Who decides what grief is supposed to look like?
Why do we expect everyone to mourn the same way? If someone cries openly, they're accused of putting on a performance. If they remain composed, people question whether they truly loved the person they lost. Somewhere along the way, society created unwritten rules about grief, but who wrote them?
In this deeply reflective episode of The Fishbowl with Jade, we dive beneath the surface to explore the psychology, sociology, and human experience of grief. Jade examines why people are so quick to judge the way others mourn and asks whether our expectations say more about us than the person who is grieving.
From the public scrutiny surrounding the Darlie Routier case to the criticism directed at families in more recent, highly publicized tragedies, this episode explores how the court of public opinion often places grieving families on trial, not for what happened, but for how they express their pain.
Jade also shares a personal reflection on losing her father and reminds listeners that grief is not a performance. It is deeply personal, unpredictable, and unique to every relationship. Sometimes grief looks like tears. Sometimes it looks like silence. Sometimes it looks like laughter while remembering someone you love. None of those responses diminish the depth of that love.
Together, we'll explore anticipatory grief, delayed grief, children's grief, the impact of social media on public mourning, and why compassion is often a better response than criticism.
This episode isn't about telling people how to grieve.
It's about giving them permission to grieve without apology.