The Fair Parenting Podcast

Today we look back at my discussion with Mike Bell of the Family Court Reform Coalition (FCRC), which was originally published as episode 11, on 27th November 2022.

Many people, including judges and MPs, have described flaws in the family law system. The flaws seem well known but they persist and harm parents and children. 

Mike brought some people together to produce a report of solid proposals suggesting ways to reform to the system.

In a short space of time the report has been seen by MPs, Sir Andrew McFarlane, Sir Graham Brady and has been sent to the Minister of Justice and the new Home Secretary, Suella Braverman.

We talk about this work, the aims and hopes for the future. We also explore how other people can get involved.

The report can be read here: https://fcrc.uk/final-report
It can be endorsed here: https://fcrc.uk/support-fcrc
The report can also be shared and forwarded to MPs, Lords and people in the system to help change.

Mike’s Links:
https://fcrc.uk
https://twitter.com/FCRCUK
https://equi-law.uk
https://twitter.com/GenderParityUK

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today we look back at my discussion with Collin Hughes on suicide and suicide prevention.

It originally aired as episode 23 on 9/7/2023 and here are the show notes from that episode:

In today's episode we are going to discuss suicide.

I want to take a moment to talk about that before we introduce our guest who has kindly agreed to join us.

In episode 15 we spoke with Lawrence Sprung about his personal experience with suicide and also his work with The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Please revisit it if you are in crisis. The show notes also contain links to help.

Suicide is a topic we feature on this podcast because of its link to parental alienation, family court proceedings, legal abuse, etc.

The result of the extreme trauma caused, sometimes maliciously and for no reason, and sometimes by people who call themselves professionals, can cause suicide in parents and children.

Today’s guest is Collin Hughes. I heard his story a few months ago and I was moved by it.

I hope this episode will reach those listeners going through tough times or listeners who know someone who is.

Collin is a former pro-rodeo athlete, a former airline pilot and is now a voice actor. That’s a pretty interesting sounding trio of careers.

However in 2022 Collin’s 15 year old granddaughter, Evangelina, died by suicide.

Collin has a moving website (https://stopsuicide.life). He also speaks widely on the subject of suicide to raise awareness and I am very grateful he agreed to join us.

During the conversation Collin spoke about the QPR Institute who talk about the 'Question. Persuade. Refer' approach to suicide prevention. Their website is https://qprinstitute.com

Collin’s Links
https://stopsuicide.life

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

Today we look back at my discussion with Justin Breen, which was originally published as episode 17, on 16th April 2023.

Justin is the author of the Wall Street Journal and USA Today Best Selling book Epic Life and runs BREPIC, a PR company.

I first connected with Justin when I saw him online at Peter Diamandis’ Abundance 360 event. Peter’s podcasts and work on exponential change and moonshots are inspiring.

I recently listened to the audiobook of Epic Life and enjoyed it a great deal.

Many of us don’t see our children or see little of them. Most episodes are based on this scenario and it will always be the central focus but we also want to discuss other parenting issues such as education, mediation, busyness, etc. for people in those situations too.

All parents, alienated or not, can have challenges juggling time. Alienated parents have to juggle time with coping with trauma, working on a family court case and trying to work to keep our head above water.

We will discuss Justin’s thoughts on how he keeps his focus on family first.

This episode is also about moonshots. I want to discuss Justin’s idea of moonshots and whether reform of the family court system could be seen as one.

Justin’s Links

https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinbreen1
https://linktr.ee/justinbreen
https://www.brepicllc.com
http://52dates52weeks.com

Today our guest is Professor Ben Hine PhD, CPsychol, FHEA

Ben is a psychologist and Professor of Applied Psychology and Head of the School of Human and Social Sciences at the University of West London.

He is a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society and has a BSc in Psychology and a PhD from Royal Holloway, University of London.

He has published numerous articles in peer-reviewed journals on these topics and has presented his research at conferences around the world. He is a Fellow of the Higher Education Academy and has won several awards for his teaching and contributions to the field of psychology.

His work has explored topics such as implicit bias, prejudice, and discrimination.

He has published numerous articles in top-tier academic journals, including the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, and the European Journal of Social Psychology.

