I've been feeling very tender-hearted recently, and so have many people I've spoken with. I thought I'd make this episode speaking directly to your heart from mine. If you're feeling like things are really hard and challenging right now, take a moment to drop in with me.

I love you. You're not alone. We can do this together.

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I'd love for this to be collaborative so send me a message with your questions, comments and feedback! ⁠I'd love to hear from you⁠!

If you want to learn more about coaching with me, my classes, or the events I host, check out my website at ⁠⁠www.elizabethanncunningham.com⁠⁠

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Take care, talk soon and keep loving.

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LOVElizabeth

We all know that community is great, transformative and can make THE difference in being non monogamous and polyamorous. But what if you have trauma connected with community? This episode gets personal for me as I share about my own personal trauma in community and things I've been doing and noticing to heal.

Interested in hearing more about community and polyamory? Come to my live, virtual and free event this Saturday August 19th. The Finding Polyam Community event is all about finding, healing and creating polyam communities.

Save your seat!

Are you timid about joining communities? Are you unsure of what communities to even look for? When you get involved in communities do you kinda have this 'I don't know what to do with my hands.' type of feeling? Do you want to start a community or host events but have no clue how to start or what to do?

This is the event for you. Our 12 speakers are going to answer all of these questions and more. Plus! You'll be able to ask questions during our 6 Q&As throughout the day!

This event will be fun, interactive and informative.

See you there!

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I'd love for this to be collaborative so send me a message with your questions, comments and feedback! ⁠I'd love to hear from you⁠!

If you want to learn more about coaching with me, my classes, or the events I host, check out my website at ⁠⁠www.elizabethanncunningham.com⁠⁠

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Take care, talk soon and keep loving.

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LOVElizabeth

Unmet expectations are the number one cause of upset in relationships. 

And it gets so juicy and nuanced! Let’s dive in. 

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I'd love for this to be collaborative so send me a message with your questions, comments and feedback! ⁠I'd love to hear from you⁠!

If you want to learn more about coaching with me, my classes, or the events I host, check out my website at ⁠⁠www.elizabethanncunningham.com⁠⁠

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Take care, talk soon and keep loving.

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LOVElizabeth

There is something in this episode for everyone. If you're a fixer, if you're a recovering fixer, if you live with a fixer, if you don't know what a fixer is, this episode is for you.

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I'd love for this to be collaborative so send me a message with your questions, comments and feedback! ⁠I'd love to hear from you⁠!

If you want to learn more about coaching with me, my classes, or the events I host, check out my website at ⁠⁠www.elizabethanncunningham.com⁠⁠

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Take care, talk soon and keep loving.

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LOVElizabeth

Don't worry. You're in good company. We all do this. Whether it's because we never learned a new way to be, or we've just never been aware that we're doing it.

Every one of us has reverted back to our teenage self or before.

The important thing is not to beat yourself up about it or to think you "should be better." Allow yourself to be ok that you're learning something new. Gain a new awareness and then go apply what you've learned so that you can have even more connected and deep relationships.

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I'd love for this to be collaborative so send me a message with your questions, comments and feedback! ⁠I'd love to hear from you⁠!

If you want to learn more about coaching with me, my classes, or the events I host, check out my website at ⁠⁠www.elizabethanncunningham.com⁠⁠

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Take care, talk soon and keep loving.

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LOVElizabeth

Sometimes we treat relationships like 'I said I was in a relationship, so therefore I am.' Which isn't wrong... but it's also not necessarily true. Relationships need to be continually fostered and created. Just because you said you were dating several years ago doesn't mean that you can just leave it at that.

Relationships take continual effort and I believe polyamory highlights the necessity of this ongoing evolution in relating.

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I'd love for this to be collaborative so send me a message with your questions, comments and feedback! ⁠I'd love to hear from you⁠!

If you want to learn more about coaching with me, my classes, or the events I host, check out my website at ⁠⁠www.elizabethanncunningham.com⁠⁠

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Take care, talk soon and keep loving.

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LOVElizabeth

Have you ever been asked the question - what is sex?

I mean, it's kind of just assumed right? We say 'sex' and we all know what we mean by that.

Have you also ever heard what they say about assuming?

Yeah.

Ok. Enough snarkiness. I've asked A LOT of people what they mean when they say 'sex' and I never really get the same answer. So this thing that we assume that we are all talking about the same thing... we're not. And when we're not talking about the same thing and going off of assumptions, that can lead to breakdowns, upsets and even trauma.

In this episode I give a few thought experiments about how you think about sex and how it can absolutely change your relationships and the pleasure y'all get to have.

***If you are currently working through or have not worked through your sexual trauma, this episode may not be appropriate for you.***

Come to my one day event! Polyamory and Sex: Let's Talk About Sex and Intimacy with Whoever You Want to have Sex and Intimacy With!

Join the event live for free!

Buy the recording so you can keep it forever.

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I'd love for this to be collaborative so send me a message with your questions, comments and feedback! ⁠I'd love to hear from you⁠!

If you want to learn more about coaching with me, my classes, or the events I host, check out my website at ⁠⁠www.elizabethanncunningham.com⁠⁠

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Take care, talk soon and keep loving.

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LOVElizabeth



You've probably never heard of the Empty Room Theory because I made it up to help me make sense of life when I was in high school. This is the theory that I have applied to myself and my life to give space for me to learn what I need to learn at my own pace regardless of other people's standards. It applies quite well to polyamory, as you perhaps can already tell.

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I'd love for this to be collaborative so send me a message with your questions, comments and feedback! ⁠I'd love to hear from you⁠!

If you want to learn more about coaching with me, my classes, or the events I host, check out my website at ⁠⁠www.elizabethanncunningham.com⁠⁠

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Take care, talk soon and keep loving.

Sometimes, we don't know what's possible in relationships because we've never experienced it. But, if we've never experienced it, then how could we know what's possible to even ask for it?

And yet, in order for our relationships to grow and flourish, we know that it's best to continue to strive to be healthier, more communicative and more compassionate.

And as dizzy-ing as all of this is, here are some thoughts and insights on raising the standards of our relationships in a way that can be compassionate for everyone.

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I'd love for this to be collaborative so send me a message with your questions, comments and feedback! ⁠I'd love to hear from you⁠!

If you want to learn more about coaching with me, my classes, or the events I host, check out my website at ⁠⁠www.elizabethanncunningham.com⁠⁠

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Take care, talk soon and keep loving.

Being a polyamorous coach, I often hear people talk about how they want balance or how they've given up on having balance. Adding more love in your life is awesome and it also has real life constraints like time and energy. It has taken me years of trying different things out for myself to be able to create balance in my life, AND that's not to say that balance is a permanent state that I exist in. No. It's something that gets created and has to be maintained. Here are some ways of looking at creating balance in your life that have helped myself personally, as well as my clients.

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I'd love for this to be collaborative so send me a message with your questions, comments and feedback! ⁠I'd love to hear from you⁠!

If you want to learn more about coaching with me, my classes, or the events I host, check out my website at ⁠⁠www.elizabethanncunningham.com⁠⁠

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Take care, talk soon and keep loving.