The Parenting Reframe

The Goodbye Struggle: How to Help Your Child (and Yourself) Separate with Confidence


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In this heartfelt solo episode, host Albiona Rakipi dives deep into one of the most common (and emotionally triggering) parenting challenges: separation anxiety. But this isn’t your typical advice—this is a powerful reframe.

You’ll learn why children protest when you leave, why dragging out your goodbye actually makes things harder, and how your own guilt might be sending the wrong message—even when you mean well.

Most importantly, this episode gives you practical, loving strategies to help your child build self-trust, navigate hard feelings, and develop resilience, while giving yourself full permission to live a full, joyful life.

Whether you’re heading to work or heading to dinner with friends, this episode reminds you: your joy is not selfish—it’s vital.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Why separation anxiety is not “bad behavior,” but a growth edge
  • The #1 mistake parents make when saying goodbye (and how to fix it)
  • What your child actually needs in those tough emotional moments
  • How to build a "bridge" between separation and safety
  • Why your self-trust is the foundation for your child’s regulation
  • How to reframe “mom guilt” when you choose something just for you
  • The link between predictability and reduced anxiety in kids
  • The critical difference between empathy and enmeshment
  • Real-life scripts and object-leaving strategies to ease transitions
  • Why calm isn’t the opposite of anxiety—self-trust is

Quotes to Remember:

  • “The opposite of anxiety isn’t calm—it’s self-trust.”
  • “Every time you go back in a panic, you’re telling your child they can’t handle hard things.”
  • “Your child doesn’t need you to sacrifice everything—they need you to model wholeness.”
  • “Joy begets joy. When you honor your needs, your kids benefit too.”

Resources Mentioned:

  • Substack Paid Parenting Community: https://albiona.substack.com/subscribe
  • Book a 1:1 Coaching Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/albiona324/discovery-call

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