The Estranged Heart

In this episode, Kreed discusses the complex dynamics of expectations in parent-adult child relationships, exploring how unspoken beliefs can lead to estrangement. The conversation highlights the importance of communication, validation, and understanding the hidden expectations that often go unexamined. Kreed emphasizes the need for curiosity and self-reflection to navigate these relationships and foster healthier connections.

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The episode explores the concept of wanting our children to suffer as we have and questions why we have this desire. It delves into the idea of reaping what you sow and the belief in karma. Kreed emphasizes that wanting someone else to suffer is not helpful for our own healing and suggests shifting our perspective towards compassion and empathy. She discusses the root causes of this desire, such as a longing to be understood and unaddressed pain and highlights the importance of breaking generational cycles of suffering while offering guidance on how to do so.

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In this episode, Kreed discusses the misconception that estranged children make a deliberate choice to cut off contact with their parents out of spite. Kreed emphasizes that the decision to go no contact is often a last resort for adult children who feel unheard and invalidated. The episode explores the importance of empathy, understanding, and effective communication in bridging the gap between parents and adult children.

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This episode explores the topic of favoritism within families and how it can hinder reconciliation between estranged parents and adult children. Kreed shares personal and professional experiences and discusses the emotional impact of favoritism on the estranged child. The episode highlights the importance of listening to the child's perspective and the damaging effects of labeling one child as the 'good' child. It also explores the reasons why parents engage in favoritism, such as seeking validation, avoiding guilt, and coping with fear and loss. The episode emphasizes the need for reflection, accountability, and understanding in order to facilitate healing and reconciliation.

Favoritism within families can hinder reconciliation between estranged parents and adult children.

Labeling one child as the 'good' child can have a negative impact on the self-esteem of the estranged child.

Parents engage in favoritism for various reasons, such as seeking validation and avoiding guilt.

Reflection, accountability, and understanding are necessary for healing and reconciliation.

Listening to the child's perspective is crucial in addressing the damaging effects of favoritism.

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In this episode, Kreed discusses the use of labels and negative language when describing estranged adult children. She emphasizes the importance of curiosity and understanding, rather than judgment and blame. Kreed encourages parents to shift their perspective and language to foster healing and potential reconciliation. She also acknowledges that this process requires self-awareness, patience, and a willingness to see things differently. Kreed offers exercises and practices to help parents become more aware of their language and to approach their child's behavior with compassion and curiosity.

TAKEAWAYS

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In this episode Kreed explores the topic of enmeshment and how it can lead to estrangement in families. Enmeshment is characterized by a lack of boundaries and difficulty separating oneself from family members. It often involves prioritizing loyalty and emotional attachment above everything else. Enmeshed families may exhibit controlling behavior, guilt tripping, and a lack of individuality. The episode discusses the problems that can result from enmeshment, such as parentification and difficulty forming healthy relationships. It also provides suggestions for overcoming enmeshment, including setting boundaries and communicating needs.

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ZOOM Support Groups for: estranged moms, recently reconciled moms or estranged adult children

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In this episode, Kreed addresses estranged moms and validates their feelings of pain, sadness, and confusion. She acknowledges the trauma of being rejected by their children and the societal pressure on mothers. Kreed emphasizes the importance of validating these feelings and seeking support to heal and move forward. She also highlights the need for self-compassion and finding one's identity beyond motherhood.

http://www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email Kreed at: [email protected]

Coaching with Kreed - https://TheEstrangedHeart-scheduler.as.me/COACHING

Facebook Support Group for estranged moms: facilitated by Kreed: https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

If you wish to become a financial supporter of the podcast and Kreed's work with estranged parents & adult children:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere  (one time donation)

In this episode, Kreed explores the question that every estranged parent asks: 'I wonder if they even miss me?' She discusses the complexities of the parent-child relationship and the reasons why adult children may not immediately reconcile with their parents. Kreed emphasizes the importance of understanding the emotions and experiences of both parents and adult children, as well as the need for healing and personal growth. She encourages parents to approach reconciliation with curiosity and patience, rather than trying to control or manipulate their children. Ultimately, Kreed reminds listeners that while their children may miss them, it is crucial to prioritize healthy and nurturing relationships.

Takeaways

Adult children do miss their parents, but they may not miss the constant chaos and people-pleasing that often accompanies the relationship.

Reconciliation requires understanding and addressing the pain and trust issues on both sides.

Parents need to do their own healing work and develop curiosity and patience to create healthy and sustainable relationships.

Approaching reconciliation with control, guilt-tripping, or manipulation will only hinder the process.

http://www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email Kreed at: [email protected]

Coaching with Kreed - https://TheEstrangedHeart-scheduler.as.me/COACHING

Facebook Support Group for estranged moms: facilitated by Kreed: https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

If you wish to become a financial supporter of the podcast and Kreed's work with estranged parents & adult children:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere  (one time donation)

In this episode, Kreed interviews an adult daughter who is estranged from her father for just shy of a decade. This is part II of the interview that discusses the relationship in current times. Part I gives the relational history.

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http://www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email Kreed at: [email protected]

Coaching with Kreed - https://TheEstrangedHeart-scheduler.as.me/COACHING

Facebook Support Group for estranged moms: facilitated by Kreed: https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

If you wish to become a financial supporter of the podcast and Kreed's work with estranged parents & adult children:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere  (one time donation)

In this episode, Kreed interviews an adult daughter who is estranged from her father and has been for nearly a decade. This is part I of her story.

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http://www.TheEstrangedHeart.com

Email Kreed at: [email protected]

Coaching with Kreed - https://TheEstrangedHeart-scheduler.as.me/COACHING

Facebook Support Group for estranged moms: facilitated by Kreed: https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

If you wish to become a financial supporter of the podcast and Kreed's work with estranged parents & adult children:  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere  (one time donation)