Conflict Coaching and Neurobiological Patterns in Conflict with Anastasia Priyanikova
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Marketers tell stories and mediators hear stories. And this is just the beginning of the story.

WELCOME to the SHOW, this is EPISODE #10 of Earbud_U!

Many folks in the field of peacemaking and peace building are trying many different things to get the attention of a world that is changing all around them.

When this works, it’s beautiful, like with my guest today, Anastasia Priyanikova. Her and her partner have developed a star-up focused on all the most interesting parts of the mediation and storytelling experience, and are working within a unique collaboration of artists, writers and other creatives to produce their best work.

In many of my corporate training experiences, the most difficult conversations that I have are not with people about other people—although those are the ones that many people want to focus on—but the conversation that have the most impact are those that people have with themselves.

We blame, shame, and transfer our guilt onto other people and then we wonder why nothing ever works out. 

We don’t talk to other people and have an expectation that they will all read our minds, know what we want, and magically give it to us.

We wander through our days, wondering “What’s wrong with those people?” When in reality, the problem is us.

Stories get us past this and toward something else. We know that they work. Heck, look at the entire history of man, from the caves to the skyscrapers and everything in between.

We tell ourselves stories, and then create identities that reinforce those stories and then wonder why we get into conflicts.

And now, a bit of the usual stuff: 

You can connect with Earbud_U on Twitter @earbud_U

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We are part of our parent company, Human Services Consulting and Training (HSCT) out of Endicott, NY, so check out the HSCT website at www.hsconsultingandtraining.com.

Check out Anastasia Pryanikova online at http://brainalchemist.com/ and the Bookphoria website at http://www.bookphoria.com/

She’s got a special offer for all Earbud_U listeners at the end of the interview, so stay tuned for that.

She’s on Facebook so get in touch with him there at 

https://www.facebook.com/apryanikova

And she’s got a Twitter at https://twitter.com/lawsagna

Now, one last thing. The audio quality of this interview was interrupted by a series of annoying pops. Well I tried to get rid of (and reduce the volume of) as many of them as I possibly could. But I didn’t get all of them. So, bear with us, and accept our apologies. It’s a quality conversation, in spite of the interruptions.

Now…let’s get into it!

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Seek to Understand Before Seeking to be Understood with Timothy Dean Smith 
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Understanding through active listening is the best kind of understanding that a person can get.

But many people prefer to think really hard about what they are going to say next, rather than listening to what the other person is actually say.

Timothy Smith is a performance improvement coach, consultant, and facilitator, who, through his proprietary performance improvement process. 

And his process seeks to understand before advising, coaching, and giving advice. We connected with Tim through a mutual friend and we have become colleagues in the creative process of moving the ball forward on the hardest field that there is: the human heart.

• Connect with Timothy Smith via his website: http://www.tdspi.com/Pages/default.aspx 
• Follow Timothy Smith on Twitter: https://twitter.com/tdspillc
• Check out Tim on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tdspi

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• Check out LeadingKeys at: https://www.leadingkeys.com/.
• Check out Leadership ToolBox at: https://www.leadershiptoolbox.us/.
• Contact HSCT at 1-833-216-8296 to schedule a full DEMO of LeadingKeys Today!

Feminism and Filmmaking in South Africa and Globally with Shalin Sirkar
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The process of making a film is collaborative, fulfilling and, at the end of the day, really, really hard.

Shalin Sirkar is an international filmmaker, feminist, and politically active visionary who is seeking to make films and create a vision that tells the truth of the world, as she sees it. 

She is also a painter, a writer and a person who has stepped out of her comfort zone over and over again to mold a world. And to help others create visions for themselves.

We met Shalin via Twitter, so we would say that she is also a collaborative communicator and a person who knows how to navigate the new, uncharted worlds of social media and social innovation.

• Connect with Shalin Sirkar via her website: http://shalinsirkar.com/Welcome.html
• Follow Shalin Sirkar on Twitter: https://twitter.com/shalinsirkar
• Shalin Sirkar’s Film Company on Twitter: https://twitter.com/ChaliaFilms
• Chalia Films Website: http://www.chalia.co.za/chalia.co.za/Home.html
• Film Contact for Chalia Films:  http://www.filmcontact.com/member/shalin-sirkar
• Check Shalin & Chalia Films on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChaliaFilms?fref=nf

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• Check out LeadingKeys at: https://www.leadingkeys.com/.
• Check out Leadership ToolBox at: https://www.leadershiptoolbox.us/.
• Contact HSCT at 1-833-216-8296 to schedule a full DEMO of LeadingKeys Today!

