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Marrying a man of godly character sounds amazing... but how can you know if he’s actually walking the walk — not just talking the talk? 

You need more than good vibes and sweet words. You need real answers to questions like:

“What kind of character does this guy really have?”
“Where does his heart stand when it comes to God’s Word?”
“Is his love for the Lord visible in his daily actions?”
“Does he truly live with Scripture as the highest authority in his life?”

In today’s episode, Kristen and Bethany get real about what it looks like to truly discern a man’s heart — so you can make wise, Christ-centered relationship decisions that stand the test of time.

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*This episode originally aired as EP 159. 

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Is it possible to pursue godly femininity without getting tangled in legalism, fear, or performance-driven faith? 

In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with best-selling author and speaker Leslie Ludy to unpack the subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) ways legalism can creep into conservative Christian womanhood.

We talk about the pressure to "look the part," the danger of equating holiness with a lifestyle checklist, and how to break free from rule-based faith and walk in true intimacy with Christ. 

Whether you’ve felt burdened by expectations or just want to cultivate a deeper, more authentic relationship with Jesus, this conversation will challenge, encourage, and refresh your soul.

Get ready for a grace-filled reset on what it really means to be a set-apart woman.

**We hope you enjoy this replay from episode from 181** 

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You’ve seen the headlines: “Her Wildest Night Yet!” or “10 Secrets to Epic Pleasure.” Cosmo and other mainstream magazines have been feeding women these so-called empowering stories for decades. But what if those stories aren’t even real? What if they're simply propaganda? 

In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the glossy lies and exposing how these narratives are shaping our view of sex, identity, and womanhood—and not for the better. God’s design for womanhood isn’t boring, outdated, or shame-filled—but actually freeing, fulfilling, and rooted in truth. 

Sister, you don’t have to chase culture’s version of empowerment. Let’s discover how to walk confidently in real freedom, defined by God—not Cosmo.

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We’re constantly told men and women are the same — just interchangeable parts in a genderless machine. But is that actually true…?

• What if gender roles aren’t sexist, but sacred?
• What if God meant for men to surge with testosterone and for women to overflow with estrogen?
• What if wombs and muscles weren’t random, but radically intentional?

According to Scripture, the differences between men and women aren’t outdated — they’re divine. And they hold the key to understanding who we really are. 

For more on God's incredible design for your womanhood, grab our newest book, Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity. 

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We’re constantly told men and women are the same — just interchangeable parts in a genderless machine. But is that actually true… or just cultural noise?

What if gender roles aren’t sexist, but sacred?
 What if God meant for men to surge with testosterone and for women to overflow with estrogen?
What if wombs and muscles weren’t random, but radically intentional?

According to Scripture, the differences between men and women aren’t outdated — they’re divine. And they hold the key to understanding who we really are.

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Women struggle with porn too.

Have you ever experienced the fear and shame that follows the vortex of graphic movies, erotica, promiscuity, or porn sites? You may think you’re alone and feel like hiding. But you’re not alone—and there is hope and healing.

We are all sexually broken. And we are all invited to participate in the love, forgiveness, and healing of Jesus. The great joy and passion of Dr. Joy Skarka is calling women to God’s gracious power of redemption. 

Today we're chatting about her new book, Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy. 

For more on God's design for sex and purity check out, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality

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Let’s be honest—pursuing purity while dating someone you’re seriously into can feel next to impossible. 

The butterflies are real, the chemistry is strong, and suddenly you’re wondering... is kissing too far? What about cuddling on the couch? Holding hands? Where's the line?!

Navigating physical boundaries in a dating relationship isn’t always black and white—and it can be so confusing. But here’s the thing: honoring God and each other is totally possible, even when the sparks are flying.

In this episode, we’re getting real about the struggles, the questions, and the practical steps that helped us set Christ-honoring boundaries and actually stick to them. If you’ve ever wondered how to keep it holy while falling hard, this one’s for you.

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Can you be fully "crunchy" while staying fully committed to Christ? Is there such a thing as being too crunchy? How do we juggle our health goals without losing sight of our faith?

Elizabeth Parsons is here to help us navigate this balance. As a popular "crunchy" mom and passionate Christian, Elizabeth shares her wisdom on how to live out both wellness and faith without compromise.

If you're already following Elizabeth and her brand, Purely Parsons, you know her down-to-earth, relatable approach. If this is your first time hearing from her, get ready for an insightful, no-nonsense conversation that will leave you feeling inspired to pursue both health and faith with purpose.

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Is saving sex for marriage really worth it? Will the wedding night be totally awkward if we don’t "practice" first? And what about sexual compatibility—doesn’t that matter??

We’re two Christian sisters who made the choice to wait until marriage, and trust us—we’ve heard all the questions (and plenty of skeptical comments). So let’s have an open, honest, and totally unfiltered conversation about it.

After 6 and 14 years of marriage, do we regret waiting? If we could go back, would we do things differently? And were our wedding nights as awkward as everyone assumes? Let’s talk about it.

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It seems like everyone is sending nude photos these days...even Christians. So what's the big deal? Isn't it good for me to keep a little spice in my dating relationship? What about the fact that I'm engaged and going to marry this guy? What's the harm anyway? 

Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart

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