The Gentle Village

In this episode, Jamie and Neil explore the difference between our core needs for safety and our deeper, playsome desires. Together, they unpack how we often confuse what grounds us with what excites us, and how to bring honest communication into both.

Jamie and Neil both teach their own courses—find out more here:

Neil’s Offerings:

• Building Secure Attachments (12-week course):https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html

• Playful Desires (Conscious Kink & Embodiment Workshops):https://playful-desires.co.uk/caring-k1nk-workshops

Jamie’s Offerings:

• BRING IT! The Jamie Catto Teacher Training (For facilitators, leaders, coaches, and clowns):https://workshops.jamiecatto.com/bring-it-course

Today’s episode is gorgeous and holds a lot of weight. Jamie shares open-heartedly about a recent breakup—the grief, the transition, and the quiet spaces left behind when a relationship ends.

Together, we’re stepping into the messy, beautiful landscape of heartbreak, asking what it means to hold space for pain while gently redefining what love actually means. Whether you’re healing from a loss of your own, or simply reflecting on how you love the people around you, we’re glad you’re here with us today.

Settle in, take a deep breath, and welcome to Gentle Village."

Remember Jamie and Neil both teach thier own courses find out more here:

Offerings:

Neil has a 12 week course beginning September: Building Secure Attachments - Get in quick to learn and heal your attachment styles: ⁠https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html⁠

And Neil has also got many K1nky delights coming very soon, including a few spots on this Saturday 18th April: Worship workshop in Bristol,

⁠https://playful-desires.co.uk/caring-k1nk-workshops⁠ 

Jamie is opening the gates to his new: BRING IT!

THE JAMIE CATTO TEACHER TRAINING

FOR FACILITATORS, LEADERS, COACHES AND CLOWNS

⁠https://workshops.jamiecatto.com/bring-it-course⁠

Jamie and Neil discuss their therapy explorations and insights and ask what makes a good and bad therapist or a mismatched therapeutic alliance? 

A slightly shorter episode today to appease the ADHD among us. 

Offerings:

Neil has a 12 week course beginning 23rd April: Building Secure Attachments - Get in quick to learn and heal your attachment styles: https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html

And Neil has also got many K1nky delights coming very soon, including a few spots on this Saturday 18th April: Worship workshop in Bristol,

https://playful-desires.co.uk/caring-k1nk-workshops 

Jamie is opening the gates to his new: BRING IT!

THE JAMIE CATTO TEACHER TRAINING

FOR FACILITATORS, LEADERS, COACHES AND CLOWNS

https://workshops.jamiecatto.com/bring-it-course

Topics we explore:

• The martyr / rescuer / compulsive pleaser

• What is healthy and even selfish generosity?

• Working with and integrating the inner critic

  
  

  Jamie's stuff:

  Jamie’s opening the doors to Bring It! - his teacher (preacher) training for facilitators, leaders, coaches and clowns. If you’re ready to bring your unique gifts to the world with lightness and playfulness, while making some lifelong friends along the way, then maybe it’s for you - https://workshops.jamiecatto.com/bring-it-course

  
  

  And the link to Bristol Transforming Shadows weekend: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/jamie-cattos-transforming-shadows-two-day-workshop-live-in-bristol-tickets-1981798086425

  
  

  Neil's stuff: Neil will be runing a new 'Building Secure Attachments' course in April: https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html

  
  

  All of Neil's offerings: https://linktr.ee/Neilmorbs

What do you do when you wake up feeling blue… but life still expects you to show up strong?

In this episode of The Gentle Village, we explore the emotional reality of low mornings, the vulnerability of receiving negative feedback (including a juicy barrister story), and the subtle ways relationships either help us grow… or slowly shrink us.

We unpack the power of appreciation as a green flag, the warning signs of yellow and red flags in relating, and what it really means to champion each other rather than compete, criticise, or withdraw.

We also talk about emotional safety — the kind where you can express your truth without fear — and why generosity isn’t just “nice”… it’s actually one of the most selfishly beneficial things we can practise.

Because when one person feels safer, more supported, and more seen… it creates a ripple effect far beyond the relationship itself.

