What if your body & your sexuality were never broken, but sacred all along? ✨

Today I’m speaking with Lauren Elise Rogers, a Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach. And honestly, having this conversation felt like sitting down with a dear friend who finally said out loud so many things we’ve all thought but never spoken.

Lauren shares her story of growing up in purity culture, marrying young, and then finding herself in a sexless, confusing marriage that was shrouded in silence. I could feel that ache when she described thinking “something must be wrong with me”, because at some point, haven’t we all been there in some form or another?

What really struck me however, was the turning point in her life, when through the support of a dear friend, she realized she had a choice to make. And that moment of stepping into her agency, of reclaiming her voice, her body, her desires; that moment was both terrifying and liberating at the same time. Lauren lost her marriage, her faith community, her sense of belonging, and yet, in the middle of all that rubble, she discovered something extraordinary: her own self-trust. And like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she transformed her life from pain to power.

Now Lauren helps women all around the world to release shame, remember their wholeness, and reclaim the sacred connection between pleasure, spirit, and self-trust.

Together, we explore how to invite more joy and embodiment into everyday life, whether through small acts of comfort, moments of beauty, or finally granting ourselves permission to desire and orient to pleasure.

So, if you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body, questioned your worth, or longed for deeper intimacy, this episode will feel like both a mirror and a gentle hand to hold. It’s an empowering reminder that you are not broken, and that true pleasure, freedom, and self-trust are yours to claim.

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In this episode, I open up about why so many of us have been left in the dark when it comes to our bodies, our sexual anatomy, and the foundations of arousal, power, and pleasure, and how reclaiming this knowledge is nothing short of revolutionary.

I share my own journey of moving beyond years of talk therapy and intellect-based healing into the world of Tantra, Taoism, and science-backed somatic practices that completely transformed my relationship with my body.

Together, we’ll explore what it means to feel safe in your body, how to unlock deeper levels of self-love, and why pleasure is not just about orgasm, but about nervous system regulation, healing, and wholeness.

This conversation is for every woman who’s ever felt like sex was “just okay,” who’s wondered if there might be more to her experience, or who’s ready to break free of cultural conditioning and finally come home to her body.

What if your pleasure was a source of power, healing, and deep connection to yourself? What if your desires were divine instructions for your soul’s true alignment? The truth is, you are wired for bliss, healing, and for a life fuelled by the regenerative power of your pleasure, but you’ve just never been taught the "how". Well buckle up beautiful, cause we’re about to explore all of that and more!

•Anatomy of Pleasure Masterclass Waitlist:  https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025

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This episode is like a warm, gentle hug for your nervous system.

Today we’re diving into a beautifully simple but powerful tool called Containment + Coherence. It’s one of those “why didn’t I learn this sooner?” kinds of practices that helps you deal with stress, overwhelm, or any intense emotion or experience that can sometimes knock the wind out of you.

I guide you through a process that helps create space inside your body, mind and soul for calm, clarity, and healing. And from that space? We go into the heart, reconnecting you to the regenerative energies of love and alignment.

This meditation will give you the grace to pause, breathe, and return to centre.

Whether your week has been chaos or calm, this practice is a nourishing reminder that you’re not at the mercy of your emotions. You have tools. You have power. Honestly, this one’s worth saving for the days when life feels like too much.

The meditation is 11min long, and begins at the 4.12min mark.

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In this episode, I dive deep into something I’m really passionate about; pleasure. Not the kind that’s marketed to us with spa packages or luxury retreats (though those can be lovely), but something even more powerful and intimate: pleasure as a healing, regenerative resource that we can cultivate and use to replenish our bodies and minds in our everyday lives.

Pleasure isn’t self indulgence, or selfish, it's a sacred life-giving force. It’s how we come back to ourselves when we’ve been stretched too thin, when the world feels too loud, and when our nervous systems are fried from constant doing and over giving. It's also a portal to what is deeply true for you at your core.

Today I explore how pleasure can bring your bodies back into balance and homeostasis and how pleasure is deeply tied to self-worth, boundaries, and healing the stories we’ve inherited from our lineages.

Pleasure isn't something you have to earn. It’s something your body, soul, and nervous system deeply needs for health and wellbeing. And so my invitation to you is to reflect on what your own  personal "pleasure jam" is, what lights you up, fills your cup, and makes you feel alive again. My intention for you today is for you to walk away with inspiration to reconnect with those little (or big) joyful things, and maybe even reframe pleasure as the most powerful wellness tool you have access to. 

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Join me in a beautiful, soul-nourishing conversation with Caitlin Rose, a Queer, Somatic Guide who supports Neurodivergent and Queer folks in unmasking, softening, and coming home to themselves. She doesn’t push people toward change with force or pressure. Her whole approach is rooted in deep listening, gentleness, and creating safety in the body.

