The Fat Lip

Give Me Fat Serenity–Petrina and Overeaters Anonymous

Petrina was taught when she was young that her body was a problem, so she spent much of her life trying to solve it. That pursuit of thinness led her through incredible personal turmoil and culminated in seven years in the rooms of Overeaters Anonymous. What she found there, though, was not the healing that we think of when we imagine twelve step programs. Today on the show Petrina tells us about how she ended up in OA and the pervasiveness of fatphobia that ultimately prompted her to leave those rooms and find her own healing.

Credits:

Thank you as always to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s show. Hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com.

And thank you to our sponsor, Big Fig. Learn about the first mattress system made specifically for larger bodies at bigfigmattress.com and use the code FATLIP at checkout for $100 off of your purchase.

Thank you to our Patreon patrons! The patron of the week is Molly. If you’d like to support the show with as little as $1 per episode ($2 per month) go to patreon.com/thefatlip to learn how.

Don’t forget to follow TFL on social media! All of our social media links can be found at the top of thefatlip.com front page.

If you have a story you’d like to tell on the show, please use our Tell Your Story link to reach out! We’d love to hear from you.

/Warning: This episode is about fat burlesque, but it’s probably not work safe–there’s some humorous discussion of a simulated sex act, so maybe don’t listen to this one at your desk unless you’re wearing headphones!

Episode 39: Pretty Hurts–BlackEyedBliss’s Inspiring Fat Burlesque

Society would like us to think that fat people aren’t sexual beings–that we’re too busy hating our bodies and trying to diet them away, that our sexuality exists only in the dark where we can’t be seen–but this just isn’t true. Fat people are sexy! And fat burlesque performers like today’s guest, BlackEyedBliss, are actively working to show the burlesque community and the world that fat people are vibrant, sexual beings.

Watch one of BlackEyedBliss’s performances here!

Follow BlackEyedBliss on instagram to keep up with her show schedule! You can find her at instagram.com/blackeyedbliss.

Also, there is now just under a week left on Allgo’s Kickstarter campaign! Allgo is building a review platform where fat people can rate the comfort and accessibility of the places we need to get to every day so that other fats can utilize this information. Please pledge now to ensure that this project moves forward!

Credits

Thank you to our sponsor Big Fig Mattress, the only mattress made specifically for larger sleepers! Go to bigfigmattress.com and use the code FATLIP for $100 off of your purchase and to let them know we sent you! Listen to my full review here!

Thank you as always to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s show and on every show! Go to cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com to hear more!

Thank you to our Patreon supporters! Our patron of the week is Quin! If you’d like to help out, please consider sponsoring the The Fat Lip. You can do so for as little as $1 an episode ($2 a month!) Learn more at patreon.com/thefatlip.

Don’t forget to rate and review us on iTunes and to follow us on social media! All of those links can be found at the top of thefatlip.com! And if you have a story that you’d like to tell on the show, please don’t hesitate to use the Tell Your Story link!

I’m Gonna Keep Enjoying My Life–Infinifat Mom Deanna on Universal Fat Experiences and Raising Body Positive Teens

Deanna is an infinifat mom, but her size doesn’t stop her from having a happy life and raising happy kids. Today Deanna and I had a long chat about existing in this world in a body that makes people uncomfortable. We talked about all of the ways we’re conditioned to shrink ourselves so we’re not in anyone’s way and she’s too busy living her life to worry about how other people feel.We had a super fun conversation and it made me really wish Deanna and I were close enough to go out for margaritas!

Follow Deanna on Instagram at instagram.com/d_lightful2

Credits

Thank you to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s show! Hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com

Also, thank you to our Patreon Patrons! The Patron of the Day is Chelsey, and you should follow her on Insta at instagram.com/fatgirl_laughing.  If you would like to become a patron, go to patreon.com/thefatlip to learn how!

And finally, thank you to our sponsor, Big Fig for supporting the show! Go to bigfigmattress.com to learn more about the first mattress system made especially for larger bodies, and use the code FATLIP at checkout for $100 off your purchase!

Don’t forget to follow The Fat Lip on social media. All of those links can be found at thefatlip.com right up at the top of the page, and these days I’m most active on Instagram so definitely check that out! My IG is instagram.com/fatlippodcast and you can expect to see many a goofy story there.

If you are a fat person with a story you’d like to tell on the show, use the Tell Your Story link! I’d love to hear from you.

If you’ve got a minute, please consider writing a review for us on Apple Podcasts! The more reviews we have, the more people see us and can hear our message!