It is better to be a Warrior in a Garden Than a Gardener in a War with London Ladd
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Illustration and the arts are not hard to understand. But we have fetishized the artist and his work process, when, in reality, most artists are just as normal as everyone else. They have conflicts, disputes and experience frustrations in working with clients.

London Ladd is an illustrator, entrepreneur, speaker and much, much more. We met this man on a missions trip to Oklahoma in 2013 and we have kept track of his changing career as he has morphed and changed his approach to art, life and business.

The author, Steven Pressfield was right, there is a war on art, but it’s not fought in the way that we think it is.

 I think that London is trying to mount a forward action in the war on art.... 

But let’s be clear…

The war on art begins with the distractions and interruptions of everyday life that cause people to avoid doing their best work and serve as excuses for not getting ahead.

The war on art begins when artists, creative people, engineers, supervisors and others begin to believe that inspiration comes only at special times, rather than when the butt hits the seat.

The war on art begins when anybody stops following their long-term guiding principles, in favor of a short-term payday.

But London is winning his own war on art, but in his own way, with his own tools and in his own time.

A man of many colors, indeed…

• Connect with London Ladd via his website: http://www.londonladd.com
• Follow London Ladd on Twitter: https://twitter.com/LondonLLadd
• London Ladd’s Agency on Twitter: https://twitter.com/painted_words
• London Ladd’s Work Process: Man of Many Colors Video 
• London Ladd’s Painted Words Blog + Portfolio:  http://painted-words.com/portfolio/london-ladd/
• London Ladd’s images on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PaintedWordsNYC

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• Check out LeadingKeys at: https://www.leadingkeys.com/.
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• Contact HSCT at 1-833-216-8296 to schedule a full DEMO of LeadingKeys Today!

Teaching You to Control Your Emotional Responses with Diane Lange
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There are times that I talk with people in fields associated with mine, who are doing things in a different way than I am doing them but are getting the same—or even better—results than I am. 

I think that this interest comes about because I am inherently a generalist in a world of specialists.  I think that my interest also stems from being deeply ensconced in the interdisciplinary aspects of conflict resolution and reconciliation.

As human beings in an economic and social world, only beginning to recover from the hangover of the Industrial Revolution, our responsibility is to be interdisciplinary. 

We can’t know everything, that’s the point of the social web; but we also have a responsibility to make as many connections between disparate pieces of information as is humanely possible.

That’s where organizational development and conflict resolution practitioners can really shine, because in a world of specialists, sometimes it takes a broad-thinking generalist to make the connections that many organizations can’t—and won’t—make.

Diane Lange has taken some time away from Proclivity, LLC, but she is always going to be an entrepreneur, a founder and an active thinker. You should get her into your organization.  

Here are all the ways to connect with her:

• Diane Lange & Proclivity, LLC on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ProclivitlLlc?sk=info&tab=overview
• Diane Lange on Twitter: https://twitter.com/prodiane
• Diane Lange on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dianelange
• Proclivity, LLC Website & Blog: http://proclivityllc.com/
• Self-Directed Leadership: http://proclivityllc.com/self-directed-leadership/

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• Check out LeadingKeys at: https://www.leadingkeys.com/.
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• Contact HSCT at 1-833-216-8296 to schedule a full DEMO of LeadingKeys Today!

Bootstrappers Do It Better with Elin Barton, formerly of White Knight Productions
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Elin Barton is the owner, founder, and President of White Knight Productions, now Riveo Creative, based out of Vestal, New York. 

Elin has an incredible background in film and video work. She is also a marketer who understands, at an instinctive level, the power of the moving image and how it can impact how we buy, try, and even follow.

The team at White Knight Productions is amazingly talented and they have developed a unique vision and approach to addressing the needs of their clients. Where video marketing is the future, the team at White Knight is blazing a trail there as fast as they possibly can.

And Elin did all of this through bootstrapping. 

