The Good Good with Dee Talley

I want you to become a slut and a whore for your own life.

And no, I'm not necessarily talking about sex.

I'm talking about being so turned on by the life you're living that you stop waiting for some imaginary future moment to finally enjoy it.

Somewhere along the way, especially in motherhood, women were taught that wanting less makes us better. Better mothers. Better partners. Better people.

I call bullshit.

In this episode, we're talking about pleasure as medicine. The kind of pleasure that lives in the smallest, most ordinary moments. The kind that fills you up, brings you back into your body, and reminds you that you're a woman with desires of your own.

We're getting into motherhood, the expectation of self-sacrifice, Audre Lorde's Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power, and why I believe a well-fucked woman is an incredibly generous woman.

Not because she's giving from depletion.

Because she's giving from overflow.

And I'm sharing a simple practice to help you start recognizing where pleasure already exists in your life and where you've been moving away from it.

Because pleasure isn't something you have to earn.

Women want. We f*cking want.

And I want you to want your life.

Keywords

motherhood, maternal identity, pleasure, self-care for mothers, women's desire, everyday pleasure, Audre Lorde, embodied living

Action Items

Pause during the day to notice sensory moments that feel pleasurable, such as warmth, sunlight, nature, or a deep exhale.

For everyday activities, ask: “Am I going towards pleasure or away from it?”

Look for small, realistic ways to add pleasure to ordinary routines rather than waiting for a major occasion.

Chapters

00:00 Why Dee refuses the self-erasing story of motherhood

02:20 How caregiving pressure sidelines a mother’s well-being

04:20 Identity change, parenting schedules, and making room for yourself

08:05 Pleasure as a rejection of maternal martyrdom

11:26 Audre Lorde and the erotic as a compass

13:16 Why a fulfilling life is built in ordinary moments

15:20 A sensory exercise for noticing everyday pleasure

20:03 Use pleasure to tell what nourishes you

23:01 Mothers are allowed to want

24:11 Building community around women’s desires

The Cornell 7, consent, victim blaming, gender conditioning, and what it actually takes to create safety.

This is an episode I wish we didn't need to have.

But we do.

The Cornell 7 case opened up a much bigger conversation for me about rape, consent, the ways women are taught to keep themselves safe, the ways men are conditioned around emotion, sex and power — and how badly we are still failing survivors.

In this episode, I'm talking about the things we're often too uncomfortable to say out loud.

I talk about the Cornell 7, the group chats, the silence of the people who witness harmful behavior and say nothing, and why preventing sexual violence cannot continue to be a job we hand exclusively to women.

I also share my own experience as a rape survivor.

I talk about freezing. Dissociating. Leaving my body. And eventually learning that what I had blamed myself for was actually my body's attempt to protect me.

Because consent isn't just about knowing how to say no.

It's about knowing that your body is yours.

A bitch knows her body is law.

And if we're actually interested in making people safer, we have to go much further than teaching women how to recognize warning signs, carry pepper spray, watch their drinks, take self-defense classes, or avoid dangerous situations.

We have to talk about the people causing the harm.

We have to talk about the conditioning underneath it.

We have to talk to men.

We have to talk to women.

And we have to get much, much better at what happens when someone tells us they've been assaulted.

• The Cornell 7 case and the larger conversation it sparked for me

• What happens when people witness harmful behavior and stay silent

• Why learning to listen to your body's yes and no matters

• The ways men and women are conditioned differently around emotion, safety, sex, and power

• Why sexual violence prevention cannot remain women's responsibility

• My own experience with rape, freezing, and dissociation

• The shame survivors can carry for how their bodies responded

• What support can actually look like after trauma

• How our reactions can unintentionally shame or re-victimize survivors

• What to do when someone discloses that they've been sexually assaulted

• Why men need to be actively involved in changing this culture

• What education, activism, and collective responsibility can actually look like

• Why real safety requires more than teaching individual people how to protect themselves

  
  

Years ago, I taught healthcare practitioners how to work with patients who had experienced rape and sexual assault.

And recording this episode made something very clear to me:

This information shouldn't only belong to practitioners.

