Many parents come to Family Court thinking the Judge will focus on every complaint they have about the other parent.
In reality, Judges are usually looking at something very different.
In this episode of The Ex-Files - The Divorce and Separation Podcast, Australian family lawyers Alex Wynn and Liza Friedwald discuss what Judges look for in parenting cases and why the Court’s focus is not on scoring points, proving who is the “better” parent, or revisiting every disagreement from the relationship.
They explain how parenting cases are approached through the lens of the child’s best interests, including safety, practicality, risk, credible evidence, decision-making and the importance of keeping children out of parental conflict.
In this episode, we discuss:
• Why what matters to a parent may not be what matters to a Judge.
• Why equal shared time is not automatic.
• The importance of safe, practical and sustainable parenting arrangements.
• Why parenting cases are not about scoring points.
• Risk allegations, notices of risk and the need for evidence.
• How child-focused behaviour can help in parenting proceedings.
• Why children should not be interrogated, coached or made to keep secrets.
• Credibility, consistency and avoiding exaggeration in affidavit material.
• Decision-making responsibility when parents cannot communicate.
• Family Reports, Independent Children’s Lawyers and the influence they can have.
• Why micromanaging the other household may not help your case.
Key Takeaways
• The Court is focused on the child’s best interests, not every parenting disagreement.
• Equal time is not the automatic starting point.
• Parenting arrangements need to be safe, practical and realistic.
• Judges look closely at whether parents are genuinely child-focused.
• Badmouthing the other parent, withholding children or involving children in conflict can be damaging.
• Evidence should be consistent, relevant and supported by independent records where possible.
• Risk allegations should be handled carefully and not exaggerated.
• Family reports and ICLs can be important, but they are not perfect processes.
• Parents have responsibilities, and children have rights.
• A strong parenting case is practical, reasonable, evidence-based and focused on the child rather than the conflict.
Chapters
00:00 - Introduction and Overview
04:25 - Best Interests of the Child and Practical Parenting Arrangements
09:23 - Risk Allegations and Evidence
16:09 - Child-Focused Behaviour and Co-Parenting
21:54 - Credibility, Evidence and Decision-Making
27:07 - Family Reports, ICLs and Final Considerations
Contact (Email)
• Alex Wynn – [email protected]
• Liza Friedwald – [email protected]
Keywords
parenting cases, parenting orders, family law, divorce, separation, Australian family law, Family Court parenting matters, best interests of the child, child-focused parenting, parenting disputes, equal time, decision-making responsibility, family reports, Independent Children’s Lawyer, ICL, notice of risk, family violence, risk allegations, co-parenting, parenting arrangements, family court Australia
Disclaimer
This podcast provides general educational information only and is not legal advice. You should obtain advice specific to your circumstances before making legal or parenting decisions.