OUR OFFERINGS:

Neil offers coaching and counselling, plus his incredible relationship 12 week course (also for single people) :

https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html

If you want more spicy and playful offerings (like '') then visit:

https://playful-desires.co.uk/

Jamie's work is found here: https://www.jamiecatto.com/

Jamie and Neil discuss the nature of god as the sadist in the sky which leads us into explorations of power, privilege and exploring our choice vs vulnerability . We sit in some challenging questions about rescuing, victim and perpetrator narratives. As always we try to be in the question instead of knowing all the answers and we would love to hear your feedback.

Links:

Wheel of Power

Ram Dass - How Can I Help?

Moral Ambition by Rutger Bregman

Games People Play -- Eric Berne

Adam Lane Smith - Attachment

Come and work /play with us:

Jamie will be offering his world renowned 'Game Changer; course very soon - find our more and sign up here:

⁠https://www.jamiecatto.com/gamechanger⁠

Neil offers coaching and counselling, plus his incredible relationship workshop (also for single people) - '⁠Building Secure Attachments⁠', here:

⁠https://www.positively-mindful.com/⁠

If you want more spicy and playful offerings (like '⁠Caring Kink⁠') then visit:

⁠https://playful-desires.co.uk/⁠

Jamie and Neil discuss issues around sex, pornography and performance anxiety - how can we be with these in relationship in the modern era, especially with the advent of AI?

Offerings

Jamie will be offering his world renowned course very soon - find our more and sign up here:

Neil offers coaching and counselling, plus his incredible relationship workshop (also for single people):

https://www.positively-mindful.com/

If you want more spicy and playful offerings then visit:

https://playful-desires.co.uk/

Jamie and Neil discussed personal relationships and our feelings of unworthiness. When we reflect on our own and others' flaws can we reveal and play with our shadow aspects? How can we use games and kink to make this fun, arousing and connecting?

We discuss the impact of childhood experiences and parental influences on developing beliefs about oneself. If we are able to focus on the positive aspects of trauma can it lead to personal growth, connection and even juiciness!?

Offerings

Jamie will be offering his world renowned 'Game Changer' course very soon - find our more and sign up here:

https://www.jamiecatto.com/gamechanger

Neil offers coaching and counselling, plus his incredible relationship workshop (also for single people) - 'Building Secure Attachments', here:

https://www.positively-mindful.com/

If you want more spicy and playful offerings (like 'Caring Kink') then visit:

https://playful-desires.co.uk/

This month Jamie enters a new chapter in relating and discusses with Neil what we can do when in the dip (an ebb of tiredness, fatigue or low emotions) to manage our thoughts and emotions, without causing harm to our relationships.

Neil opens by discussing a Ram Dass clip he is inspired by: The Yoga of Relationship: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0xuRbOcmQUAOxT4dsHg6sm?si=ab539ef4e403455d

------------------------------------------------------------If you'd like to find out more about us:

Jamie is offering his world famous facilitator training at https://www.jamiecatto.com/bringit
Neil is offering two juicy things:

1. Building Secure Attachments: a 12 week online group meeting once a week, with a course of material to help you feel more secure in your self and your relationships: https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html

• Playful Desires: In person workshops and play parties that help reconnect us to the playful, innocent joy of various kinky dynamics in safer ways. Neil calls this 'Caring Kink': https://playful-desires.co.uk/

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Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023… and beyond!

In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gifted) and Neil Morbey (Counsellor, Mindfulness Coach, Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.

If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to [email protected]and [email protected]

In this episode Jamie and Neil discuss: 

• Let's give ourselves the chance to get a little freaky now and then

• Not all about relationships this time...

• Musings on teaching and facilitation 

• Masochism in workshops vs exploring spiritually

• Laughter and comfort zone changes and healings

• Transforming neurosis

• Neuroplasticity 

• Fantasies

• The 10-day Vipassana

• Is pushing ourselves a good thing? 

• It’s ok to judge sometimes

  
  

Neil is offering two juicy things: 

1. Building Secure Attachments: a 12 week online group meeting once a week, with a course of material to help you feel more secure in your self and your relationships: https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html 

2. Caring Kink: In person workshops and play parties that help reconnect us to the playful, innocent joy of various kinky dynamics in safer ways: ere:https://www.positively-mindful.com/playful-desires.html 

   
   

Jamie is offering his world famous facilitator training at jamiecatto.com/bringit 

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Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023… and beyond!

In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gifted) and Neil Morbey (Counsellor, Mindfulness Coach, Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.

If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to [email protected]and [email protected]