Overcoming Shame–Pod Listener Angel Finds Her Freedom

I have to tell you that I’ve been having some mixed feelings now that we’re at the end of #infinifatshionfebruary. I just wasn’t sure that what I’ve been trying to do was really getting through to anyone, but then I met Angel. She emailed me on Monday, and I immediately asked her to come on the pod. On Tuesday when we talked, I was so moved and affirmed. It was one of the best conversations of my life and I will never forget it. Today on the pod, Angel and I talk about living in infinifat bodies and overcoming shame. It is powerful.

Also, I had an interview published on Ravishly! Annette Richmond from From Annette with Love reached out to me earlier this month and was so supportive and asked me to chat about the pod and infinifatshionfebruary and Some Fat Girls Can’t, and the piece just launched on Monday. Please go read it and let me know what you think!

Credits

Thanks as always to Starcrusher for the music you heard in today’s episode. Hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com

And thank you to our sponsor, Big Fig! Learn more about the mattress system made especially for larger people at bigfigmattress.com, and use the code FATLIP for $100 off your purchase and to let them know that The Fat Lip sent you!

Thanks as always to our Patreon patrons! The patron of the day is Hannah! If you’d like to learn how to help out by sponsoring the pod for as little as $1 per episode ($2 a month) go to patreon.com/thefatlip!

Follow me on social media and especially Instagram! All of the links to the TFL social media are at the top of thefatlip.com!

If you have a story you’d like to tell on the show, I’d love to hear about it! Use the Tell Your Story link to get in touch!

Infinifatshionfebruary: Why Clothes Matter

Plus fashion is a booming industry, and every year more and more retailers are getting with the program and offering plus options. And slowly (very slowly) more of these retailers are beginning to offer extended plus sizes, which is very exciting and gratifying for people who wear above a 24.

Unfortunately, though, these offerings tend to stop around a 30. And of course they have to stop somewhere, and no one expects companies to provide for everyone, but those of us who wear a 32 or above find ourselves with very few options. And this isn’t just a problem of aesthetics, it’s a problem of access.

For the month of February I am advocating for those of us who are past plus sizing and in desperate need of attention from the plus community and from retailers using the hashtag InfinifatshionFebruary. Join me on Instagram! Follow me here. And follow the #infinifatshionfebruary hashtag here.

Follow Maggie McGill, the blogger I talked about on the show today, on Instagram and on Youtube!

Credits

Thank you to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s show. Hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com.

Thank you as always to our Patreon Patrons! Learn how you can support the show with as little as $2 a month at patreon.com/thefatlip.

Today’s show is sponsored by Big Fig Mattress, the first bed designed specifically for larger sleepers. Go to bigfigmattress.com and enter the promo code FATLIP for $100 off of your purchase.

Have something you’d like to chat about on the show? Use the Tell Your Story link to get in touch!

 

Fat Positives – Favorable Representations of Fat People in Entertainment

I’ve done a lot of talking on The Fat Lip about negative portrayals of fat people and about entertainment that just doesn’t get it right when it comes to fatness. But there are also many cases of positive representation of fat people in media today–probably more than ever in history! In today’s episode I’m focusing on the fat positives, and I hope that we can create an ongoing discussion of entertainment that treats fat characters and fat actors respectfully. If you have seen good fat representation, I want to hear about it! Use the Tell Your Story link to get in touch!

Be sure to follow Trisha Rae Stahl on Instagram! Find her at instagram.com/trisharaestahl.

Credits

The music in today’s show is by Starcrusher, and you can hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com. 

Thank you to our Patreon patrons! The patron of the day is Thomas! If you’d like to become a patron, go to patreon.com/thefatlip to find out how.

Thank you to Big Fig Mattress for their sponsorship and support! Get your own at bigfigmattress.com and don’t forget to use the promo code FATLIP for $100 off of your order. And listen to my Big Fig review here!

Follow Instagram! Go to instagram.com/fatlippodcast.

(Photo of Nicole Byer of “Loosely Exactly Nicole” on Facebook Watch)

 

 

 

New Year, New (Old) Gripes

This wouldn’t be The Fat Lip if I weren’t mouthing off about something, and today (and it seems like always) I have a lot to say about fat stories that are happening around us. Get ready for our first gripes of the new year!

In this episode I’m addressing the “girther” thing and whether we have a right to others’ medical reports (even if they are the leader of the free world,) how taking a stand against airbrushing is only thin, white, cis body positive, and a podcast that I love getting one of the big O words and all of the junk science wrapped up in it all wrong. Buckle in because I’ve got my complaining pants on today! I hope you have snacks because you’re gonna need them.