We should all know what to do when someone we love tells us they've been raped.

We should know what to say.

We should know what not to say.

We should understand what may be happening in their body.

And we should know how to support them without taking away even more of their agency.

So I'm bringing that teaching back — this time for everyone.

It will be available for $0 / pay what you want, because I want this information to be accessible to anyone who needs it.

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00:00 — Why this episode matters
02:03 — The Cornell 7 and the reactions surrounding the case
04:00 — Group chats, bystanders, and the problem with silence
05:53 — Your body, consent, and learning to listen to your signals
08:06 — How we condition men and women differently
09:53 — Men, emotion, anger, and support
12:04 — Education, activism, and what actually creates change
14:00 — My experience with rape, dissociation, and healing
16:05 — What survivors actually need from the people around them
18:07 — What to do when someone tells you they've been assaulted
19:58 — The cultural shift required to create real safety
21:47 — Why men and women both have a role in changing this
24:09 — Education and collective responsibility
26:10 — Where we go from here

We spend so much of our lives waiting to "finally get over it."

The insecurity.The people-pleasing.The comparison.The inner critic.

But what if healing was never about making those patterns disappear?

In this solo episode, Dee shares the unexpected lesson she learned from finding blue sequins from her daughter's Elsa costume absolutely everywhere—and how that simple moment completely changed the way she thinks about healing.

Together, we'll explore why healing isn't a straight line, why recurring triggers aren't evidence that you're failing, and how true embodiment begins when you stop treating yourself like a problem to solve.

This episode is an invitation to stop asking, "Why is this happening again?" and start saying, "Oh... It's you again."

Because maybe healing isn't becoming someone else.

Maybe it's finally coming home to yourself.

Key Topics

Healing as an ongoing spiral, not a destination

Recognizing and accepting emotional triggers ('sequins')

The importance of embodiment in self-healing

Impact of social media and societal narratives on self-image

Self-compassion as a foundation for healing

Patterns of self-criticism and their roots

Energy vibrations and attracting similar energies

The role of awareness in stopping the cycle of self-judgment

Practical tips for cultivating embodiment and presence

The importance of self-awareness in personal growth

 Takeaways

Healing is a spiral, not a linear process, and triggers are part of the journey.

Recognizing triggers ('sequins') with compassion allows for faster healing.

Embodiment is essential; feeling your body helps you connect with your truth.

Social media often promotes comparison and feelings of inadequacy, which can be mitigated by mindful consumption.

Self-compassion and awareness are the foundation for true self-acceptance.

Patterns of self-criticism are rooted in societal and personal narratives, not in your worth.

Energy vibrations attract similar energies; cultivating positive energy can change your experience.

The goal of healing is to fully become yourself, not to become someone else.

Practicing embodiment can be simple: feeling your feet, sensing your environment.

Healing involves recognizing and smiling at your 'sequins'—your recurring triggers—without shame.

Sound Bites

"Healing isn't the disappearance of the pattern. It's changing your relationship to it."

"Your recurring triggers aren't proof you've failed—they're proof you're paying attention."

"You don't become yourself. You remember yourself."

"Embodiment begins when your body becomes a place you'd actually want to come home to."

"The goal isn't to never find another sequin. It's to smile when you do."

Chapters

00:00 – Why It's So Hard to Stay in a Body You Criticize

02:17 – The Blue Sequin That Changed My Definition of Healing

04:22 – What Self-Compassion Actually Looks Like

07:38 – How Comparison Keeps You Looking Outside Yourself

12:16 – The Reunion That Broke My Heart

14:18 – You Are Not Your Inner Critic

16:14 – The World Profits When You Feel "Not Enough"

20:18 – What It Means to Flirt with Life

23:09 – Healing the Places That Still Feel Tender

24:32 – Everyone Has Their Own "Sequins"

26:24 – Embodiment Is Coming Home to Yourself

28:41 – Your Body Will Tell You the Truth

29:28 – The Moment You Choose Yourself Again

30:12 – "Oh... It's You Again."

31:07 – Healing Is a Spiral, Not a Destination

Healing has become another thing to achieve.

