Episode Description

"Time doesn't heal grief. It just passes."

In this episode of Grieve That Sh!t, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, takes on some of the biggest grief myths we've all heard—and tells the truth about why they're keeping grievers stuck.

"Just give it time."

"Grief comes in waves."

"You're never supposed to let go of the pain."

"Grief is a roller coaster."

We hear these phrases all the time. They're repeated at funerals, shared by friends, posted online, and passed from one griever to another.

But are they actually helping?

Or are they keeping people trapped in survival mode?

In this powerful episode, Sharon breaks down the hidden messages behind common grief advice and explains why healing requires more than simply waiting for time to pass.

She explores why so many grievers believe holding onto pain is the same as holding onto their person, why grief keeps showing up in waves, and what it really means to process loss instead of avoiding it.

This episode is a reminder that grief is not something time fixes.

It's something we learn to move through.

Because healing doesn't happen by accident.

It happens when we stop waiting and start doing the work.

What You'll Learn in This Episode

• Why "just give it time" is some of the most misunderstood grief advice
• What time actually does—and doesn't do—for grief
• Why looking better is not the same as healing
• The truth about holding onto pain after loss
• Why many grievers fear letting go of their suffering
• What it means when grief comes in waves
• The difference between surviving grief and processing grief
• Why grief feels like a roller coaster—and how to step off
• How unprocessed grief continues to resurface
• Why healing requires action, not just time

Questions to Sit With After Listening

What am I waiting for time to fix?

Am I healing my grief or simply learning how to hide it?

What pain am I afraid to let go of?

What emotions keep showing up over and over again?

What would change if I stopped waiting and started processing?

Homework for You

Take out a piece of paper and answer this question:

"What am I hoping time will do for me?"

Write down every answer that comes up.

Then ask yourself:

"What if time isn't the thing that's supposed to heal this?"

Because healing doesn't happen because enough days pass.

Healing happens when you become willing to face the pain that's asking for your attention.

Resources + Next Steps

👉 Join Processing the Pain of Grief

👉 Join The Story Room

👉 Listen to more episodes of Grieve That Sh!t

👉 Learn more at: griefdiscovery.com

Because time is not coming to save you.

But that doesn't mean you're stuck.

It means the power to heal has been inside you all along.

And there is a way forward.