Exploring THE Spiritual Art (For Your Closure)

Why did I begin the Free to be Show?

What makes you feel that are not free to exist?

For the final episode of my podcast, I am speaking freely about the most normalized form of narcissistic abuse and how you alchemize it.

When you experience narcissistic abuse your personality splits into your authentic self and your representative, your mask. It is clinically called Dissociative identity disorder (DID), previously known as multiple personality disorder, is a complex psychological condition caused by many things. These include severe trauma during early childhood (usually extreme, repetitive physical, sexual, or emotional abuse). It's also known as split personality disorder. Reference 

Interestingly there exists a normalized version of this that may lead to a mental health issue over time for BIPOC in general but especially Black women. The first capture of this phenomenon was in the 1903 book, “The Souls of Black Folk,” written by the late civil rights leader W.E.B. DuBois spoke about Black people surviving by highlighting the need for Black Americans to recognize their double-consciousness, or the two parts of their identity: their Blackness and their “Americanness” — or how they were viewed by white Americans. DuBois talked about double-consciousness, and that’s what code-switching is now,” Dr. Barlow adds. “You had to, for your survival, exhibit that double-consciousness.” Reference Jodi Ann Burrey talks about showing up as your “authentic self” at work as a Black woman is the same as not wearing a custom to a Halloween party in her TED talk The Myth of bringing your full authentic self to work.

This is the beginning of generational trauma or taught imposter syndrome. Because you are always proving to the world that you are someone you are not. And I say all of this to say that the greatest form of narcissistic abuse that occurs is institutionalized racism. Although the “official” dots have not been connected in the American Psychological Association publication created on September 1, 2021 and last updated January 24, 2023 Psychologists are working to develop more effective ways of promoting Black men’s mental health

“Being a black man in America means being my brother’s keeper. Being a black man in America means being my brother’s keeper while keeping a distance from my brother because I don’t trust him further than I can see him. It’s believing the cops don’t care about you. It’s learning how not to doubt yourself because when you’re born everyone else already does.”

—Poet Prentice Powell, written following the fatal police shooting of Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri, in 2014

“We should place less emphasis on whether Black men are resistant to therapy,” said Stevenson, “and more on understanding the contexts in which they already feel comfortable talking about their feelings and traumas. If a Black man is able to find a treatment that is culturally responsive, that he understands, and that embraces the uniqueness of his difference, he is more likely to use that service.”

And my work is to heal the souls of Black women because they are the pillars of society, the Black crumbling family. As you can see it is a cellular recalibration that has to...

This is an excerpt from my series published now as a course, 13 Days to Multi-Orgasmic Aging. This is day three about your choices and understanding the power of that.

Listen as I share how I chose to create my first birth story. In my ignorance I chose body -mind wisdom over fear. Reflect on your birth story if you have had a child. Mostly listen for the power and gifts of honoring choices that elevate your each and every heartbeat and breath.

#bodywisdom #replnishme #detachedlove #multiorgasmicaging #multiorgasmic #cordeliagaffar #intimacy #selfnurturing #selflove

Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess and  CEO of Cordelia Gaffar Enterprises, is a bestselling author, speaker, and host of The Free to be Show podcast.

Cordelia's journey led her to rediscover many ancient body wisdom mindfulness practices, intertwining from aboriginal cultures across the globe. The result? The Four Mind Alignment (TM), unveiled in November 2022 after two years of client studies and five years of research.

This transformative methodology empowers women to be fully expressed and completely embodied in her natural leadership merging ancient wisdom for total well-being. Cordelia's approach builds on her Replenish Me (™) process, featured in "Detached Love" (2020), promoting self-nurturing through food, movement, and sleep.

Now, she offers Embodiment Experiences in intimate group coaching and retreats, inviting women to a journey of self-discovery and replenishment. Cordelia is a former CFO and veteran home educator to her six children, three of whom have graduated going on to serve in the US Navy and become entrepreneurs in their own right. Subscribe to the Free to Be Show as we explore joy, enlightenment, and the transformative power of Cordelia Gaffar's wisdom.

This is the audio version of my recent LinkedIn article Soul Love vs Carnal Ravaging.

