The Graceful Exit Podcast: Helping Women Navigate Divorce with Grace

“Don't use a wrecking ball when all you need is a hammer!”

In today’s episode, JoAnn C. Little, a trusted partner with The Graceful Exit and owner of Divorce Help shares that because of her own divorce, she realized how broken the divorce process was. As a result, JoAnn became certified in Collaborative Divorce and High Conflict Divorce. In addition, she received her Certified Divorce Financial Analyst designation in 2008.

JoAnn is also the owner of Second Saturday. Those interested can virtually learn everything they need to know about the divorce procedure from specialists such as real estate agents, post-divorce financial planning services, family law attorneys, spousal support, child support, and how to file for divorce. Parties intimately familiar with the divorce process, preparations, and repercussions present to the group every second Saturday of the month providing truth, resources, and support during a difficult moment in the attendees' lives.

[2:05] How her divorce process illuminated the broken process and influenced her to assemble a support system for all who face this difficult life-stage

[7:05] To ensure all clients receive the level of expertise they require, JoAnn works on a modified flat fee for each individual case

[19:36] Her approach to working with clients and knowing what stage they’re at in life

Education can reduce fear of the unknown, especially when it comes to the divorce process.  Going through a divorce might cause us to feel differently but it’s important you don’t perceive a loss of power. In fact, some say you gain it back through resources, independence, and a support network.

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Visit her website:https://divorcehelpfamilylaw.com/

Second Saturday, San Diego: https://www.secondsaturdaysandiego.org/

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“We all get to the other side of the divorce. But it’s how we get there and how quickly we get there.”

Divorce for her was “indescribable” as it was one of the most challenging situations she’s had to face. Recounting her divorce, Shannon reveals she could have stayed stuck in sadness and resentment but instead moved forward to accept the reality of the situation. During the journey of her own divorce and therapy sessions, she felt compelled to help other women going through the same situation.

In this episode, Shannon McGorry, a Certified Professional Coach through the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching and a graduate of I Heart Coaching, shares how her powerful coaching skills lead women toward lives of purpose, fulfillment, and joy!

The power of accepting what is requires moving down the path of acceptance and forgiveness. After a divorce, there’s a lot to dig up about yourself. Forgiveness isn’t just for yourself; it’s for someone else, too. Deliberate decision-making and taking charge of your own life will benefit you in the long term.

[5:00] Her faith, a loving family, and a team of professionals all had a role in her success. This has helped her get to a better state of recovery.

[11:23] She strives to empower women to have them realize divorce doesn’t have to define them

[17:54] Reconnect with your identity to understand your worth to understand your value, and choices

Life presents you with its beauty, but are you capable of acknowledging the truth and moving on to write a new chapter?

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57% of women who have gone through a divorce report back that it was a financial wake up call  post divorce.

In this episode, we’ll hear from Kathleen Burns Kingsbury, a wealth psychology specialist who focuses on women and wealth, in terms of helping women understand how they think and feel about money. Whether it's before, during, or post-divorce, she helps women have a better connection with their money.

Dissolving your marriage can be emotionally and physically draining even in the best-case scenario. So, not only does Kathleen help ensure women have access to information about how to build wealth, but also focuses on restoring their confidence in the financial system following their divorce.

[1:26] The questions to ask yourself while obtaining pre-divorce information

[7:57] Detail about what it's like working with Kathleen and the packages she creates for her clients

[13:30] You may be apprehensive about negotiating money at first, but knowing it’s done in our lives day to day, you can gain the confidence and do it well

Self-advocacy and working with a coach can help you discover your true worth. Many women who have divorced share that through the process, there were feelings of lost self-identity. Let go of your fear of money and reclaim the self-assurance you deserve.

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https://www.breakingmoneysilence.com/

Podcast: https://www.breakingmoneysilence.com/podcast-2/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kbkspeaks

Breaking Money Silence Book: https://www.breakingmoneysilence.com/books/

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Life after a long marriage does not mean your post-marriage existence would consist of nothing but parenthood. Following a 22-year marriage that ended in divorce because of adultery, Laura felt the need to reawaken the Phoenix within her.

In this episode, Kim Hoertz introduces the author of Available, she recounts her narrative of sexual liberation and the freedom to discover one’s own sexual identity. The post-divorce lifestyle and a woman’s sexual appetite are topics that are often shunned and avoided as conversation starters, therefore she’s sharing her experience to show other women that they, too, can talk openly about tough issues while still pursuing the lives they envision for themselves.

Not having to feel shame about opening up about sex and dating in mid-life after a long marriage [5:02]

You have a chance to do something different with your life after divorce [11:26]

The empowerment women get when they find their voice and themselves [12:07]

You can take action by becoming a vehicle for your own journey. Divorcees should honor themselves. You need to be conscious of your own desires and know you can achieve them for the life you want. Being a parent doesn't have to define your identity; explore who you are as a person outside of parenthood and your past.

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When Hayley became a divorce coach, she had already been through two divorces with a son, one of which involved a husband with mental health issues and the other with alcoholism. She wanted to help others who didn’t have the means to do so. It’s part of her purpose to serve as a “thinking partner” for men going through divorce and helping them reconstruct their lives.

In this episode, Kim Hoertz introduces Hayley Lisa who is a Divorce Coach for men. She understands men also need resources, guidance, and someone to help them stay aware, compassionate, and level-headed through the divorce process. She knows that as she helps men in this way, the woman on the other side of the divorce is benefitting as well.