In addition to his research, Professor Hine is also an accomplished teacher and mentor. He has won several awards for his teaching, including the Vice Chancellor's Teaching Excellence Award at the University of Winchester.

His research is wide ranging, including a focus on gender within the criminal justice system and includes two large-scale projects assessing police officers' beliefs and judgements, and rape case reviews in collaboration with the Mayor's Office for Policing and Crime (MOPAC). He has also worked in collaboration with charities Safelives and The Mankind Initiative to conduct large scale case reviews to illuminate the needs of domestic violence victims.

He now leads the Evidence-Based Domestic Abuse Research Network (EBDARN) bringing together researchers from several UK institutions to deliver this work.

He has also researched the impact of family breakdown and experience with institutions such as the family court.

He is a co-founder of the Men and Boys coalition, a network of organisations, academics, journalists, professionals, and leaders committed to highlighting and acting on the gender-specific issues that affect men and boys such as the high male suicide rate, the boy’s educational crisis, and fatherhood.

He also acts as a trustee to The Mankind Initiative, and within the School of Human and Social Sciences, he acts as the Lead for Research and Enterprise.

In this wide ranging discussion Ben discusses Shared Parenting, Family Court and change initiatives and much more.

Links
   
Twitter/X - https://x.com/ProfHine
Ben’s page at the University of West London website - https://www.uwl.ac.uk/staff/ben-hine
Tedx Talk - How Can We Separate Better - https://drbenhine.co.uk/tedx-talk-how-can-we-separate-better/
Book - Parental Alienation: A Contemporary Guide for Parents, Practitioners, and Policymakers -
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Parental-Alienation-Contemporary-Practitioners-Policymakers/dp/B0C9KMYD27

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

Today we look back at my discussion with Anna Maria DiDio, originally published on 23rd June 2023.

Anna Maria lives in Philadelphia. She holds a BA in Psychology from Villanova University and an MSW in Family Specialization from the University of Pennsylvania.

For over twenty years, she has devoted time to non-profit organizations, locally and globally. She has served as President of Women International Leaders (WIL) of Greater Philadelphia, which provides micro-finance loans and empowerment grants to women in under-resourced countries. She is also on the board of Impact100 Philly.

Her parenting journey began with infertility struggles, which were isolating and sent her into depression. After two miscarriages, she was blessed with a baby girl, but adding to her family proved impossible.

That's how she found herself at an orphanage in Mexico, to meet a six-year-old girl who she adopted. Inspired by that journey, she wrote a memoir called Love at the Border, An Adoption Adventure.

Traditionally orphanages are portrayed negatively however Anna Maria speaks warmly of her experience in Mexico and of the Ministerios de Amor shelters which have changed the way Mexico cares for children.

She has also written the ‘L.I.F.E. Adventures’ series of children's books, featuring stories about adoption and foster care. The books cover topics such as trauma, attachment, identity, and grief. Anna Maria’s mission is for parents and educators to use these stories as an effective tool to open up the discussion about adoption, foster care and the love within blended families.

Anna Maria’s Links

Website - https://AMDiDio.com
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/anna.m.didio
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amdidio
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annamariadidio
Book 'Love at the Border: An Adoption Adventure' - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737703505
Book 'How I Wonder Where You Are' - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737703521
Book 'Many People to Love' - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737703513
Twitter - https://twitter.com/amdidio
Impact 100 Philly - https://impact100philly.org

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

Today we look back at my discussion with Jodee Gibson about trauma and coping, which was originally published on 22nd January 2023.

It’s a really good episode, thanks to Jodee, who is a human behaviour expert and master coach.

Jodee is based in Michigan. Her work is deeply layered in developmental psychology, NLP, neuroscience, consciousness, trauma, levels of energy and intention. The intersection she created between these is fascinating. Being a Detroit native, her approach is always practical and conversational.

Jodee coaches and speaks worldwide.

Jodee's book "Healing Your Map: A Guide to Understanding Discernment, Trauma and Human Behavior" is available now (https://a.co/d/eix3SkT) with an audiobook available early 2023.

Many parents suffer trauma through alienation, false allegations and the Family Court system. We discuss this and some methods for coping including NLP, the work of both Richard Bandler and Tony Robbins, Jodee's ideas and her book.

