On this episode of Inner Confidence Podcast, Robbie Kramer is joined by Amir to discuss dating strategies and navigating the challenges that come with scheduling. The conversation covers topics such as flaking, symmetric investment levels in relationships, and putting pressure on potential partners. Host Kramer shares his passion for improving men’s love lives and recommends [...]

233: The Ethics of Flaking – Understanding Symmetric Investment Levels in Dating

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 Robbie's Texting Course: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/texting⁠
 Free Download of The Dating Protocol: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/newsletter⁠
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Intro:
Today, our host Robbie Kramer sits down with Baillee, whose life journey offers a profound look into personal evolution, the complexity of relationships, and societal perceptions. Raised in a conservative Mormon community, Baillee's early departure from the church set a backdrop to her unique experiences, shaping her views on everything from dating to self-worth.
In this episode, Bailee candidly discusses her disapproval of visible tattoos, her navigation through the choppy waters of love—including a significant relationship that intensified unexpectedly due to unforeseen circumstances—and her adventures in the L.A. party scene. She also shares insights into her struggles with societal norms and personal relationships, which led her from feeling undervalued to embracing a life of empowerment and self-discovery.
Throughout their conversation, Robbie and Bailee delve into themes of social status, dating stereotypes, and the nuances of online dating platforms like Hinge, Bumble, and Tinder. They also touch on the psychological impacts of behaviors like 'love bombing' and how these dynamics play out in modern dating.
Join us as Bailee opens up about her transformation from a young girl in a restrictive community to a confident woman charting her own course, often challenging the conventions she grew up with. It's an episode packed with honest reflections and invaluable lessons on confidence, resilience, and the journey to finding one's voice.


Timestamps:

  00:00 Navigating upbringing, desires, and relationships on podcast.
  09:08 Unaware of dad's alcoholism, shaping dating habits.
  15:45 Free dating guide helps achieve dating success.
  16:20 Traditional dating methods don't work for top-tier women.
  23:13 Dad waters plants, brother sees girls, fashion critique.
  32:20 Staggered into mutual party, ruined potential relationship.
  35:55 Mom married into Mormon church, found support.
  42:10 Apply to inner confidence community for social growth.
  48:09 Navigating different cultures, music, and social circles.
  51:54 Social dynamics at the table and dating.
  58:50 Dating scene challenges leading to toxic behaviors.
  01:00:37 Experience allows quick judgment in Malcolm Gladwell's Blink.
  01:09:33 Burning Man: Unique desert celebration with debauchery.
  01:10:47 "Pretty girls attract rich, awkward guys."
  01:19:07 Respect space, don't play games to win.
  01:20:59 Group chat dynamics, slow burn relationships, choices.
  01:28:23 Dating apps provide freedom; social circles create obligations.
  01:33:27 Encouraging listeners to leave a five-star review.



Connect w/ Robbie: 

  Instagram:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/⁠⁠⁠ 
  TikTok:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer⁠⁠⁠ 
  YouTube:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence ⁠⁠⁠ 
  Thank you for tuning in, and I look forward to helping you build your inner confidence and achieve success! 
  Book a call with Robbie: ⁠https://calendly.com/robbiekramer/strategy-call⁠



From Modest Mormon to Festival Babe: What Beautiful Liberated Women Really Want

Links:
Robbie's Texting Course: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/texting⁠
Free Download of The Dating Protocol: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/newsletter⁠
Apply For The IC Community: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/community⁠


Intro:
Today's episode takes us on a deep dive into the transformation of the dating and pickup industry into what's now known as the red pill movement and beyond. We'll explore the nuances of male and female aging and discuss why it may be easier for older men to date younger women.
Robbie opens up about his initial skepticism toward self-help dating advice and how "The Game" by Neil Strauss sparked a pivotal change after a breakup. We'll hear riveting tales of Robbie's days partying it up in Eastern Europe, hosting soirees that painted the town red, and the introspective journey that led him from casual flings to finding fulfillment in coaching men on relationships and self-acceptance.
Touching on the delicate topic of men's belief in their ability to improve dating success, we will dissect perceptions, realities, and the pivotal "player zone." We share our own transformation from the world of casual relationships to searching for meaningful connections, echoing the collective journey many of us take.


Timestamps:

 00:00 Dating advice, pickup industry, and self-confidence discussion.
 08:33 Engaging in personal growth through landmark education.
  15:58 Learning to converse with women transformed me.
  18:16 Boosting masculinity through pickup strategies, but self-improvement.
  24:36 Lifestyle of partying and networking with models.
  30:55 Novelty of new experiences wore off, taxing.
  36:05 Experienced college flings, followed by self-discovery and dating.
  41:26 Internet pickup culture evolves into red pill movement.
  47:09 Lance Mason founded body language for dating.
  50:27 Confident body language reflects self-esteem, mirroring others.
  56:05 Involvement in esoteric teachings, skepticism, and disillusionment.
  01:03:12 Coaching, dating, and finding friends in Ukraine.
  01:07:45 Repeating toxic patterns in relationships, seeking counseling.
  01:12:17 Partying in Europe, with models and friends.
  01:15:51 Group of friends met at music festival.
  01:20:35 Online dating is tough, unless wealthy or seeking.
  01:25:17 2016 mystery involving derelict and chalkboard lesson.
  01:35:05 Using quotes for inspiration, friends, and motivation.
  01:40:44 Struggling with interviews, unclear about achievements.
  01:43:34 Encouraging review and invitation to exclusive community.