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At the end, I make an invitation to join the 29 day challenge to leap into your intimacy. On my website https://cordeliagaffar.com/, I share all the details of this 29 day DIY experience.

I am here for YOU! Reclaim your Ultimate-Joy! You may not realize it but your body wants you back. Be present in your body like never before.

It’s leap year, which means that we get 29 days in February!

Vibration matters and the vibrational meaning of 29 is

(2) Harmony

(9) Transformation awakening

and in calendar format you get to experience your intimacy transformation with harmony and balance.

There are also journal pages included to capture your experience and voice memos are also highly recommended. Also you may chose to join my private LinkedIn Group (https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12966627/) to enhance your experience.

Mindlessness is the Real Issue: Let’s Make Distinctions

There is sex. And then there is great sex.

There is being orgasmic. And then there is being multi-orgasmic.

Everyone who has sex is not having great sex.

Everyone who has an orgasm may not have more than one.

Most women do not have orgasms. Not even one.

Most men don’t know that they can have more than one orgasm.

Most people don’t know that sex is sacred.

Most people don’t know that when you reach orgasm that is a form of enlightenment.

My call is back to soul love.

#intimacy #soullove #enlightenment #leapyear #healing #medicine

Do you feel shame around money? Is it the same for sex? Or is it more for one than the other?

This episode is for YOU!

In just over 30 minutes you will hear the solution to your internal drama. It is my joy to introduce you to a new friend of mine, Joanna Doiban. 

She teaches the three pillars of wealth - wealth mindset, money organization, easy-bake-oven “investing” to busy women and moms revolutionizing this male-dominated industry from telling you what to do to educating you on how to utilize money intentionality. With a Bachelors in Finance and a Life Insurance license in dozens of states, Joanna is a trailblazer and thought leader in Financial Self-Care and Wealth Education for women. She is a trailblazer and thought leader on wealth energy and wealth planning for women.

She loves to teach female founders adopt wealthy habits (energetically + strategically) so they will always be supported by money throughout their lives

Wealth Activator for Women

Connect with her Want to talk money?

  Let’s grab coffee

https://calendly.com/joannadoibanagency/let-s-grab-coffee  

We can connect on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/joannadoiban/

Join my Private FB group to learn how to be a Money Master here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mamamoneymasters 

Website: www.joannadoiban.com  

#moneymatters #wealthactivatorforwomen #sexandmoney #moneyandsex #womenhelpingwomen #moneyempowerment #wealth #joannadoiban #theulimatejoygoddess #cordeliagaffar #thefreetobeshow

It's a revolution of the heart, a reclamation of the divine feminine within you.

Happy #freetobe #friday

Here are the Deep Dives and Discoveries you will experience listening to the Free to Be Show #podcast today👇🏽

💎Integrate and normalize your sexuality as a core component of mental and emotional well-being.

💎Explore the synergy of nutrition, movement, and spiritual practices in supporting your journey.

💎Uncover your authentic self, free from societal conditioning and limiting beliefs.

💎Understand your unique responses and experiences in intimacy, and how to channel this knowledge in all facets of your life.

It is about:

🧘🏾‍♂️How humans can transcend your slave mind

☮️The importance of giving yourself permission to be free

🥰The importance of beginning within

🎉The power of reinventing yourself 

💎Embodiment is the the truth and the light 

👀Misogynoir 

👉🏾it’s your choice to have sex or hip surgery. 

Listen here 

https://player.captivate.fm/episode/1dc97cc4-48b5-4ecb-b111-d9f5e09a0182

I welcome your questions and comments 👇🏽 below or at [email protected]

Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess and CEO of Workout Around My Day Inc. As a bestselling author, speaker, and host of The Free to be Show podcast, Cordelia guides women on a transformative journey to normalize great sex resulting in being Multi-Orgasmic!!. Her unique methodology, The Four Mind Alignment (TM), unveiled in November 2022, empowers women to embrace a Multiorgasmic existence through ancient wisdom. Cordelia's holistic approach, including the Replenish Me (™) process, documented in "Detached Love" (2020), invites women to nurture themselves with food, movement, and sleep. Explore joy, enlightenment, and transformative wisdom with Cordelia on The Free to Be Show!​

The Language Maven, Eva Arrissani, on Reinventing Yourself

Today Eva shares her story through her word of the year Reinvent. Listen closely to how she restructures her thinking with every reinvention. Listen to how she creates her choices creatively. Most of all listen for your own story within hers.