Not taking a dime of VC funding to build your own project is about as brave as it comes, particularly when you have a family and other responsibilities, yet many, many women are becoming entrepreneurs and are making the move to do this. They are truly pioneers and show the way forward.

And, Loddy Doddy is pretty friggin’ funny as well…

I was very excited to talk with Elin and I look forward to talking with her more in the future.

Check out the links below and book Elin and her crew at White Knight (Riveo Creative) today:

• White Knight Productions: http://whiteknightpro.com/
• WKP on Twitter: https://twitter.com/WhiteKnightVid
• WKP Blog: http://whiteknightpro.com/blog.html
• WKP on Google +: https://plus.google.com/+WhiteKnightProductionsVestal/about
• WKP on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/whiteknightpro
• Elin Barton on LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/elinbarton

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• Check out LeadingKeys at: https://www.leadingkeys.com/.
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• Contact HSCT at 1-833-216-8296 to schedule a full DEMO of LeadingKeys Today!

Painting, Mediating, and Traveling Better than You or Me, it's Brad Heckman
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This is not your typical podcast around conflict resolution and peacebuilding, but my background is as a divorce and family mediator.

As such, I am fascinated by people who do this work, but I am also interested in how all of this intersects with entrepreneurship.

Entrepreneurship is hard. Just as hard as building peace between people.

Brad Heckman, the CEO of the New York Peace Institute, is doing great work in combining the two together and my talk with him was unique.

We focused on a lot of areas, but the big thing that we focused on was his background, perspective, and approach to peace.

Look, the New York Peace Institute and Brad Heckman are doing great stuff in the marketing space as well and are expanding his footprint all over the Interwebs, including Twitter, where he is a grandmaster of Tweeting.

Check out the links below and look into his work.

• The New York Peace Institute: http://nypeace.org/
• Brad on Twitter: https://twitter.com/hecksign 
• NYPI on Twitter: https://twitter.com/newyorkpeace
• Brad’s Blog, The Hecklist: http://thehecklist.wordpress.com/

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Crossing Over with Singer and Songwriter Jared Campbell
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Very rarely does a creative individual cross over successfully from one genre to another.

Musicians rarely do this going from Christian music to secular music. Jared Campbell is an amazingly talented and gifted musician who has moved seamlessly from performing in Christian venues all the way to producing children’s albums.

He’s also on a path to prevent bullying in high schools and middle schools by striking at the core of the bullying issue: the interior of people.

Jared is doing the most transformative work possible: He's changing the world through his talent, his message, and his calling to a Higher purpose. This is the greatest, most difficult challenge possible.

He’s doing great work in a number of different areas, but please connect with him about the Blue Project via his website, by following the links below:

• The Blue Project: http://jcblueproject.com/
• Jared Campbell: http://jaredcampbell.com/
• Itunes: https://itunes.apple.com/artist/jared-campbell/id283111388
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/jcampbelltweet
• The Myspace Page: https://myspace.com/jaredcampbell
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jaredcampbellfans

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• Check out LeadingKeys at: https://www.leadingkeys.com/.
• Check out Leadership ToolBox at: https://www.leadershiptoolbox.us/.
• Contact HSCT at 1-833-216-8296 to schedule a full DEMO of LeadingKeys Today!

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Lessons For Start-Ups With Darren MacDonald
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Occasionally, you get to start on a project that is the beginning of a new direction, and our interview here with Darren MacDonald, is the perfect example of that beginning interview.

Darren is funny, engaged, and a totally great guy overall. And whiplash smart.

He worked in the bottled gas field with a family business for almost twenty years and knows a thing or two about conflict and engaging with it effectively and not ruffling feathers.

He’s involved in a ton of projects and it’s always a laugh riot when we get together. I loved talking to him and he’s the only guest on Earbud_U to get a “Director’s Cut,” which I will release…someday…soon…
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• Feel free to connect with Darren via LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/darrenmacdonald/
• His website & blog: http://darrenmacdonald.com/
• His presence on Quora: http://www.quora.com/Darren-MacDonald#
• On Twitter: https://twitter.com/upwordz

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• Check out LeadingKeys at: https://www.leadingkeys.com/.
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• Contact HSCT at 1-833-216-8296 to schedule a full DEMO of LeadingKeys Today!

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