In this episode, Tommy dives into the subtle ways we manipulate the world around us in order to feel safer, more accepted, more comfortable, or more in control.

From people pleasing and collusion, to trying to manage perception and avoid conflict, this episode explores the fine line between acting from truth… and acting from ego.

Tommy opens up vulnerably about his own relationship, the need for affection, and the realisation that even love and kindness can sometimes carry hidden expectations underneath them.

This conversation touches on:

• manipulation through discomfort avoidance
• people pleasing and emotional control
• ego disguised as goodness
• authenticity and why it feels risky
• collusion and managing perception
• staying in your own lane
• truth vs performance
• emotional regulation and self awareness
• why some people react negatively when you follow your purpose

A raw, honest and deeply human episode about what happens when we stop trying to control the outside world… and start paying attention to what’s actually driving us internally.

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