Cosmina is a self-worth and relationship coach working with high-performing women.
But this conversation isn’t about dating advice.
It starts outside. Light conversation. Open space.
Then the rain hits. You move inside… and something shifts.
The conversation gets quieter. Closer. More honest.
In this episode of The Glow Up Economy, Tuan sits down with Cosmina to explore the patterns most people don’t realise they’re repeating in love — and why what feels right in your body… isn’t always truth.
They unpack the difference between intuition and anxiety, how early conditioning shapes attraction, and why people often choose familiarity over what’s actually good for them.
Cosmina shares her own experiences — from leaving a long-term relationship that looked perfect on paper, to ignoring her intuition in Bali and paying for it physically — and how those moments shaped the work she does today.
This conversation moves between identity, nervous system regulation, dating patterns, and self-worth — but at its core, it’s about one thing:
learning to trust yourself again.
In this episode we talk about:
• The difference between intuition and anxiety in the body
• Why people choose familiar pain over unfamiliar stability
• The belief: “If they choose me, I’m enough”
• How childhood conditioning shapes attraction patterns
• Why stable relationships can feel unsafe at first
• Self-sabotage, emotional patterns, and nervous system responses
• Building self-trust through repetition and awareness
• The hidden danger of manifestation without grounding
• EMDR and rewiring deep-rooted beliefs
• Why rest is not weakness — it’s strategy
• Letting go of the idea that you’re “too much”
This is a grounded conversation about identity, self-worth, dating, emotional patterns, and what it really means to choose differently — not just think differently.
TIMESTAMPS:
0:00 – Welcome to The Glow Up Economy
0:34 – Who Cosmina is & what she does
1:10 – What she’s currently working through
2:32 – Working in prisons & understanding behaviour
3:10 – Leaving an 18-year relationship
4:29 – “I had everything… but hadn’t lived”
4:47 – What it felt like in her body to leave
5:42 – Trusting intuition vs fear of the unknown
6:03 – Why “perfect on paper” still feels empty
6:31 – The Bali story: ignoring intuition
7:44 – The consequence: injury & a permanent reminder
8:40 – “If he chooses me, I’m enough”
9:11 – Intuition vs anxiety (what’s actually louder?)
9:50 – The shift: moving inside as it starts raining
10:07 – Anxiety in the body feels like urgency
10:31 – Why you don’t choose what’s good for you
10:42 – You choose what feels familiar
10:49 – Certainty in pain vs uncertainty in healthy love
10:56 – Why stability can feel unsafe
11:02 – Self-sabotage patterns in dating
11:07 – Self-trust is built through reps
11:38 – Inner work vs visible success
12:01 – Trusting yourself changes everything
12:23 – What people get wrong about manifestation
13:18 – “I had no food in my fridge”
13:34 – Action vs delusion in manifestation
14:26 – EMDR & rewiring beliefs
15:53 – Core beliefs: “I’m not enough”
16:20 – Changing identity at a deeper level
17:31 – Burnout, rest, and learning the hard way
18:07 – Why rest feels wrong (but isn’t)
18:31 – “I am irresponsible” (core belief)
19:00 – Scarcity, money, and early conditioning
20:10 – Rest as a business strategy
21:02 – “You’re not too much”
21:48 – Capacity in relationships
22:13 – Where to find Cosmina
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To connect with Cosmina click HERE
To connect with Tuan Luu click HERE
Produced by GlowOps Media
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