The Feeling Theories

Ever said no to something, only to spend the next few hours feeling guilty about it?

Maybe you've replayed the conversation, worried you've upset someone, or even considered changing your mind just to avoid disappointing them.

In this episode of The Feeling Theories, we explore why saying no can feel so uncomfortable, even when we know it's the right decision for us.

We'll look at the psychology behind guilt, people pleasing and boundaries, and why putting yourself first doesn't automatically mean you're letting someone else down.

Because sometimes the hardest part isn't saying no. It's allowing yourself to feel okay about it afterwards.

🎧 The Feeling Theories by Harmonised Pathways.

Real conversations about the things we think but don't always say out loud.

This podcast is for general information and reflection and is not a substitute for professional mental health support.

🎵 Music Credit

“Inspirational Breakthrough” by Shane Ivers — Silverman Sound.

Source: https://www.silvermansound.com/

Licensed under Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0).

Licence: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Changes made: The original music has been shortened for use in the podcast, with fading applied from approximately 26 seconds to blend into the spoken introduction.

No endorsement by the original creator is implied.

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to show kindness and understanding to other people, yet when it comes to yourself, you're suddenly your own harshest critic?

You can forgive someone else's mistakes, understand their struggles and remind them that nobody is perfect. But when you make a mistake? Well, that's a completely different story!

In this episode of The Feeling Theories, we're exploring why we can be so incredibly hard on ourselves, where that critical inner voice comes from and why self-compassion often feels much easier said than done.

Through honest conversations, a little humour and some psychology along the way, we'll look at the unrealistic expectations we place on ourselves and how we might begin changing the way we speak to ourselves.

Because sometimes, the person who needs your understanding the most is you.

A little question before you go: Would you speak to someone you love the way you speak to yourself?

🎧 The Feeling Theories — We say things people think but don't say out loud.

Created by Harmonised Pathways.

Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational, informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Music credit: "Inspirational Breakthrough" by Shane Ivers — Silverman Sound. Licensed under Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 (CC BY 4.0).

In this episode of The Feeling Theories, we’re talking about those conversations your brain refuses to let go of — even when everyone else involved has probably forgotten they happened.

You know the ones.

You replay what you said, wonder whether you sounded awkward, analyse somebody’s tone, think of a better response hours later, and somehow turn a completely ordinary conversation into a full investigation.

We’ll explore why we overthink social interactions, why uncertainty can make our minds keep searching for answers, and why the things that feel enormous in our own heads often barely register for somebody else.

This episode is an honest, relatable look at overthinking, self-consciousness and the stories we can create around moments that have already passed.

As always, The Feeling Theories is about the things we feel, think and experience — particularly the things people often think but don’t say out loud.

Created by Harmonised Pathways.

DISCLAIMER

The Feeling Theories is for educational, informational and entertainment purposes only.

The podcast discusses psychology, research, lived experience and personal perspectives. It does not provide medical, psychological or therapeutic advice and is not a substitute for professional mental-health support, diagnosis or treatment.

If you are concerned about your mental health, or feel unable to keep yourself safe, please contact an appropriately qualified healthcare or mental-health professional, a crisis service, or somebody you trust.

MUSIC CREDIT

Intro music: “Inspirational Breakthrough” by Shane Ivers — Silverman Sound

Music licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 International Licence (CC BY 4.0).

Source: Silverman Sound

Licence: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

The original music has been shortened and edited, including fading from approximately 26 seconds.

No endorsement by the original artist is implied.

The Feeling Theories — episode 2 Depression doesn’t always look the way people expect it to.

Sometimes it looks like not being able to get out of bed. Sometimes it looks like going to work, putting your make-up on, laughing with people and somehow still feeling completely empty underneath it all.

In this episode of The Feeling Theories, I’m talking honestly about depression, and the different ways it can show up.

We talk about that strange space between “I’m functioning” and “I’m actually not okay”, why struggling doesn’t always look obvious from the outside, and why two people experiencing depression can look completely different.

This isn’t about putting everyone into the same box or pretending there’s one simple explanation. It’s about understanding what can be happening underneath the surface , including the thoughts, emotions and experiences that people often don’t say out loud.

Because sometimes the person who looks absolutely fine is using every bit of energy they have just to keep looking fine.

The Feeling Theories is where we have honest conversations about mental health, psychology and the things we think but don’t always say out loud.

The Feeling Theories is for educational, informational and entertainment purposes only. I may discuss psychology, mental health, psychological research and my own lived experiences, but this podcast does not provide medical, psychological or therapeutic advice and is not a substitute for professional support.

If anything discussed raises concerns about your own mental health, please seek support from an appropriately qualified healthcare professional or relevant support service. If you feel unable to keep yourself safe, please contact an appropriate crisis or emergency service.

“Inspirational Breakthrough” by Shane Ivers — Silverman Sound

Music used under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0) licence.

Silverman Sound: https://www.silvermansound.com/
Licence: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

The music has been shortened and edited for use within the podcast. No endorsement by the original creator is implied.

I’m Donna, and The Feeling Theories combines psychology, research, lived experience, honesty and a little humour along the way.

Disclaimer

The Feeling Theories is for educational, informational and entertainment purposes only. I may discuss psychology, mental podcast ep 1 health, psychological research and my own lived experiences, but this podcast does not provide medical, psychological or therapeutic advice and is not a substitute for professional support.

If anything discussed raises concerns about your own mental health, please seek support from an appropriately qualified healthcare professional or relevant support service.

Music Credit

Intro music: Inspirational Breakthrough by Shane Ivers — Silverman Sound

Source: Silverman Sound

Licensed under Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)

License: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Changes made: The original music has been shortened for use as the podcast intro, with fading applied from approximately 26 seconds to blend the music into the spoken introduction.

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