And as a woman in midlife who’s navigating motherhood, partnership, identity, and a lot of unlearning, this conversation really spoke to me. Especially because I’m raising neurodivergent kids, and potentially questioning my own neurodivergence. It feels like this loud, fast, overstimulating world is constantly asking us to keep up, and Caitlin is here to give us all full permission to slow all the way down, down to the pace that feels actually supportive, rather than depleting.

Caitlin shares how her journey started in the sacred sexuality space, but how over time it has evolved into a somatic approach to nervous system regulation work. Her work is a deep invitation into a homecoming that grounds us into how we regulate, recalibrate, and remember our own rhythm.

I just loved the way she described how liberating it feels to be in a room with other neurodivergent and queer folks and just exist in whatever way felt right. No judgment. No pressure. Just presence.

It really got me thinking about how often we force ourselves to fit into a mold that doesn’t actually suit us. Especially as women, we’re taught to override our needs to be good, to be productive, to keep everyone else comfortable. 

Caitlin’s work offers an alternative; the perspective that true liberation starts when we stop fixing ourselves and start accepting and honouring our lived experience exactly as we really are. She’s consciously choosing slowness now. Gentleness. Spaciousness. She’s creating programs and workshops that honour neurodivergent nervous systems, rather than overwhelm them.

Her upcoming offering, The Soft Return, is a 5-week online program designed specifically for queer and neurodivergent folks who want to gently come back to themselves. It’s not about fixing, it’s about remembering. Reconnecting. Reclaiming. She’s created a space where you’re not told what your truth is, but invited to discover it at your own pace, in your own way.

And I don’t know about you, but I’m craving more of that. More spaces where we get to exhale. More conversations that remind us we don’t have to push or pretend. Just soften. Just come home.

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcaitlinrose_/

The Soft Return 5 week program: https://caitlinrosetaylor.org/soft-return-program

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LINKS:

•FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation

•Anatomy of Pleasure Masterclass Waitlist:  https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025

•Website: www.vilates.com

•Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching

•Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/

•Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB

•Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980

In this episode, I open up about something incredibly personal, powerful, and for so many of us long overdue: self-consent and the journey of truly coming home to our bodies.

We hear the word embodiment a lot these days, don’t we? But what does it actually mean to live in our bodies, rather than just in our heads?

As women it’s so easy to stay in that mental checklist mode, always planning, anticipating, and caretaking while completely ignoring the messages from within. So many of us were raised to prioritise others, their comfort, their approval, even their pleasure above our own, and to ignore the discomfort in our bodies, to override our instincts, to be polite, to smile, to stay small and agreeable.

Over time, that takes a toll. It erodes our ability to fully hear our “no” and therefore, understand our full, embodied “yes.”

So today, I gently invite you to pause and create a micro-moment of embodied presence. These little moments may seem small, but they’re powerful. They’re tiny acts of coming back home to your body. And from that space, I began to explore a much deeper topic: consent, starting with what it means to consent to ourselves.

I talk about how our early life experiences, attachment styles, and trauma responses all shape the way we show up in intimate relationships and how we often give away pieces of ourselves without realising it.

I also share an incredible study from HeartMath that proves your heart can sense danger before your brain can process it. Your body knows. And it’s just waiting for you to listen.

So if you've ever questioned whether your boundaries matter, if you’ve ever said yes when you really meant no, or if you’re simply curious about reconnecting with the wise, powerful woman you already are this episode is for you.

And if you're curious about exploring somatic work a little deeper, I’ve created a beautiful, free heart + breast meditation just for you, it’s a gentle, nourishing way to start coming home to yourself.

You deserve to be in a body that feels safe. And you deserve to feel your full, embodied yes on your terms.

LINKS:

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•Website: www.vilates.com

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This episode was sparked by a conversation with a friend, and it just lit a fire in me. We started talking about how little we were taught about our bodies growing up, especially in the context of pleasure. I’m a child of the ’70s, so you can imagine what sex ed looked like back then (and honestly, not much has changed). It was all about avoiding pregnancy and STIs, with barely a whisper about female anatomy, consent, pleasure & orgasms. And that silence? It's by design.

We live in a culture that benefits from women not knowing the power of their own bodies. And when we don’t fully understand how our pleasure works, or even that we deserve it, it plays into broader patterns of disempowerment. Whether it’s in our sex lives, our careers, or even in medical appointments where we’re too often gaslit out of our experience. This lack of education both disadvantages and hurts us.

So today, I open up about my own journey with pleasure (including learning about clitoral orgasms  from an old Cosmopolitan magazine sealed section!) and share stories that might sound a little too familiar. I also talk about the incredible range of orgasmic experiences we can have, and the fact that most of us have never even been taught how or that they’re even possible.

