It’s Motivational Monday friends and there’s been a common theme coming up in my client calls lately and I usually take that as a sign that there are more people out there struggling in a similar area.
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So... onto today's episode! The topic of today is finding our passion, our purpose, and knowing why we’re here.
I want to first start with a little bit of psychological background here because it’s important. When we arrive to this point of our lives where we’re questioning what our purpose is, we’ve arrived to an existential question.
Those who are existentially awake are usually deeply oriented to understanding the meaning of their life, cultivating authenticity and full expression of who they are, living intentionally (or making the most of their time here), and living a purpose driven life.
Our life purpose isn’t always a super easy thing to awaken to, especially when we feel as though we’re good at lots of things or in some cases “not good at anything”. This becomes increasingly frustrating when we’re told that to find our life purpose, simply follow our passions or talents and these aren’t always abundantly clear. Elizabeth Gilbert has an amazing TED talk on this. Watch it here.
I’ve had conversation with several clients over the past few weeks as they’ve been struggling with this existential issue – what is my life path? What am I here to do?
These are the kinds of questions that can paralyze us. The not knowing can feel like such a vast gap in our lives and it seems the more we try and think it through, the more frustrated we become. There’s a reason for that.
When it comes to identifying your passions, or even interests, we can’t think about these things and determine if they’re “our thing”. We must do them, we must experience them. This is the only way.
Why? Because alignment is something that is felt. Not something that is cognitively constructed. It isn’t something that you can think through. It’s something you feel. And the only way we can know how something truly feels is to do it!
Think of it this way, someone can tell you all day and all night what it's going to feel like to give birth, but you won't know exactly what it feels like until you actually do it! Same philosophy!
As I look back on my life and understanding my life purpose, I’ve become clearer and clearer by trying lots of things. There’s just as much value as knowing something “is not it” as there is in knowing something “is”. Both provide clarity, clarity in which we can only get by actually trying something on, following a path a little ways, dipping our toe in the water of something to see how it makes us feel.
Are we more intrigued or interested in this thing? Does it rub us the wrong way? Does it create an immediate “no” for us? How will we know if we don’t try?
The thing that keeps most of us from trying are two fears: 1. What if it isn’t it?
2. What if I’m not good at it?
In the first scenario, we often fear that exploring this path only to find out it isn’t the right one will be a waste of time and a waste of money, but learning more about what you like and don’t like is never a waste of time or money. In fact, that’s some of the most valuable self-exploration you can ever do.
It’s a big world out there, guys! Trying to narrow down your “thing” when there are a million things can feel completely overwhelming! Having an experience in one area and