Don't let fear rule your choices or your life [7:06]

The healing process that both Hayley and her son went through to rise above [10:01]

Taking the high road and show your children the respect you have for their mother or father [19:23]

For those who doubt their ability to fight for their children after a divorce and have no one to lean on, their paternal instincts may kick in and provide them the strength they need. Take time to heal so that you can avoid repeating the cycle

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https://thedivorcecoachformen.com/

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“You have to heal that inner child before you can function correctly as an adult.” Christina knew after her second divorce that it was time to heal and break free from her past so that she could create the life she’d always wanted and expected. Through that process, she began to let go of the “strong woman” front, reveal some vulnerability, and be honest with herself about the mismatches that had occurred.

In this episode, Kim Hoertz introduces Christian Parish, who is a former divorcee who turned her past into her passion for becoming a Divorce Coach who helps other women heal and gain clarity about what they want their lives to look like post-divorce.

Christina expresses the hardest part was navigating why she was going through divorce (again) and how she began to dig deep [7:18]

Others’ lack of respect for your boundaries and your decision to pursue divorce is not being  supportive [10:04]

Christina’s program MOVE assists women in navigating their way through and after divorce to ensure they’re equipped for what lies ahead [10:03]

You need to avoid repeating the cycle in order to develop clarity and find yourself; not only for yourself but for your children. An important aspect of self-confidence is being able to stand on your own two feet without interference from others.

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In this episode, Kim Hoertz introduces India Kern, who shares her journey through divorce and her reasons why she became a Divorce Coach. Her book, Surviving Unwanted Divorce, reveals her transition from feeling underwater, through the mourning period(s), and how she turned her heartache into a passionate career helping others.

In her role as a divorce coach, she helps women overcome the crippling effects of divorce, make a game plan, and find purpose.

“Pain is never in vain…..It gave me incredible purpose in my life that I didn't have before.”

In order to acknowledge everything, we need to grieve (6:10)

The difference between a coach and a therapist (8:35)

Finding yourself in the fight or flight mode, not helping yourself out of fear (10:31)

A clear understanding of who you are, what you stand for, and what you hope for (17:13)

Based out of San Diego, California, India serves clients both in-office and virtually. Reach out to her for a free consultation if you are contemplating or in the process of divorce. You don’t have to go through this alone.

https://www.indiakern.com/

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After experiencing divorce and realizing what was missing from the divorce process, Catharine Baldwin and Karen Chalou collaboratively formed My Divorce Solution. Divorce has a long-term effect on individuals, second only to the death of a spouse. Catherine and Karen are available as liaisons to step in and bridge the gap between legal representation and financial clarity.

My Divorce Solution offers divorcees education, resources, and guidance through the financial portion of divorce. Their flagship offer, The MDS Financial Portrait ™ consists of the information needed to assess which assets are marital and non-marital, what possible division scenarios might look like, what financial factors will be used in support calculations, and what the financial basis to your independent financial structure will entail.

Financial division can be the toughest, most emotionally fuelled portion of the divorce process. This is especially difficult if you don’t have access to information, or don’t understand the information you have. Working with My Divorce Solutions gives you back your power.

Not knowing everything about your finances is completely normal (12:05)

The length of the process is generally a minimum of 3 months, but typically longer (13:28)

How financial clarity can assist in determining if divorce is the right decision (14:05)

Encouragement to ask questions and take a pause when making decisions (23:03)

Having been through the process of divorce, Cathrine and Karen knew it was time to use their expertise to help others gain financial clarity through the divorce process. Please don't hesitate to contact them if you have any questions.

My Divorce Solutions:

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https://www.facebook.com/mydivorcesolution/

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In this episode, Kim Hoertz introduces the only Divorce Journalist/Columnist committed to helping others navigate this major life transition. Meet Ilyssa Panitz, the author of “5 Things You Need to Know How to Survive and Thrive During & After A Divorce” for Authority Magazine on Medium, a daily column in which she covers every angle and explores every topic when it comes to a divorce.

How she discovered a gap in journalism coverage and what she did about it (01:07)

The goal of her content and how it supports divorcees through the process (03:39)

What her experience has been like in writing about something that’s still considered taboo and shameful to many (06:48)

A bit more about Ilyssa’s journey through her own divorce - from feeling lost and like there’s no way out to surviving to thriving (11:39)

Where you can find her and her words of encouragement that you can and will make it through the muddiest waters (15:37)

She serves as the Content/Editorial Producer for The National Association of Divorce Professionals and Ilyssa enjoys her role as creator and host of a national radio show called, “The Divorce Hour with Ilyssa Panitz.” Simply search online to discover your local radio station that airs her show via CRN Digital Talk Radio.

You can also find Ilyssa on Clubhouse as the Co-Host of “All Things Divorce.”

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As Principal of AHAVA Law, Sheila-Marie works directly with women to understand their goals and wishes, educate them on their options, and develop strategic solutions to meet their needs. She helps clients understand the important relationship between family law and estate law, and how estate planning impacts family law matters, because no two estate plans, administrations, or probate proceedings are the same.

Women benefit from Sheila-Marie’s services because they love someone. She honors that love and treats each client as the important individual that they are, and not just a number on the bottom line.

As one of few California State Bar Board Certified Specialists in Estates, Trusts, and Probate Law, Sheila-Marie can address all matters involving life, incapacity, and death from planning through administration.

How she got started in estate planning - preparing 30 plans in just two weeks for those being deployed (01:40)

The difference between a will, an estate plan, and a trust (02:45)

When you should set up or begin the process of an estate plan (06:26)

A few examples of estate planning and beneficiaries not being adjusted pre-divorce filing (09:34)

Why she stands out as unique and what she cares about throughout the planning process with each client (15:20)

Ahava Law focuses on Mischpah (Family), Ahava (Love) and Mitzvot (Good Deeds). It is important to engage in Tzedakah (Justice). Through her work in estate planning, Sheila-Marie makes the world a better place by supporting those who support our country and community.

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