Track your sleep.
Optimize your morning routine.
Regulate your nervous system.
Take the supplements.
Buy the red light mask.
Become the "healed" version of yourself.

But what if we've accidentally turned wellness into another performance?

In this solo episode, Dee explores the difference between performative wellness and true embodiment. She unpacks why so many of us have become disconnected from our body's innate wisdom, how social media encourages us to perform healing rather than experience it, and why the goal isn't to become perfectly regulated—it's to become fully alive.

Together, we'll explore:

• What "performative wellness" actually is

• Why embodiment is more than nervous system regulation

• How force and flow create radically different healing experiences

• Why dialectical thinking expands our capacity for healing

• The hidden cost of living through screens instead of our senses

• How birth became one of Dee's greatest teachers of embodiment

• Why your body often knows long before your mind catches up

  
  

If you've ever found yourself chasing healing instead of living your life, this episode is an invitation to come back home to yourself.

Because maybe your body isn't something that needs fixing.

Maybe it's the medicine you've been looking for all along.

What if resentment isn't the first sign—but the last?

In this solo episode, Dee Talley unpacks one of the foundational principles behind her viral "Be a Bitch or Get Sick" series:

A bitch knows her body is law.

Most of us were never taught how to listen to our bodies until they were screaming through burnout, resentment, anxiety, or exhaustion. But your body is communicating with you long before that point.

Dee explores how your body speaks through subtle cues like tension, dread, irritation, overexplaining, and contraction—and why learning to recognize those signals can completely change the way you make decisions, set boundaries, and navigate your life.

If you've ever found yourself saying yes when you meant no, feeling disconnected from yourself, or wondering why resentment keeps showing up, this episode is for you.

Inside this episode:

• What it actually means to treat your body as a source of wisdom
• Why resentment is often delayed body information
• The subtle signs your body may be saying no
• Why women are conditioned to override themselves
• How self-trust is built through listening, not forcing
• The role of consent in embodiment work
• Why your body often knows before your mind catches up

The goal isn't perfection. It's learning to hear yourself sooner.

KEYWORDS

embodiment, self-trust, body awareness, nervous system regulation, women's health, boundaries, resentment, intuition, holistic healing, consent, mindfulness, personal growth, nervous system health, body wisdom, emotional health

SOUND BITES

"A bitch knows her body is law."

"Resentment is often delayed body wisdom."

"Your body shouldn't have to beg to be listened to."

"If you're not listening, the message just gets louder."

"Your body knows before your mind catches up."

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Bitch Rules

05:16 Distinguishing Body Yes and No

09:50 Personal Reflections on Change

14:54 The Importance of Listening to Yourself

19:08 The Importance of Repeated Sessions

23:56 Confronting Inconvenient Truths

28:33 Understanding Body Language

33:14 good good outro.mp3

COURSE

More information about Energy Awareness Foundations: https://www.dee-talley.com/the-source-gate-method-waitlist-1

Well… I accidentally went viral.

What started as one spicy little video turned into a full blown internet conversation with millions of views, thousands of comments, women fighting in comment sections, people asking, “Wait… what are Bitch Rules?” and honestly? I think we need to talk about it.

Because contrary to popular belief, this series has never actually been about becoming mean: It’s about self-abandonment.

It’s about the ways women override themselves, suppress what they really feel, tolerate too much, make themselves smaller, and then wonder why they feel exhausted, resentful, disconnected, or flat out unwell.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the story behind “Be a B*tch or Get Sick,” what prompted me to make the first video, why I think it struck such a nerve, and the deeper philosophy underneath it all.

I’m also breaking down the Bitch Rules (so far) — the embodied principles that help women stop abandoning themselves and start feeling more at home in their body.

We get into:
✨ The story behind the viral series
✨ Why women are disproportionately struggling with autoimmune disease, burnout, and chronic stress
✨ The real meaning behind reclaiming the word bitch
✨ Why discomfort is not danger
✨ Emotional regulation and why the goal isn’t to never feel again
✨ Boundaries, silence, pleasure, rest, and taking up space
✨ Learning to trust your body instead of constantly overriding it
✨ Why self-abandonment costs us more than we realize

This episode is for the woman who’s tired of shape-shifting, people pleasing, and living disconnected from herself.