Some of Jodee’s Qualifications
Master's Degree in Organizational Leadership
Licensed NLP Trainer • The Society of NLP
Certified Hypnotherapist
Certified Professional Coach (iPEC)
Professional Certified Coach (ICF)
Certified Trauma & Resilience Practitioner • Starr
Trauma-Certified Practitioner • HeartMath
ELI Master Practitioner (iPEC)
COR.E Dynamics Leadership Specialist
ICF Michigan Executive Board Member
Former ICF Michigan President

Jodee’s links
Website:  https://www.jodeegibson.coach/about
LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodeegibson/
Her Book:  https://a.co/d/eix3SkT
Short video on NLP: https://www.jodeegibson.coach/what-is-nlp

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

Today we look back at my discussion with Mike Smith PhD, which was originally published as episode 21, on 11th June 2023.

He is a digital marketer, executive, podcaster, voice actor, author and, he says, a recovering academic. He lives in California and is the author of the book 'burning America: In the Best Interest of the Children?'.

It is a fictional story in which the main character, Paul, a middle-class professor, has his world shattered when his child is taken by his wife who leaves him a note.

The story ponders the question ‘Do the courts really act in the best interest of the children?’

In the book the parents planned for their child’s home, school, clothes, food, and happiness but then Paul’s five-year old daughter is taken from him and he faces 3 years of hell.

Mick's podcast 'The Aftermath: The Epidemic of Divorce, Custody and Healing' is here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-aftermath-the-epidemic-of-divorce-custody-and-healing/id1647001828

Mick's Links

Website - https://burning-america.com
Book - https://www.amazon.com/stores/G-Mick-Smith/author/B0B59X5R79
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/burningamerica
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/burningamericacommunity
Twitter - https://twitter.com/gmicksmith
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100062440891984
Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@aftermathofdivorce
Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-aftermath-the-epidemic-of-divorce-custody-and-healing/id1647001828

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This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

Today we look back at episode 5 which originally aired on 30th October 2022.

It was the second episode discussing parenting in Christopher Nolan films with @DerickMcduff from the Underrated podcast (@undercastco).

This was a meandering hoot with lots of offshoots! We discuss @Interstellar and also talk music: @Trevor_Horn_, Steve Lipson and @HansZimmer. We also discuss @mrbobodenkirk, @BetterCallSaul and other movies and TV shows.

It was very enjoyable talking with Derick about parenting themes in Christopher Nolan films. I hope you enjoy listening!

Two quick corrections to things I said in this episode:

1. I mentioned Steve Lipson produced Hans Zimmer’s James Bond soundtrack. He co-produced the theme song, not the soundtrack, but Steve Lipson has produced other Hans Zimmer soundtracks.

2. When discussing Hans Zimmer I remembered his Top of the Pops performance incorrectly. If you search on YouTube, he was performing Living in the Plastic Age not Video Killed the Radio Star, although he does appear in the music video for Video Killed The Radio Star briefly. See if you can spot him!

One warning: if you haven’t seen the movies mentioned, this episode may contain spoilers!

Derick’s links are:
Twitter: @DerickMcduff
https://linktr.ee/derickmcduff
https://letterboxd.com/derick89
https://www.instagram.com/dericks_photos

The Underrated podcast:
Twitter @undercastco
https://linktr.ee/Undercastcompany

The original episode aired on 30th October 2022 as episode 5:
https://audioboom.com/posts/8175651-interstellar-derick-mcduff-on-parenting-and-child-separation-in-the-movies

Sounding Like A 'Professional' Podcaster
Most podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests. 

In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk

You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional. :-)

Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:

1) via BuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
2) via Bitcoin to wallet address: bc1qjj4m570y5fav7g6kaj5ml7xz9yad62wk2vm44n 
3) via Etherium to wallet address: 0x2Fd90dd49B191c8f08FEbDfC41ACE3D256e1A865
4) by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform
5) by sharing episodes on social media. 

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. 

Today we look back at my discussion with Derick McDuff about parenting and child separation in the movies, which much of the talk about Christopher Nolan’s film Inception. We also cover other movies and music.  This originally aired as episode 3, way back on 2nd October 2022. If you like today's episode you may also like episode 5 which covered the movie Interstellar (link below).