She is the creator of three podcasts most recently:

The Word Play Show - learn where to tune in and subscribe! https://www.linkedin.com/events/thewordplayshowwiththelanguagem7153023114556121089/theater/

Allow yourself to be kind to yourself and this conversation gives you a step by step on how to do that!

Originally from Libreville, Gabon, residing permanently in Pretoria, South Africa, Eva ARISSANI is an entrepreneur at heart and a creative thinker. 

She is the Founder and Director of Transcentral Pty Ltd, a South African-based company  specializing in language services and coaching programmes. She is also the Initiator, Co founder, and Executive Director of She Phoenix Femme Phoenix(SPFP), a South African-based NPO which aims at empowering and inspiring the Girl Child, young women, teenage girls,  women of all walks of life. 

She is the Published Author of New Moi New Life: Five Ways to Build a New 'You' and Live  an Extraordinary Life. She is also the Published Co-Author of Intuitive Living: A Practical  Guide for Women Who Want to Deeply Trust Themselves – her chapter is entitled She  Phoenix Femme Phoenix: The Rise. She is currently authoring another book. 

She is the Host of The Language Maven Show.  

She is married and mom to 3 daughters.  

In a nutshell, Eva is a multidimensional global woman juggling business, family, spirituality,  philanthropy and much more, striving to live a balanced life and impact the world in a positive manner.  

Her motto is: “We all have a past. But how it influences our present and our future is up to us.”

Connect with her here https://www.linkedin.com/in/eva-arissani-translation-expert-b539a658/

Permission to Be Free to Be with Omozua Isiramen

Omozua and I have known each other over the course of our entrepreneurial journey and we have seen the resistance in our clients and ourselves. In a recent conversation we decided to dissect what it takes for 'us' to have permission to be free!

She breaks down:

15:00 what fear looks like in the brain and how to reroute and extinguish it. 

25:15 How love looks in the brain and how to increase more of it

Although we are specifically talking to women of African Diaspora even if you are not a woman or of African Diaspora this episode is your permission to be free!

The science of thoughts:

Is it resourceful or non resourceful?

Before caring what anyone thinks about you and reflecting on what you think about you?

Empowering or diminishing thoughts?

Omozua Isiramen is a certified Neuroscience Transformation and High-Performance Specialist who helps Ambitious and Self-led Leaders Accelerate Their Careers By Decoding Their Unique Brain Signature Without Relying On Outdated Strategies So They Get Results Within 90 Days and elevate their personal and professional lives in all areas by attaining neuro agility and emotional mastery.

She coaches and consults internationally, created the Brainification Program and the Manyoufest Code, and fuses her deep understanding of neuroscience with a burning passion to help individuals and teams develop brain agility and mental flexibility to have a fast, flexible, and focused mind that can learn, think and solve problems quickly and easily.

She has spent over 20 years working and helping both women and men live more fulfilled and richer lives. Using proven techniques, tools, skills, years of coaching experience and training, she helps her clients transition from an undesired state A to a desired state B. Her approach is one based on the human first, and is driven to help her clients step out of their comfort or pain zones by understanding their brains - how it serves us in any given situation, navigating their emotions, and to start aiming for the things that truly matter to them with ease and confidence. 

If you truly need long-lasting change and professional help with gaining clarity, building confidence, or living a fulfilling life; book a Gap Analysis session with her. She will work with you to look specifically at the things that may be undermining your confidence and chart a way forward for you starting from wherever you are in the process.

Power Phrase Be CEO of Your Brain, Life, and Results

Omozua  A. Isiramen M.A.

