In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the often unseen wounds of complex PTSD (CPTSD) and how they can shape the experiences of estranged mothers. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own trauma and its impact on parenting and relationships. Kreed provides insights into the symptoms of CPTSD, the significance of emotional safety, and the responsibility of individuals to recognize and address their trauma adaptations. The episode encourages listeners to embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing, highlighting that change is possible and that leading with love is essential in navigating estrangement and reconciliation.

Takeaways

• CPTSD is often unrecognized in mothers, impacting their emotional development and parenting.

• Symptoms of CPTSD can manifest in various ways, including hypervigilance and emotional reactivity.

• Understanding one's own trauma is crucial for healing and improving relationships.

• Estrangement often stems from unresolved trauma and emotional safety issues.

• Recognizing trauma adaptations is a responsibility that can interrupt negative patterns.

• Healing is possible, and individuals can change into better versions of themselves.

www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email: [email protected]

Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services

(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)

THE HEART COLLECTIVE

Estranged Moms ONLY - https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-moms

Reconciled Moms ONLY - https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-heart-members

To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode Kreed explores the concept of echo chambers in the context of estrangement. She discusses how these echo chambers can provide comfort and validation but ultimately hinder emotional growth, understanding and healing. Kreed emphasizes the importance of seeking out diverse perspectives and challenging oneself to break free from the confines of echo chambers to foster healing and reconciliation in estranged relationships.

Takeaways

- True healing begins when we start asking the hard questions out loud.

- Echo chambers can stabilize your emotional freefall but can also become a cage.

- Support is essential, but it must invite growth, not just comfort.

- Curiosity over certainty is key to emotional growth.

- Reconciliation requires embracing change and leaving the echo chamber.

www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email: [email protected]

Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)

The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership

Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)

https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this conversation, Kreed emphasizes that it is never too late to attempt reconciliation, but it requires patience, healing, and understanding. The process can be lengthy and challenging and involves doing personal healing work to respond rather than react to the estrangement. Kreed encourages listeners to approach the situation with compassion and to be respectful of their adult children's feelings while working towards rebuilding the relationship.

Takeaways

- It's never too late to try to fix things.

- Rebuilding relationships can take time and patience.

- The reconciliation process may not go as envisioned.

- Doing your own healing work is crucial.

- Reconciliation requires consistent effort and authenticity.

- Negative feelings should not be a permanent residence.

- It's important to be comfortable with the pace of healing.

www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email: [email protected]

Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services

(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)

GROUPS:

The Heart Collective Membership for Estranged Moms

The Heart Collective - Estranged Moms Group

The Heart Collective Membership for Reconciled Moms

The Heart Collective - Reconciled Moms Group

Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)

https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

UPCOMING EVENTS:
Book Club (starting 06.04.2025) - Must be a member of The Heart Collective Membership for Estranged or Reconciled Moms

Estranged Moms - The Heart Collective - Estranged Moms Group

Reconciled Moms - The Heart Collective Membership - Reconciled Moms Group

Estranged Moms Support Group - 8 weeks (starting 06.05.2025) Estranged Moms 8-week Support Group & Group Coaching

To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode Kreed addresses the emotional complexities faced by adult children who are estranged or have strained relationships with their mothers, particularly around Mother's Day. The conversation explores the feelings of guilt, grief, and the societal pressures surrounding the holiday, emphasizing the importance of self-care and authenticity over performative obligations. Kreed offers insights into the nature of estrangement, the internal conflicts that arise, and provides gentle invitations for healing and self-acceptance.

TAKEAWAYS

- Guilt and grief often coexist in estranged relationships.

- Your feelings of grief are valid and deserve care.

- You do not owe anyone a performance on Mother's Day.

- Creating space for your feelings is essential for healing.

www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email: [email protected]

Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services

(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)

GROUPS:

The Heart Collective Membership for Estranged Moms

Thttps://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-moms

The Heart Collective Membership for Reconciled Moms

https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-heart-members

Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)

https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

UPCOMING EVENTS:
Book Club (starting 06.04.2025) - Must be a member of The Heart Collective Membership for Estranged or Reconciled Moms

Estranged Moms - The Heart Collective - Estranged Moms Group

Reconciled Moms - The Heart Collective Membership - Reconciled Moms Group

Estranged Moms Support Group - 8 weeks (starting 06.05.2025) Estranged Moms 8-week Support Group & Group Coaching

To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this conversation, Kreed addresses the complexities of navigating family dynamics when dealing with estrangement. She emphasizes the importance of validating emotions without placing blame on the estranged child, and offers strategies for maintaining self-regulation during family gatherings. The discussion highlights the need for open communication and understanding, fostering curiosity about the reasons behind estrangement rather than resorting to judgment.

Takeaways

- It's important to validate others' feelings without blaming the estranged child.

- Self-regulation is key to responding rather than reacting.

- Expressing love and appreciation can diffuse tension.

- Conversations can spark curiosity about estrangement.

- Estrangement is often misunderstood as punishment or cruelty.

- Focus on your own experience rather than defending the estranged child.

