So we all get that monkey mind, you know that part of your mind that thinks obsessive repetitive thoughts, that chatters constantly, that is always telling you how wrong you are, that you shouldn't have said something, that's constantly niggling at you, that tells you you are stupid, that makes your mind race with thoughts that don't even serve you and so on...To calm your monkey mind, you need to embrace it and make peace with it and accept it but there are also times when we need to let go of those thoughts when they don't feel good and this is how we can start to do that.

A few weeks ago I changed my 'to do' list to a 'get to do' list.  I did this because I found myself getting overwhelmed and frustrated with my long list of to dos and decided to see how it felt to re-frame this. My 'get to do' list helps me to be more appreciative of all the things I have in my life, all the freedom that I experience in so many areas and how much I have access to in my life.  Try this and see how your attitude changes when you appreciate that you get to do all those things when so many people in this world just aren't as lucky as you.

How often do you beat yourself up and agonise over every little thing - maybe something you said or a situation where you felt you weren't your best self for some reason.But how about we all just celebrate the fact that we are human and recognise that messing up sometimes is just all part of this beautiful experience.  As long as we are doing our best with the highest good of others in mind, we need to drop that shame energy and just be at ease with this human side of us.

So society (at least as I know it), encourages us to suppress our emotions.  Logic is revered above all else but I don't think we should suppress them - in fact suppressing feelings can be bad for our health in general as they fester inside us.So whilst you don't want to be an emotional wreck wherever you go, you need to be able to feel your feelings in some way - we all need an outlet of some sort.  So here are some ideas that might help you to express your emotions in a safe and effective way.

Affirmations don't work if you are feeling the total opposite inside, especially if you don't believe that they are true - this is a bit frustrating, especially when we create affirmations to help us achieve or be more.  In this episode I talk about how to create affirmations that feel good to you and that are believable.   With just a few tweaks and playing with the words you can create affirmations that you feel totally aligned with so that you can easily drop that resistance.

Our feelings are everything when it comes to our alignment. You may have heard the phrase 'thoughts become things' but its only really part of the story.Its not just what we think, its what we are feeling as a result of this thought.This is why some affirmations dont work, because we dont feel like we are aligned to them and life is a mirror after all - so trying too hard to affirm something that doesn't feel true means you are affirming the absence of it instead.

So lets talk more about this concept of BE-DO-HAVE because this makes a huge difference in so many areas of our life.  Most of us do this back to front.  We think that when I HAVE a certain thing, then I will DO this and then I will BE happy or whatever.But this just isn't how it works.  We must BE the energy of what we want before we can HAVE it.  So we need to BE that energy state and DO what someone who has that thing has already, and then we will HAVE what we want because we are aligned to it.  This stops you holding everything apart from you in this future state.  We will continue to explore this in some future episodes with more real examples that can help you.

I am so having fun with this little phrase - not just when I recorded this but I have also carried this on ever since.  My lovely friend sent this to me when I needed it most (thank you lovely friend - you know who you are!) and this phrase was TGIF - Thank God I'm Fabulous - and I decided the very next day to start adding this to all my sentences, especially my self talk and it makes me smile every time I do it. It feels light to me and it lifts my energy.So why not pick your vibe lifter phase today, either this one or one of your own that feels great and use it all day long just to see how amazing it makes you feel.