For this episode, we discuss Gretchin Rubin’s book, The Four Tendencies, where she discusses how people respond to inner (stop nagging) and outer (traffic laws) expectations. She also wrote Better than Before to help us discover why some people can form habits more easily than others.How do we change? Habits are the invisible architecture of our lives. 40% of our daily behaviors are repeated, why not harness this information to gain self-knowledge that will help us adopt habits successfully?

41% of the population are Obligers. “You can count on me and I’m counting on you to count on me.” They are motivated by external expectations and struggle with inner expectations and with saying no.

24% of the people fall into the Questioner category. “I will comply if you convince me why.”

They are motivated by clarity, reason, logic and fairness. They can have bouts of analysis paralysis.

19% of folks are Upholders. These are the people that respond readily to inner and outer expectations. Discipline is their freedom.

17% fall into the Rebel category. “You can’t make me, and neither can I.” This group places a high value on authenticity and acts best when you give them the information and let them make a choice.

Our tendencies color the way we see the world. If you want to take the short quiz to discover your tendency click here.

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