- Validating emotions can lead to more open discussions.

www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email: [email protected]

Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services

(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)

GROUPS:

The Heart Collective Membership for Estranged Moms

The Heart Collective - Estranged Moms Group

The Heart Collective Membership for Reconciled Moms

The Heart Collective - Reconciled Moms Group

Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)

https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

UPCOMING EVENTS:

Book Club (starting 06.04.2025) - Must be a member of The Heart Collective Membership for Estranged or Reconciled Moms

Estranged Moms - The Heart Collective - Estranged Moms Group

Reconciled Moms - The Heart Collective Membership - Reconciled Moms Group

Estranged Moms Support Group - 8 weeks (starting 06.05.2025)

Estranged Moms 8-week Support Group & Group Coaching

To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode Kreed  addresses the unique challenges faced by estranged mothers, particularly around Mother's Day. She discusses the emotional pain of rejection and invisibility, the societal silence surrounding estrangement, and the deep grief that accompanies it. Kreed  emphasizes the importance of acknowledging this grief and offers insights into healing, self-care, and finding support within a community of understanding individuals. The episode serves as a compassionate space for estranged mothers to feel seen and validated in their experiences.

Takeaways- Grief from estrangement is a legitimate and profound experience.

- Healing is not linear and requires self-compassion.

- Mother's Day can serve as a painful reminder of what is missing.

- It's important to name and acknowledge your grief to begin healing.

- Creating personal rituals can aid in the healing process.

- Support groups can provide a sense of community and understanding.

www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email: [email protected]

Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services

(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)

GROUPS:

The Heart Collective Membership for Estranged Moms

The Heart Collective - Estranged Moms Group

The Heart Collective Membership for Reconciled Moms

The Heart Collective - Reconciled Moms Group

Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)

https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

UPCOMING EVENTS:

Book Club (starting 06.04.2025) - Must be a member of The Heart Collective Membership for Estranged or Reconciled MomsEstranged Moms - The Heart Collective - Estranged Moms Group

Reconciled Moms - The Heart Collective Membership - Reconciled Moms Group

Estranged Moms Support Group - 8 weeks (starting 06.05.2025) Estranged Moms 8-week Support Group & Group Coaching

To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode of the Estranged Heart podcast, host Kreed addresses the challenges faced by estranged parents, particularly mothers and how to turn the pain into power. The conversation emphasizes the importance of community and support in navigating the pain of estrangement. Kreed introduces the Heart Collective, a new membership community aimed at providing resources and connection for estranged moms. The episode explores how collective pain can transform into collective power, encouraging parents to share their grief and find strength in community. Kreed offers insights on healing, personal growth, and the importance of telling one's truth, ultimately guiding listeners towards a path of hope and connection.

TAKEAWAYS

- Collective pain can become collective power when shared in healthy ways.

- Healing is about becoming someone new, not just about reconciliation.

- It's important to choose growth over guilt in the healing process.

- The journey of healing can ripple out to affect future generations.

www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email: [email protected]

Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services

(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)

The HEART Collective (support for estranged moms)

https://zlpphelpyducm4exex0y.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-and-reconciled-heart/home?invite=6818cf1777fb9f6e6ca120d5

To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this conversation, Kreed addresses the emotional challenges faced by estranged mothers during Mother's Day. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and processing feelings of sadness and loss, encouraging mothers to find ways to cope and seek support. Kreed shares practical strategies for managing emotions and highlights the significance of self-care during this difficult time.

Takeaways

- What you're feeling is normal for this experiences.

- It's important to be present with your emotions.

- Your feelings deserve acknowledgment and validation.

- Avoid resisting your emotions; allow them to surface.

- Community and support are vital for healing.

www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email: [email protected]

Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services (private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)

Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed) https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode, Kreed explores the concept of toxic positivity and its impact on emotional well-being and relationships. Through personal anecdotes and insightful quotes, she discusses how forced happiness can lead to emotional invalidation, particularly in parent-child dynamics. Kreed emphasizes the importance of acknowledging real feelings and practicing self-compassion as a means to foster genuine connections and healing.

TAKEAWAYS

• Forced happiness often invalidates real emotions

• Practicing presence is crucial for emotional support

• Toxic positivity can lead to feelings of isolation

• Emotional invalidation occurs when feelings are dismissed
  

www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email: [email protected]

Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)

Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode, Kreed addresses the complexities of reconnecting with estranged adult children. She emphasizes the importance of expressing gratitude and allowing the adult child to lead the communication process. By managing expectations and avoiding overwhelming responses, parents can foster a more open dialogue. Kreed also draws parallels between healing familial relationships and rebuilding trust in romantic partnerships, highlighting the need for patience and understanding.
Take Aways

• Express gratitude to encourage communication.
• Follow the lead of your adult child.
• Avoid overwhelming responses in communication.

• Allow adult children to make choices in the relationship.
• Understand the importance of their feelings over your own.
• Rebuilding trust takes time and patience.
• Seek guidance from supportive communities that are not our echo chambers.
• Be mindful of advice sources during reconciliation.

www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email: [email protected]

Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services (private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)

Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere