Shasta and Kim were colleagues and couple friends . . . then Shasta called her crying out of the blue. She’d had an affair, a divorce, and had been fired from her job. But while other friends and colleagues pulled away, judged, and disappeared, Kim and Shasta only grew closer. In today’s episode, the two unpack how Shasta’s personal crisis affected her friend and how their friendship survived when many of Shasta’s relationships did not. Kim divulges the confusion she felt at Shasta not telling her sooner, and how others questioned her decision to stay friends with someone who’d had an affair. They talk about shifting from couple friends to developing a one-on-one friendship after Shasta’s divorce. They also reveal how the experience helped them build their friendship now—one in which they can tell each other everything and endure any and every season of life together.

In this episode, Shasta and Kim answer the questions:

• What did it feel like watching a friend go through a crisis? 
• What happens when your “couple friends” divorce? Can you stay friends, and how will the friendship change?
• How do you support friends who are going through hard times? 
• How do you support friends who’ve made bad decisions? 
• How can you create a “safe space” within a friendship, in which you can share anything without judgment?
• How can you keep your friendships intact and thriving when you’re personally struggling?

Resource Links:

• Take the Frientimacy quizzes: Positivity Quiz, Consistency Quiz, Vulnerability Quiz
• Shasta’s books on belongingness and human connection:
  • Friendships Don’t Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends
  • Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness
  • The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time

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