Because maybe being a “b*tch” was never the problem... Maybe abandoning yourself was.

Sound Bites:
“Discomfort is not danger.”
"A bitch understands emotional regulation is shortening the amount of time we stay dysregulated — not pretending we never feel.”
“You cannot feel at home in your body while constantly betraying yourself.”
"Rest is radical when your worth has been tied to productivity.”
“Silence is a superpower.”

Time Stamps:
00:00 — How “Be a Bitch or Get Sick” accidentally went viral
05:12 — Why this message struck such a nerve with women
09:04 — Autoimmune illness, chronic stress & self-abandonment
14:33 — Reclaiming the word bitch (and what I actually mean)
18:12 — The Bitch Rules (so far)
22:09 — Discomfort is not danger
26:11 — Boundaries, silence & being misunderstood
30:08 — Emotional regulation vs emotional suppression
35:42 — Pleasure, rest & taking up space
40:15 — Listening to your body and rebuilding self-trust
44:30 — Why women feeling at home in themselves changes everything

Connect with Dee:
IG: @dee.talley_healing
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In this solo episode, Dee Talley breaks down what’s really happening when you don’t rest—and why it’s costing you more than just energy.

This isn’t about “self-care” or taking a day off.

It’s about the long-term impact of overriding your body, staying in misalignment, and continuing to live in a way your system has already said no to.

Dee explores how chronic depletion builds over time, how pushing through becomes an identity, and why so many people find it nearly impossible to slow down—even when their body is clearly asking for it.

Through the lens of embodiment and Traditional Chinese Medicine, this episode challenges the idea that burnout and exhaustion are just part of life—and invites a different way of living that actually supports longevity, vitality, and real alignment,

Key Topics

• Why not resting is costing you years—literally
• How staying in misalignment drains your life force over time
• The cycle of chasing “feeling okay” and never actually arriving
• Why rest feels so difficult (and what identity has to do with it)
• How chronic depletion shows up in the body
• Menopause, shifting energy, and the need to adapt
• The difference between understanding rest and actually embodying it
• Listening to your body before it forces you to stop

What You Walk Away With

• A clearer understanding of what your body is actually asking for
• Awareness of how often you override your own signals
• Insight into the deeper reasons you struggle to rest
• A shift in how you think about productivity, energy, and longevity
• Permission to move differently—even if it requires becoming someone new

Sound Bites

• “You are taking years off your life by not resting.”
• “You’re not just tired—you’re overriding your body repeatedly.”
• “You’re chasing feeling okay and never actually arriving.”
• “You don’t have a rest problem. You have an identity problem.”
• “At some point, your body will force the stop you won’t choose.”

Time Stamps

00:00 The Importance of Rest

02:38 Understanding Women's Cycles and Rest

05:20 Menopause and Energy Dynamics

09:36 The Cost of Misalignment

13:48 Embodied Truth and Leadership

15:42 Chasing Productivity vs. Embracing Rest

18:11 Personal Journey to Rest

26:16 Recalibrating Identity and Values

31:09 Listening to Your Body

33:46 good good outro.mp3

In this solo episode, Dee Talley explores the deep connection between emotional processing and the body. Drawing from personal therapy experiences, she breaks down how unprocessed emotions become stored sensations—and how true healing happens when we allow those sensations to move.

She shares insights from her own journey in therapy, while emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, inner work, and compassion. This episode invites you to slow down, tune in, and trust the intelligence of your body as a guide for healing.

What You'll Learn

• How emotional trauma shows up as physical sensations in the body
• Why stagnation blocks healing—and how to shift it

• How “the pause” creates space for real transformation

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to Healing and Imperfection
03:38 The Journey of EMDR and IFS Therapy
06:48 Embracing Brokenness in Healing
09:25 The Importance of the Pause in Healing
11:42 Understanding Triggers and Sensations
14:06 The Role of Memory in Healing
17:09 Revisiting Past Versions of Ourselves
19:32 The Reality of Being a Healer
22:21 Embracing Your Perfectly Imperfect Self
27:24 Outro

If you could go back and tell your younger self one thing… what would it be?

