In this episode of the Estranged Heart Podcast, Kreed delves into the concept of tunnel vision and its impact on estranged relationships, particularly between parents and adult children. Kreed explains how tunnel vision can lead to a narrowed perspective, preventing individuals from seeing the full context of their estrangement. The discussion emphasizes the importance of recognizing this phenomenon to foster healing and understanding. Kreed encourages listeners to explore their emotional responses and consider the broader picture of their relationships, ultimately advocating for a more open-minded approach to communication and reconciliation.

TAKEAWAYS

• Stress can narrow our capacity to understand complex situations.

• Healing requires a willingness to explore beyond certainty.

• Both parents and adult children can fall into tunnel vision.

• Curiosity is essential for healing and understanding.

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In this episode of Dear Estranged Heart, Kreed talks about what to do when your adult child sends a message that feels more like an echo than a connection.

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In this episode, Kreed the complexities of identity and healing through the lens of complex PTSD (CPTSD). The discussion emphasizes how trauma shapes our identities and the protective mechanisms we develop to cope with emotional pain. Kreed encourages listeners to question the notion of 'this is just who I am' and to consider that these identities may be survival strategies rather than true reflections of self. The episode highlights the importance of unlearning these protective identities to reconnect with one's true essence and emphasizes that change is a natural part of personal growth.

Takeaways

• Identities formed from trauma can hinder connection.

• What we call personality may actually be protection.

• Change can feel dangerous for those with trauma.

• Healing requires unlearning protective identities.

• True essence is tender, curious, and wired for connection.

• Changing who you are is not betrayal, it's becoming.

• Reconciliation happens through vulnerability and authenticity.

  
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In this conversation, Kreed Revere explores the complexities of estrangement and healing. She emphasizes that estrangement is a form of self-preservation and not a reflection of coldness or unforgiveness. The discussion highlights the significance of healing and intentionality in breaking generational cycles, advocating for compassion and self-awareness in navigating family dynamics.

Takeaways

• Breaking cycles involves healing what the distance reveals.

• Boundaries should reflect healing, not hurt.

• Inner work creates options, not obligations.

• Healthy relationships are not about perfection.

• Breaking generational cycles requires living with complexity.

• Your journey is about becoming more of yourself.
  

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In this episode, Kreed delves into the feelings of disrespect that parents often experience when their adult children assert their independence, linking these feelings to unresolved childhood traumas. The discussion emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own emotional triggers and the need for healing to foster healthier relationships. Kreed  encourages parents to reflect on their past experiences and to seek support in their journey towards emotional safety and connection with their children.

Takeaways

• The feeling of disrespect often stems from unresolved childhood issues.

• Parents may interpret their adult child's independence as disrespect due to past experiences.

• Dysregulation in adult children can be misinterpreted as disrespect by parents.

• Control in parenting often arises from a desire for emotional safety.

• Respect demanded through control is actually fear-based, not love-based.

• Reactivity in parents can signal deeper emotional issues from their past.

• Self-regulation is a skill that can be learned and practiced.

• Estrangement can reveal underlying childhood wounds that need attention.

• Support and healing are crucial for both parents and children in estranged relationships.

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In this mini episode, Kreed explores the complex emotions surrounding estrangement, particularly focusing on the responses that may seem empowering but are rooted in pain. Through a poignant example, Kreed highlights the importance of understanding the underlying grief and trauma that often fuels defensive reactions. The conversation emphasizes the need for compassion, healing, and the recognition of shared humanity in estranged relationships, advocating for a shift in perspective that fosters hope and connection rather than bitterness and resentment.

Takeaways

• Responses to estrangement often come from deep pain.

• Defensive reactions can hinder the healing process.

• Compassion and hope are essential for healing.

• We must avoid painting estranged children as monsters.

• Healing cannot start from a place of hate.

• True strength lies in staying open to love.

• Grief is a sacred experience that deserves space.

• We should speak from our scars, not our swords.

  
  

  
  

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Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services

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To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode, Kreed explores the complex relationship between estranged parents and their children, particularly focusing on the impact of Complex PTSD (CPTSD) on parenting. The discussion highlights how unresolved trauma can lead to emotional neglect and unintentional harm to children. Kreed emphasizes the importance of recognizing emotional wounds, understanding the difference between effort and impact, and the necessity of breaking the cycle of trauma. The episode concludes with a call to action for parents to embrace curiosity and connection over defensiveness and pride, fostering healing and understanding in their relationships with their children.

Takeaways

• CPTSD can significantly affect parenting styles.

• Parents often compare their trauma to their child's pain..

• Listening to a child's hurt is an act of love.

• Curiosity can replace defensiveness in conversations.

  
  

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Email: [email protected]

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To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the often unseen wounds of complex PTSD (CPTSD) and how they can shape the experiences of estranged mothers. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own trauma and its impact on parenting and relationships. Kreed provides insights into the symptoms of CPTSD, the significance of emotional safety, and the responsibility of individuals to recognize and address their trauma adaptations. The episode encourages listeners to embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing, highlighting that change is possible and that leading with love is essential in navigating estrangement and reconciliation.

Takeaways

• CPTSD is often unrecognized in mothers, impacting their emotional development and parenting.

• Symptoms of CPTSD can manifest in various ways, including hypervigilance and emotional reactivity.

• Understanding one's own trauma is crucial for healing and improving relationships.

• Estrangement often stems from unresolved trauma and emotional safety issues.

• Recognizing trauma adaptations is a responsibility that can interrupt negative patterns.

• Healing is possible, and individuals can change into better versions of themselves.

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Email: [email protected]

Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services

(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)

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To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode Kreed explores the concept of echo chambers in the context of estrangement. She discusses how these echo chambers can provide comfort and validation but ultimately hinder emotional growth, understanding and healing. Kreed emphasizes the importance of seeking out diverse perspectives and challenging oneself to break free from the confines of echo chambers to foster healing and reconciliation in estranged relationships.

Takeaways

- True healing begins when we start asking the hard questions out loud.

- Echo chambers can stabilize your emotional freefall but can also become a cage.

- Support is essential, but it must invite growth, not just comfort.

- Curiosity over certainty is key to emotional growth.

- Reconciliation requires embracing change and leaving the echo chamber.

www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email: [email protected]

Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)

The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership

Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)

https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this conversation, Kreed emphasizes that it is never too late to attempt reconciliation, but it requires patience, healing, and understanding. The process can be lengthy and challenging and involves doing personal healing work to respond rather than react to the estrangement. Kreed encourages listeners to approach the situation with compassion and to be respectful of their adult children's feelings while working towards rebuilding the relationship.

Takeaways

- It's never too late to try to fix things.

- Rebuilding relationships can take time and patience.

- The reconciliation process may not go as envisioned.

- Doing your own healing work is crucial.

- Reconciliation requires consistent effort and authenticity.

- Negative feelings should not be a permanent residence.

- It's important to be comfortable with the pace of healing.

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Email: [email protected]

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GROUPS:

The Heart Collective Membership for Estranged Moms

The Heart Collective - Estranged Moms Group

The Heart Collective Membership for Reconciled Moms

The Heart Collective - Reconciled Moms Group

Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)

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UPCOMING EVENTS:
Book Club (starting 06.04.2025) - Must be a member of The Heart Collective Membership for Estranged or Reconciled Moms

Estranged Moms - The Heart Collective - Estranged Moms Group

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Estranged Moms Support Group - 8 weeks (starting 06.05.2025) Estranged Moms 8-week Support Group & Group Coaching

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