Neuroscience Transformation, Neuro Agility & Peak Performance Specialist

Website: www.omozua.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/omozuaisiramen/

Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess and CEO of Workout Around My Day Inc. As a bestselling author, speaker, and host of The Free to be Show podcast, Cordelia guides women on a transformative journey. Her unique methodology, The Four Mind Alignment (TM), unveiled in November 2022, empowers women to embrace a Multiorgasmic existence through ancient wisdom. Cordelia's holistic approach, including the Replenish Me (™) process, documented in "Detached Love" (2020), invites women to nurture themselves with food, movement, and sleep. Explore joy, enlightenment, and transformative wisdom with Cordelia on The Free to Be Show!​

Beginning Within with Melinda Wittstock

You will love this conversation!

How many times in your life are you given the answer and you miss it because you are up in your head?

Every experience is happening for you. Your inner world must be aligned in a certain way to realize your Big audacious purpose!

22:11 The spiritual level

23:01 practical level gaining skills and understanding what is truth?

24:02 Solving the problems with technology 

25:05 How Podopolo can help creators

Join Podopolo here as a podcaster

Listen on Podopolo here

Melinda Wittstock is a 5-time serial entrepreneur and the CEO and Founder of Podopolo, the AI-powered interactive podcast app and creator marketplace revolutionizing podcast discovery and discussion and making podcasting profitable for creators. Melinda also hosts the fast growing "Wings of Inspired Business" podcast named by Entrepreneur Magazine as #8 of 20 of the top business podcasts for 2020. The Wings mission is to #LiftAsWeClimb, helping female founders leverage their feminine power

Formerly a senior executive, producer, host, and award-winning journalist for some of the world’s leading media brands, including the BBC, Times of London, ABC, CNBC and Financial Times, Melinda created and grew a BBC TV show to a 20 million audience. Steve Jobs told her she "asked the best questions" when she interviewed him as a 24-year-old correspondent of the Times of London. Melinda went on to innovate one of the world’s first crowd-sourcing mobile apps, growing unique users to 3 m in 8 mo

A spiritual practitioner of meditation, yoga, and gratitude Melinda is passionate about encouraging conscious leadership and evolved entrepreneurship using business as a canvas to transform lives and solve global challenges. Her travels have taken her to many exotic places including Sir Richard Branson's Necker Island and the Amazon Rainforest. She's a loving mom to two teenagers and a golden retriever.

Diving Straight Into the Heart with Zai Miztiq

What a beautiful conversation with my sister Zai Miztiq about

 (1) being with your emotions (grief) 

(2) redirecting your anger and

 (3) supporting small local businesses instead of large multinational  corporations. Watch to the end for an invitation from Zai! 

You are always #winning!

You may also watch this episode on Instagram and follow us there https://www.instagram.com/tv/C1XPy36Lui2/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

She is a 2x Amazon Best Selling Author, International speaker, strengths coach & empowers, educates, and enriches women and youth locally and globally.

Join me for this live discussion with Darryl Ray ware II, known as The First Human Rights Billionaire and The First Black 30-Year-Old Billionaire in Human History.

During our conversation he also announced that he will be running for President of the United States in 2028.

After the election, in 2023, Darryl Ray Ware II founded Think Chief, a $17.5 Billion Dollar Global Health Conglomerate That utilizes Collectivist Ideas to further the performance of Capitalism in The Name of Reaching Society’s Highest Aspirations. Think Chief Publishing Provides Stories of Truth, Faith, and Love for Women of Color in the United States. Think Chief Hotels are Ending Homelessness in The United States. Lastly, Think Chief Saha is Preventing Malaria Transmission among Nigerian Citizens. As a result of Think Chief Publishing, Ware invented the "The Nine-Count" literary device in his poem “Put Your Hands Up” as well as “The God Complex” literary device in his poem “Leave God Alone.” Ware also invented “The Ware Method” literary device which combines research literature with poetry in his articles: “The State of The City” and “The State of Louisiana.”

Ware is The Wealthiest Person in The City of Houston, Texas. He is The 4th Wealthiest Person in The State of Texas. Ware is The Wealthiest Person in The History of The State of Louisiana. Ware is The Wealthiest Black Person in The History of The United States of America. Ware is The Wealthiest Black Person on Earth.