In this episode, Dee shares what happened when she asked that exact question—and why the answers weren’t as different as you’d think. Across dozens of responses, the same themes kept emerging: stop being afraid, you’re already enough, choose yourself, stop worrying what people think, and stop waiting to live your life.

But this episode isn’t about going back.

It’s about recognizing that the awareness you have now—the things you’d tell her—is available to you in real time.

Dee breaks down how these patterns still show up in subtle ways, how the body holds onto past experiences, and why learning to be with yourself in the moment is the shift that actually changes everything.

You’ll also hear a grounded take on time—not as something strictly linear, but as something we experience through different parts of ourselves—and how you can access both the younger and more resourced versions of you right now.

This is a conversation about awareness, self-trust, and what it looks like to stop abandoning yourself in small, everyday ways.

• The 5 core themes people wish they knew sooner (and why they’re so universal)
• Why “advice to your younger self” is really about awareness in the present
• How fear, people-pleasing, and self-doubt show up in real time
• The body’s role in holding onto past patterns and experiences
• What it actually means to “choose yourself” in everyday life
• A grounded perspective on time, intuition, and inner wisdom
• Why nervous system awareness is foundational to change

✨ Energy Awareness Foundations (limited-time launch)
Learn how to actually notice yourself in real time—so you can stop overriding your body and start trusting it.

✨ The Source Gate Circle
Ongoing support, live teachings, and a space to integrate this work in real life.

Timestamps

00:00 – The question: what would you tell your younger self?
00:49 – The surprising pattern in everyone’s answers
02:10 – Fear, risk, and doing things before you feel ready
03:40 – Worthiness: you were never too much
04:16 – Boundaries and choosing yourself in relationships
04:59 – Letting go of other people’s opinions
06:25 – Stop waiting to live your life
06:51 – Nervous system awareness and feeling safe in your body
07:30 – Accessing a more grounded, resourced version of yourself
08:57 – Why the past still lives in the body
10:25 – Your experiences as a “toolkit” for your future self
12:22 – A grounded take on time and inner awareness
14:24 – Intuition, meditation, and accessing inner guidance
16:15 – Understanding your personal “inner map”
18:47 – Awareness as the foundation for healing
20:35 – How this connects to Energy Awareness Foundations
22:03 – Modeling self-trust and care in everyday life
34:20 – Offering compassion to past versions of yourself
36:07 – Staying grounded in a chaotic world
37:09 – Final thoughts + invitation

In this solo episode, Dee Talley explores the art of receiving—starting with something simple, yet surprisingly difficult for many of us: taking a compliment.

Through personal stories and real-life reflections, Dee unpacks how subtle patterns of deflection, self-deprecation, and overthinking can block our ability to receive not just compliments, but love, money, pleasure, and opportunity.

Blending insights from Chinese medicine with embodied awareness, she introduces the concept of holding capacity—and why it’s not just about what you can receive, but what your body feels safe enough to let stay.

This episode is an invitation to slow down, tune in, and begin building a deeper sense of self-trust, presence, and energetic awareness.

• Why receiving a compliment can feel uncomfortable
• The difference between receiving and holding
• How subconscious patterns block abundance and opportunity
• A Chinese medicine perspective on energy and the organs involved in holding
• Practical ways to let compliments, desires, and experiences fully land
• The role of awareness in personal growth and transformation

• Receiving is a reflection of how you allow life to meet you
• Awareness is the foundation of meaningful change
• Many blocks to receiving are rooted in safety and subconscious conditioning
• Your body’s ability to hold is just as important as your ability to receive
• Small moments—like accepting a compliment—can shift everything

00:00 – Introduction and Exciting Updates
02:30 – The Power of Receiving Compliments
06:46 – Energy and Holding Capacity
09:38 – Overriding Desires and Personal Stories
13:56 – Practicing Acceptance of Compliments
16:47 – Subconscious Patterns and Blocks
20:08 – Space, Presence, and Feminine Energy
21:26 – Announcements and What’s Next