Credits:

Thank you to Starcrusher for the music you heard in today’s show. Hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com!

Thank you to our sponsor, Big Fig Mattress for making the most comfortable bed I’ve ever had and for supporting the show.

Thank you, as always, to our Patreon patrons! Our patron of the week is Tiffany T.–one of two Tiffany T’s, actually, so thanks to both of you! If you’re interested in becoming a patron (It’ll cost you as little as 2 bucks a month!) please check out patreon.com/thefatlip to find out how. There’s even a cringeworthy video, so the entertainment value alone is worth the click.

Follow TFL on social media! Check out those links on thefatlip.com at the top of the page.

If you’ve got a minute, please rate and review the show on iTunes/Apple Podcasts! Every review ranks us higher in search results and gets us into more ears.

If you’ve got a story that you’d like to tell on the show, please use the Tell Your Story link because we need to hear voices like yours!

Thanks for listening!

 

Ah, the holiday meal. Who doesn’t love turkey and mashed potatoes and pie and your great aunt Laura side-eying you for eating said pie? You go along to get a long,  try not to hope Laura catches laryngitis, and you come out of your holiday gathering only a little worse for wear. But why should you have to suffer silently through food and body judgment at the holiday table? In today’s episode I’m talking about the gentle holiday table advocacy you can do at your gatherings that probably won’t cause fights. Probably. Your mileage may vary.

Air mattress suggestions (as mentioned in the episode:)

700 lb capacity: http://amzn.to/2Cii40y

600 lb capacity: http://amzn.to/2AFsQAV

500 lb capacity: http://amzn.to/2AJLlEc

Credits

Thanks so much to Starcrusher for the music you heard on today’s show and the music you’re hearing right now. Hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com.

And thank you to our Patreon patrons. If you guys haven’t heard, Patreon has rolled back those fee changes you probably got an email about last week. They realized that they made some mistakes and disproportionately burdened some patrons, so they are not instituting that new fee structure after all. If you were worried about that, you can rest easy, and I thank you for your continued support.

With all that said, our Patreon patron of the day is Sara. Thank you Sara for your support! Wouldn’t be able to do this without you. If you’d like to support The Fat Lip, go to patreon.com/thefatlip to find out how.

Transcript

Tell Your Story

Jasmine Kent is not plus sized, but when she was crafting her thesis for her Master’s in Industrial Design, she wanted to fill a gap in the activewear market and give a wider range of sizes access to a better sports bra. She spoke with biomechanical researchers at Hanes and is collecting survey data from plus size bra-wearers, and she hopes to make a prototype this spring. But she needs our help.

Go to http://www.jasmine-kent.com/ to complete the survey and, if you’re up for it, help Jasmine out by participating in an interview. If you’re local to Raleigh, NC, she could use your help in person for sizing and further biomechanical research. Jasmine is attempting to fill a hole in the plus size fashion and activewear markets, and we can help her get there.

Credits

The music in today’s episode is by Starcrusher. Go to cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com to hear more!

Please consider becoming a Patreon patron! Go to patreon.com/thefatlip to find out how.

Have a story you’d like to tell on TFL? Go to the Tell Your Story page to contact us!

Doctors often tell us that being fat is an obstacle to having children. Many doctors tell fat people to lose weight before even attempting to start a family because even if they DO get pregnant, they will likely be unable to carry the baby to term otherwise. But fat people get pregnant and deliver healthy babies every day, so where does this pressure (and misinformation) from physicians come from? We’re taught that successful fat pregnancy is impossible for us, but so much of this assertion is rooted in institutional fatphobia. Today on TFL I’m talking to Chelsea about how she had two perfect pregnancies at 400 pounds and how she’s teaching her three perfect kids (she had twins the second time) that it’s okay to be fat.

Credits

The music in today’s episode is by Starcrusher. Hear more at cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com.

Are you a bra-wearing fat person? Please take a moment to complete Jasmine Kent’s survey for her Master’s thesis. She’s aiming to design a better sports bra for sizes 16+ and she needs respondants! Go to http://www.jasmine-kent.com/ to learn how to help.

Please consider supporting The Fat Lip on Patreon! Go to patreon.com/thefatlip to find out how!

Have a story you’d like to tell on TFL? We are always interested in stories from fat people of all races, cultures, abilities, gender representations, and orientations. We are especially interested in hearing from fat people who are 500+ pounds! Go to our Tell Your Story page to get in touch!