The Emotional Author

We all have standards wherein we would think that it would be the target to find the perfect mate. That if they do not meet these standards, they aren't good enough. The same thing happens wherein we would think that we aren't enough or that we can't meet the standards of the people we pursue. This episode tries to omit that norm and allow us to open our hearts and minds to forget standards because we shouldn't be competing for love, we should be building it.

We all know that person we call "The One That Got Away" and we lay at night thinking about what if and what could be, yet we never have the courage to take action. Thinking that people will assume that we went back to the person we let go, then again they aren't aware that they are the same person that we could have built a future with. TOTGA isn't the person that broke you, but they are people that we know we made a mistake with. They are the lost chances, the failed endings, and the wasted opportunity. 

Speaking and receiving your language is something that you should consider before you enter a relationship. Keeping in mind that you should be familiar with how you want to be loved and how to love your partner. Honestly, we are all blinded by the idea of love that we forget that loving isn't just through words or actions, it will solely depend on the language that you want to receive and how your partner wants to be loved. Build a healthy relationship wherein you understand each other's wants and needs.

Stop thinking about how the past has broken you and think about how it made you the person you are today. Think of it as a learning experience rather than a moment wherein time froze and you wished you never existed. We all need to go through a hurdles and challenges to grow and gain self improvement. Just because you have chosen to love and it did not work out the way you expected, does not mean you are not worthy to be loved or to receive as much love as you were willing to shell out. You deserve to become the best, therefore you should never settle for less.

Never let anyone hinder your growth, never let anyone be the reason why you choose to grow. If you know that you can achieve more, or that there is a better version of yourself that you have yet to unlock, go for it. The only person that would limit your personal growth is yourself, therefore if you want to achieve something you have to be the sole person that initiates and strives for it. Your partner deserves the best, and you should first become the best.

Let's try to forget "falling in love" and thinking that it would be an accident. Since we have chosen to love someone then we shouldn't be hesitant, uncertain, or doubtful. We should forget about the idea wherein we fall out of love or we are no longer capable of reliving the spark. If we love someone all the efforts and investment that we try to showcase will never go unreciprocated. 

Therefore if someone has fallen out of love then they do not truly love you. Stop trying to get hypnotized and pressured by what society dictates and make sure to invest all that you have for someone willing to do the same thing for you. That my friends, is true love.

People try so hard to measure something so abstract, and that's love. We try to conjure up units of measurements that would suffice to prove "how much" we love someone. We believe that there's such a thing, yet, we also believe that love is unconditional especially with the person we spend the rest of our lives with. Why try to measure something that we shouldn't, can't we just face reality that we should be loving someone they way we want to be loved and that's limitless. 

It's exhausting to showcase a person you aren't. You are too afraid to express your true self because you are filled with fear and doubt. Let's face reality together and realize that your best self is within you all along. Stop pretending or being someone you know doesn't exist. The person meant to love you truly will not see your negativity and flaws as a reason to leave your side, it would be the reason they choose to stay.

You are never to blame if you have experienced moments wherein you want to give up. You want to let go because you have had enough. Your happiness is being deprived due to the decisions and choices you have made to stay in a place you are no longer welcome. Loving someone should never and will never be difficult. If you are currently in a relationship and you are constantly trying to survive everyday just to make it work, then you may want to think again.

I want you guys to realize the importance of being "friends first" before you embark in the journey of being a couple. It's because if you believe that a "best friend" is more important then your partner or the person you have chosen to be with. Then it would be best to think about your choices.

Your person, your partner, your significant other, should be the first person you think about or run to should you encounter issues. Your challenges and hurdles as a couple shouldn't be shared with other friends and family. How on earth would you resolve something that could have been done on your own if you have shared it with everyone else.

It's never too late to get to know a person before you emotionally, mentally, and physically invest yourself. Do not waste your time with something short term.

It's me and you against the problem, you are never alone as you have said YES to that person.