This is why I created the Anatomy of Pleasure masterclass, a six-week deep dive into the power, beauty, and science of your body. We explore everything from clitoral, G-zone, cervical, and nipple orgasms, to squirting, ejaculation, and whole-body ecstasy. This is the education we all should have had, but never got. And every single one of us deserves to have this knowledge.

So if you’ve ever felt disconnected from your sensuality, unsure of your body, or just curious to explore your own pleasure on a deeper level, this episode is for you. We’re talking empowerment, embodiment, and the liberation that comes from finally understanding the magic you’ve carried all along.

✨ Doors open soon and I’d love for you to be part of this journey. Get on the waitlist here: https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025  it’s going to be a life-changing reclamation of pleasure.

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LINKS

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Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

In today’s episode, my good friend and colleague, Dr Eva Yacobi, a Functional Medicine and Naturopathic Doctor and Somatic Intimacy Coach interviews me for her podcast; Intimately Speaking. Eva has generously allowed me to share this conversation where she interviews me on my personal journey to this work. And because she’s such a dear friend, this is a deeply personal and heartfelt conversation where I open up about my journey from surviving sexual abuse to finding healing and transformation through my academic studies in Sexology and certification in Tantric Somatic Sacred Sexuality practices and Embodiment Coaching methodologies.

We talk about what it really means to feel safe in your body, how self-pleasure can be a renewable, regenerative resource in your life, not just self-care, as well as the importance of body positivity and acceptance, especially for those of us navigating life after motherhood.

I also share how I incorporate these principles into my children’s lives, how they’ve informed the way I engage in motherhood, and how they’ve helped me to build healthier, more open mother-child relationships when it comes to body awareness and boundaries.

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body or intimacy, especially after having kids, this conversation is for you. This episode offers gentle, empowering insights on how we as mothers can begin to reconnect with ourselves, rediscover pleasure, and create deeper, more fulfilling intimate lives, as well as being a reminder that sexual healing isn’t just possible, it can be life-changing, not only for us, but for our families and future generations too.

GUEST LINKS:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.evayacobi

Substack: https://substack.com/@drevayacobi

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In this episode, I'm sharing a recent interview I did with my dear friend Kate Reynolds, a registered nurse and fellow podcast host (High Tea with Lady V) who’s refreshingly honest when it comes to women’s health. We talk about everything, from being touched out in motherhood, to how we've been conditioned from a very young age to be people pleasers, and how that shows up in our sexuality through every stage of life, from girlhood to motherhood, and even into perimenopause.

Kate and I talk openly about the incredible power of female sexuality and reflect on some of the life-changing insights from Emily Nagoski’s work and some of the latest sexuality research. We chat about all different kinds of orgasms and how healing it can be to fully reconnect with our bodies.

We also explore how ancient practices like Tantra and Taoism can give women a practical pathway to understanding their sexuality far beyond anything learned from sex ed in high school, as well as guiding us back to our pleasure, our self-worth, and our sense of wholeness. This isn’t about becoming someone new, but remembering who we really are beneath the layers of guilt, shame, and obligation so many of us carry.

My hope is that this episode feels like a warm, honest conversation with girlfriends, one that reminds you that your pleasure, your body, and your healing matter.

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•Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching

•Sensual Activation Suite: https://www.vilates.com/sensualactivationsuite/p/sensual-activation-suite 

•Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB

•Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980

In this episode, I’m opening up about something really personal, my upcoming spinal surgery.

To be honest, I’ve been feeling a mix of fear and a tonne of vulnerability. It’s all happened so fast and it's been a lot to carry. 

As I’ve been processing everything, it’s made me reflect on how many of us face these unexpected life moments that we don't see coming. The ones that knock the wind out of us. And yet, somehow, we keep showing up. And I wanted to speak to that. 

This experience aligns so much with the postpartum period too, something so many of us quietly struggle through, with all the challenges in intimacy, the emotional shifts, and the pressure to “bounce back” when what we really need is time and understanding, so we can heal.

If you’ve ever felt like you had to hold it all together, even while falling apart inside, you’re not alone. I see you. And this conversation is an invitation to honour all of the different seasons we move through, not just the joyful ones, but the tender, in-between spaces too.

At the end of the episode, I guide you through a calming self-affirmation exercise. It’s something that’s helped me stay grounded, and that I'll be using myself on the long road to recovery post-surgery.

I hope it offers you a moment of peace, encouragement, and the reminder that you are never alone in this journey.

LINKS

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•Website: vilates.com

•Sensual Activation Suite: www.vilates.com/sensualactivationsuite/p/sensual-activation-suite

•Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching

•Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/

•Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB

•Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980