In Episode 9 my guest and I discuss the topic "Maintaining Healthy Relationships". Below are the highlights of our discussion
🎯 In a healthy relationship, both parties are thriving and nobody is stifling the other - 5:25
🎯 A healthy relationship atmosphere fosters growth, openness, honesty, and open communication - 5:48
🎯 To keep our relationships from dying, it is important that they exist in a state of healthiness - 8:17
🎯 Everybody in the home functions more optimally when the environment is healthy - 9:00
🎯 It is important that we exist in healthy relationships because our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health depends on it - 10:48
🎯 A lot of times, things that people are going through in their current relationships is as a result of the dysfunctionality that existed in their family of origin that they haven’t dealt with - 13:17
🎯 For us in Africa, society has over the years built up this narrative of failure for a woman if you are not able to keep your home - 17:51
🎯 It’s more difficult for men to speak up because there’s even less support for them - 20:46
🎯 You can’t give from a place of emptiness, you can’t give what you don’t have - 22:49
🎯 If we are going to invest in our relationships, you must first invest in yourself - 22:58
🎯 It is important that we start with ourselves first, invest first in you and bring yourself first to a place where, if there are things you need to deal with, deal with them, work on yourself and become the best you before you connect with other people - 23:45
🎯 He who will have friends, must show himself friendly - 25:34
🎯 For marital relationships, values are more important than love - 27:52
🎯 - We might not always see eye to eye but we must respect our differences - 28:28
🎯 There’s a maturity level that you need to have to be able to relate with somebody that you are different from in a respectful manner - 28:52
🎯 Differences help us complement each other in relationships because what I don’t have, somebody else can bring into the relationship - 29:09
🎯 If you are struggling in a relationship, don’t isolate yourself, reach out and get help from professional counseling - 30:53
🎯 For people who want things to be better in their relationship, one important thing you can do is to appreciate one another, learn not to take anything for granted - 32:12
Taiye Aluko is a certified Relationship Counselor and Marriage Coach. She has a heart for teaching young couples how to enjoy and not endure marriage. She believes that there will be a decline in mental health issues when marriages work better.
She is the C.E.O of Rare Gems Counselling & Coaching and has over 16 years of experience in couple counseling, actively working in her local church as the Head of the Marriage Counselling Department. Taiye has worked with several couples over the years, helping them to get started in marriage with the right mindset and needed tools for success. She also volunteers at the Ikoyi Marriage Registry, where you will find her on Tuesday mornings, giving talks on principles for a successful marriage. Taiye graduated from the Obafemi Awolowo University in 1991 with a degree in Law and was called to the Nigerian Bar in 1992. She worked in leading law firms before starting an active career in banking, which spanned over 18 years. She left banking to follow her passion in counseling in 2013. Taiye holds an MBA from the PAN African University and certifications in Person-Centered Counselling, Relationship Counselling, Emotional Intelligence, and Psychology Counselling. She is a certified Prepare-Enrich Marriage Preparation facilitator and a Prepare-Enrich Mentor Couple. Taiye is an associate member of the Women in Business and Management and an NLP practitioner in training.
Taiye Aluko's mission is to help couples build solid foundations for healthy
