
   • Website: nbcdi.org
2. The Brotherhood/Sister Sol
   • This organization focuses on youth development, especially for young Black and Latino men, empowering them to resist systemic oppression and excel in life.
   • Website: brotherhood-sistersol.org
3. The Black Youth Project (BYP) 100
   • An activist organization focused on empowering young Black people, BYP 100 provides tools and resources for youth and families to fight against systemic racism and push for social change.
   • Website: byp100.org

Podcasts & Media:

1. "The Mom Code" by Tiffany D. Jackson
   • A podcast that focuses on motherhood, identity, and culture. Episodes dive into how to raise children (especially Black children) in today’s world.
2. "Black Boy Joy" by Kwame Mbalia
   • A collection of stories designed to inspire and uplift young Black boys. Great for bedtime stories or as a conversation starter for discussions on race.
3. "The Truth About Race" podcast by NPR
   • This series helps children and families understand the complexities of race, focusing on personal stories and insights into how race shapes daily life.

Activism and Community Engagement:

1. Create Opportunities for Critical Conversations
   • Make space for open discussions about race, history, and personal experiences. Encourage your son to express his feelings and experiences.
2. Support Black-Owned Businesses and Artists
   • Encourage your son to engage with and support Black culture through art, literature, and entrepreneurship. Exposure to Black role models and creators can empower them and give them a sense of pride.
3. Mentorship and Role Models
   • Find mentorship opportunities, whether through community programs, schools, or sports. Black men who are leaders in their communities can serve as positive role models, showing your son the strength and success that is possible.

Programs for Boys and Teens:

1. 100 Black Men of America
   • This organization offers mentoring programs for Black boys and young men, emphasizing education, leadership, and community service.
   • Website: 100blackmen.org

Superwoman Syndrome refers to the pressure to embody strength and resilience at all times, often without acknowledging the toll it takes on one’s mental and emotional health. For Black mothers, this syndrome is particularly pronounced due to cultural and societal expectations.

Resources:
Black women suffer disproportionately from 'superwoman schema' - ABC News (go.com)  

Superwoman Schema, Stigma, Spirituality, and Culturally Sensitive Providers: Factors Influencing African American Women’s Use of Mental Health Services - PMC (nih.gov)  

Black women working to dismantle 'strong Black woman' trope, break stigma around mental health - Good Morning America

Throughout the episode, we'll discuss the importance of education and awareness in combatting stigma surrounding mental health. We'll delve into the significance of culturally competent care and why it's essential for mental health providers to understand the diverse needs of their patients.   We'll also explore the power of community engagement, transparency, and accountability in rebuilding trust. Our host will share their personal stories, highlighting the impact of accessible mental health services and the critical role of peer support networks.  

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Community Resources: 
Alta Regional California:Alta California Regional Center (altaregional.org)
WEAVE: WEAVE, Inc. (weaveinc.org)
DHCS - California County Mental Health Services : County Mental Health Plan Information: Contact, Beneficiary Handbook, and Provider Directory (ca.gov) 
Veteran Affairs: Mental Health Care | VA Northern California Health Care | Veterans Affairs  

So, grab your headphones, get comfortable, and join us on this journey as we uncover ways to cure the distrust in the mental health system.

Throughout the episode, we'll discuss the importance of education and awareness in combatting stigma surrounding mental health. We'll delve into the significance of culturally competent care and why it's essential for mental health providers to understand the diverse needs of their patients.   We'll also explore the power of community engagement, transparency, and accountability in rebuilding trust.

Our host will share their personal stories, highlighting the impact of accessible mental health services and the critical role of peer support networks.   

Community Resources: 

Alta Regional California:Alta California Regional Center (altaregional.org)
WEAVE: WEAVE, Inc. (weaveinc.org)
DHCS - California County Mental Health Services : County Mental Health Plan Information: Contact, Beneficiary Handbook, and Provider Directory (ca.gov) 
Veteran Affairs: Mental Health Care | VA Northern California Health Care | Veterans Affairs

So, grab your headphones, get comfortable, and join us on this journey as we uncover ways to cure the distrust in the mental health system.

In this episode, Myia and Brandi will guide us through the layers of co-dependency, shedding light on how it intertwines with cultural expectations, historical trauma, and systemic oppression. Together, we'll unravel the unique manifestations of co-dependency in the lives of Black women, navigating the complexities with empathy, understanding, and a quest for healing. So, whether you're seeking insights into your own journey or simply eager to broaden your understanding, join us as we embark on this illuminating exploration into co-dependency and its profound impact on Black women. Welcome to the Duality Podcast Let's dive in.  

Resources:
https://coda.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/Am-I-Co-Dependent.pdf 
https://coda.org/  "Boundaries" by Dr. Henry Cloud
"Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself" by Nedra Tawwab

In this episode Myia and Brandi discuss Codependcy and Control amongst Black Women:
Codependency is a psychological and behavioral pattern in which a person becomes excessively reliant on others for their self-worth and identity. It often involves an unhealthy and dysfunctional relationship dynamic where one person enables and supports the addictive or dysfunctional behavior of another person, often at the expense of their own well-being.

Please use the resources to follow up after the episode.
Resources:
https://coda.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/Am-I-Co-Dependent.pdf

https://coda.org/

"Boundaries" by Dr. Henry Cloud

"Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself" by Nedra Tawwab

In this episode Myia and Brandi discuss Self Love

Self-love is the practice of valuing, accepting, and caring for oneself. It involves developing a positive relationship with oneself, treating oneself with kindness, and prioritizing one's own well-being. Self-love includes accepting and embracing both one's strengths and weaknesses, setting healthy boundaries, practicing self-care, and nurturing a positive self-image. It is about recognizing one's worth and taking actions that promote personal growth, happiness, and fulfillment. Self-love is an important aspect of overall well-being and is essential for building healthy relationships and achieving a sense of inner peace.