Connect w/ Robbie: 
Instagram:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/⁠⁠⁠ 
TikTok:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer⁠⁠⁠ 
YouTube:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence ⁠⁠⁠ 
Thank you for tuning in, and I look forward to helping you build your inner confidence and achieve success! 
Book a call with Robbie: ⁠https://calendly.com/robbiekramer/strategy-call⁠


The Evolution of Pickup to Purposeful Connections

Links:
Robbie's Texting Course: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/texting⁠
Free Download of The Dating Protocol: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/newsletter⁠
Apply For The IC Community: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/community⁠


Intro:
Today, we'll be diving deep into a topic that touches many relationships - dealing with boredom. We all know that relationships can lose their initial spark as the lustre of new love fades. But what lies beyond the excitement? Can we find a richer, more nuanced form of connection?
In this episode about dealing with relationship boredom, we'll analyze the intricacies of long-term commitment and how the initial rush of passion can transform into a comforting sense of home and security. 
We'll hear from two of our clients as they navigate their own challenges, from anxiety over labeling a relationship to knowing when it's time to seek variety or move on to new horizons. 
And I'll share some of my personal journey from prioritizing sexual conquests to recognizing the value in deeper, more intellectual connections with partners.
We'll also explore how societal norms and mental health intertwine with our concepts of monogamy and commitment.
So, whether you find yourself pressured to define a relationship, wondering how to maintain attraction over time, or simply searching for ways to reinvigorate your partnership, this episode is tailored for you.


Timestamps:

 00:00 Navigating casual dating, monogamy, and relationships with women.
 05:17 Unwilling to address uncertain relationship and feelings.
  07:35 "I doubt I'll care much about family."
  12:37 Struggle with boredom, prefer monogamy for happiness.
  15:16 Wealth loses appeal; pursue meaningful experiences instead.
  19:00 Mutual commitment essential; communication and understanding vital.
  21:50 Humans tend towards polygamy with periods of monogamy.
  23:39 Overcoming lust and desire leads to freedom.
  29:26 Struggle with intimacy, find balance in rejection.
  32:55 Seek power through emotions, not just accomplishments.
  34:05 Transition from business success to personal fulfillment.
  36:52 Honor intelligent part, accept lack of knowledge.



Connect w/ Robbie: 
Instagram:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/⁠⁠⁠ 
TikTok:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer⁠⁠⁠ 
YouTube:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence ⁠⁠⁠ 
Thank you for tuning in, and I look forward to helping you build your inner confidence and achieve success! 
Book a call with Robbie: ⁠https://calendly.com/robbiekramer/strategy-call⁠


Bored with your partner? Discover if true joy lies in monogamy or beyond (Ep 267)

Links:

 Robbie's Texting Course: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/texting⁠
 Free Download of The Dating Protocol: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/newsletter⁠
  Apply For The IC Community: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/community⁠


Timestamps:

  00:00 She invited me, I made new friends.
  03:52 Reversing dating protocol leads to successful outcome.
  09:41 Puppy dog failure led to embarrassing outcome.
  10:52 Few slots open in exclusive men's community. Apply now.



Connect w/ Robbie: 

  Instagram:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/⁠⁠⁠ 
  TikTok:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer⁠⁠⁠ 
  YouTube:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence ⁠⁠⁠ 
  Thank you for tuning in, and I look forward to helping you build your inner confidence and achieve success! 
  Book a call with Robbie: ⁠https://calendly.com/robbiekramer/strategy-call⁠


Date Game Tactics: Navigating the Invite to Meet Her Friends on Date One or Two (Ep 266)

Links:

 Robbie's Texting Course: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/texting⁠
 Free Download of The Dating Protocol: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/newsletter⁠
  Apply For The IC Community: ⁠https://www.innerconfidence.com/community⁠
  Guest Link: Ryan's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/theryan.black/




Throughout this episode, we'll highlight the transformational potential of social freedom exercises and mindset shifts that go beyond traditional pickup strategies. We’ll encourage you to find power in vulnerability and build a social circle that reflects your true values. 
Together, we examine the fascinating dynamics between high-status men, "bad boy" images, and the pursuit of authentic connections. 
So, whether you're well-versed in the dating scene or simply seeking to enhance your social prowess, this episode promises a wealth of wisdom to help you foster genuine connections and move towards a life of inner confidence.


Timestamps:

  09:16 Differentiating between wants and needs, especially in dating.
  11:13 Traditional approach to social freedom and seduction.
  16:06 Dependence on others for self-worth is detrimental.
  21:11 Last minute parachute, thrilling but not transformative.
  28:59 Early negative experiences shaped my relationship views.
  36:44 Realization of copying others' experiences, social status.
  41:01 Signal fun, not seriousness, in dating life.
  43:08 Success in dating depends on personality type.
  49:37 Achieve success with $10K a month.
  54:41 Achieve high status, attract women, overcome fear.
  01:00:39 Life transformed through personal development program investment.
  01:07:25 Mystery method reinforces bad social conditioning.
  01:13:10 Be present, let subconscious guide interactions.
  01:15:11 Javier Bardem's character makes bold, clear advance.



Connect w/ Robbie: 
Instagram:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/⁠⁠⁠ 
TikTok:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer⁠⁠⁠ 
YouTube:⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence ⁠⁠⁠ 
Thank you for tuning in, and I look forward to helping you build your inner confidence and achieve success! 
Book a call with Robbie: ⁠https://calendly.com/robbiekramer/strategy-call⁠

233: The Ethics of Flaking – Understanding Symmetric Investment Levels in Dating

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