The Energized Woman Podcast

Your standard answer to “How are you?” is a quick "I'm fine". You're the one everyone calls when something falls apart, but somehow no one calls you to check if you're okay. You don’t mind, because you know you can handle it. Nobody has to worry about you, because you always handle it.

Being the reliable one earns people’s trust, but it also trains the people around you to stop asking if you're okay, until “fine" is the only thing anyone actually knows about you.

Whether it's saying you've "got it" when you don't, or watching everyone else get looked after while you manage the details the pattern is the same. The better you get at having it together, the less anyone thinks to ask what you need. 

Tanja breaks down why competence, the very thing that earns people's trust, can also be the thing that keeps you from being truly known. And that can leave you feeling lonely even when you're surrounded by people who genuinely care about you.

In this episode, you'll discover:

If you're the one everyone relies on, and you've wondered who'd catch you if you ever needed catching, this episode is for you.

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You've reread that email for the twenty-fifth time and changed one word. You've cleaned the kitchen, answered the low-priority emails, and told yourself you'll do the hard task tomorrow. Or after a nap. Or when you feel more motivated.

But the motivation you're waiting for doesn't show up first, and the longer the hard thing sits, the heavier it gets.

Whether it's the video you keep not recording, the phone call you keep putting off, or the conversation with your spouse where you can't find the perfect words, the pattern is the same when you’re trying to do it perfectly.

In this episode, Tanja breaks down why perfectionism and procrastination feed each other, and what's really happening when "I'm not motivated" actually means "I'm overwhelmed." Then she walks you through a simple five-step framework you can use right away.

In this episode, you will discover:

If you have been waiting to feel ready, check out this episode. Pick one small thing you've been putting off, and press play.

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Have you already said “yes” before even checking your calendar?

You stay up late finishing a project you never actually wanted to take on, wondering how you ended up here again. Every time a new request lands on your plate, your reflex takes over before you can even think: It’s just easier to say yes.

But that ease is an illusion. You are the one left depleted, resentful toward people you actually like. And here is the part that stings: you get overlooked anyway. Because you have made your workload look so invisible, nobody even realizes how much you are actually carrying.

Whether it’s a boss who assumes you are always available, a friend who defaults to you for the tasks nobody else wants, or a partner who has learned that asking you is the path of least resistance—your automatic "yes" is rarely questioned because everyone around you experiences it as your strength.

Here is the truth: saying yes was never the safer choice. It just feels that way because the bill doesn't arrive until later.

In this episode, you will discover:

If you are exhausted, running on fumes, and too tired to enjoy the things that used to bring you joy, check out this episode.

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You’ve reread that last text so many times you know it by heart. You’ve checked their social media at 11 p.m., promising yourself it’s the last time. You keep thinking: If I just knew why, I could finally let this go.

But that closure conversation never happens. The text never comes. And you’re left trapped in a loop, letting someone else's silence determine when you get to feel okay again.

Whether it’s an ex who disappeared or a friendship that faded without explanation, you don't need their apology to move forward.

In this episode, Tanja breaks down why your brain gets stuck in these looping thoughts and shares the exact tools you need to interrupt the pattern. Tune in to discover how to create your own closure—no explanation from them required.

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You fall asleep the second your head hits the pillow. Then, at 3:00 AM, your eyes snap open. Your heart is racing, your mind is on overdrive, and you're staring at the clock while counting down the precious hours of sleep you have left.

If this sounds familiar, your midnight wake-up isn't a random fluke. It is a direct signal from your body.

Your nervous system spends all day absorbing the stress of being the responsible, capable, "go-to" person. When the world finally goes quiet, your daytime habits catch up to you, triggering a physical chain reaction that jolts you awake.

In this episode, we dive into:

Hit play to understand exactly why your body is waking you up, and get the simple tools to fix it tonight.

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Are you feeling completely overwhelmed by trying to keep everyone happy? In this episode, we dive into a habit that secretly drains our time and sanity: over-explaining. If you are tired of justifying your choices, your schedule, or your boundaries to everyone in your life, this is your reminder: You don’t owe everyone an explanation.

Tune in to learn why we do it and how to stop the pattern.

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"I used to be able to do so much more."

"I used to have so much energy — I have no idea where it went."

If you’ve had those thoughts, this episode is for you.

You keep showing up. Keep pushing through. Keep taking care of everyone and everything on your list. But in the background, you're comparing yourself to a version of you that used to have more energy, fit into smaller clothes, and never seemed to run out of steam.

Comparing your current self to a past “ideal” version of yourself isn't just unhelpful — it's based on a version of the story that was never actually sustainable in the first place. In this episode Tanja unpacks what’s really going on (hint: it's not laziness, and it's not just aging) and what to do when those frustrating thoughts pop up.

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Out of the blue you get a message from an ex you haven't talked to in a long time. This person betrayed you. And he pops back up as if nothing happened. “Hey” 👋

You’ve done a lot of work on yourself. You’ve forgiven him and moved on. And now you are wondering - should you respond?

If you have ever thought “There’s no harm in a few texts or an occasional call”, this episode is for you. The text or calls actually come with a price. We're getting into why it's hard to resist the temptation of reconnecting and what's actually going on when someone like that from your past resurfaces.

I’ll share with you a simple way to make a decision about responding from a clear, grounded place instead of getting swept up in the moment – and regretting it later. Many smart, self-aware women get confused about the difference between forgiveness and right of access. Those are different things.

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You just can’t stop thinking about a conversation you recently had. Your brain replays every word it, analyzes what you said, what they said, and what you should have said instead. Sound familiar?

This spiral, the ruminating, is your nervous system trying to protect you from uncertainty. The problem is, it doesn't actually find an answer. It just sucks your time, your energy and your focus. You end up in that thinking loop for hours or days.

In this episode, I'm sharing a simple process that I've been using for about 20 years to interrupt that loop in real time. Together, we’ll walk through it so you can practice it in real time.

If you've ever lost hours or even days to overthinking something you had no control over, this one's for you.

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Do you feel that pull the second someone you love starts to hurt?

That urge to jump in, say the right thing, fix it, make it stop before they've even finished the sentence. It usually means you have a lot of empathy. But over time it can wear you out.

Someone you love who's struggling and you feel like you have to be the one to make it okay. So you jump in. You fix. You carry it. And then... they don't seem grateful. Or they push back on your help. Or you're just left exhausted, wondering why supporting the people you love costs you so much.

You're not too sensitive. You're not doing it wrong. But there's a difference between empathy and enmeshment and many of us were never taught where that line is.

In this episode, I walk through:

You'll walk away with one simple practice you can start using right away. No more losing yourself when you want to help someone who feels bad.

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