In this episode we talk movies with Derick McDuff from the Underrated podcast. We discuss Inception as well as E.T., A.I., Minority Report and more. 

You may be wondering why we are talking movies on a parenting podcast. In some episodes I want to discuss parenting and parental alienation themes in movies, books and music. 

Art is one of the most beautiful and powerful things in life and revisiting art can help us get through the dark times of abuse and parental alienation. 

Over 2 episodes we discuss 2 Christopher Nolan films. In this episode we talk @Inception and the next episode will cover @Interstellar.

This episode we also discuss parenting themes in Steven Spielberg’s movies E.T., A.I. and @TomCruise’s role in Minority Report. Finally we touch on @HansZimmer’s music and Groundhog Day. It’s a packed episode!

I had a lot of fun discussing these movies and it was great to get Derick’s insights. 

There are many parental themes in these movies. More than you may think!

One warning: if you haven’t seen the movies mentioned, this episode may contain spoilers! 

Derick’s links are:
https://twitter.com/derickmcduff
https://linktr.ee/derickmcduff
https://letterboxd.com/derick89
https://www.instagram.com/dericks_photos

The Underrated podcast:
https://twitter.com/undercastco
https://linktr.ee/Undercastcompany

The Fair Parenting Podcast:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/FairParentingUK
Email: [email protected]

The original episode aired on 2nd October 2022 as episode 3:
https://audioboom.com/posts/8162825-inception-derick-mcduff-on-parenting-and-child-separation-in-the-movies

There is a companion episode which looks at another Christopher Nolan movie, Interstellar, as well as lots of other films and music. It is episode 5:
https://audioboom.com/posts/8175651-interstellar-derick-mcduff-on-parenting-and-child-separation-in-the-movies

Sounding Like A 'Professional' Podcaster
Most podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests. 

In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk

You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional. :-)

Welcome to the podcast. If you want to support the podcast you can:

1) via BuyMeACoffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk
2) via Bitcoin to wallet address: bc1qjj4m570y5fav7g6kaj5ml7xz9yad62wk2vm44n 
3) via Etherium to wallet address: 0x2Fd90dd49B191c8f08FEbDfC41ACE3D256e1A865
4) by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform
5) by sharing episodes on social media. 

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

Today we look back at my discussion with Lawrence Sprung, which was originally published as episode 15, on 19th March 2023.

I wanted to do some shows on how to cope with abuse and alienation. In recent episodes began that by discussing trauma and meditation. Today we talk about suicide and suicide prevention.

The websites findahelpline.com and www.suicide.org have links to helplines and suicide prevention links in many countries. Please take a look if you are suffering or suicidal or you are concerned for someone else.

Our children need us to stay around for them, whether we are seeing them now or whether we are being alienated and will see them when they are older.

Children also die by suicide and as a society we need to improve prevention.

Our guest today is Lawrence Sprung. He lives in New York and is the founder of wealth management company Mitlin Financial Inc.

He is an Investopedia Top Ten Advisor for 2022, he hosts the Mitlin Money Mindset™ podcast and he spent over 12 years on the National Board for The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.

In 2004 Lawrence lost his brother-in-law Keith to suicide.

He reacted by turning his sadness into a mission to raise awareness for mental health. He has become a resource for the community and he has helped many parents seeking help for their children.

Lawrence has also raised over $1.5 million for the Keith Milano Memorial Fund charity.

We learn about Lawrence’s story, his work improving financial literacy for parents and children and his work with The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.

Suicide Prevention Links Around the World

These websites have links to helplines and suicide prevention links in many countries. They also have other information for people suffering. Please take a look if you are suffering or suicidal or concerned for someone else:

https://findahelpline.com
http://www.suicide.org

The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention is at https://afsp.org

Lawrences’ links

Websites:

1) https://www.mitlinfinancial.com
2) http://www.keithmilano.org
3) http://www.mitlinmoneymindset.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lawrencesprung

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lawrencesprung

Twitter: https://twitter.com/Lawrence_Sprung

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvmQXlCX1sbGcKviZJaHkvg

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/larry_sprung

Sounding Like A 'Professional' Podcaster
Most podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests. 

In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk

You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional.