Dave Boyd is a former Marine and SWAT officer who now serves as a men’s coach and president of Uncivilized, Inc.

Dave and I begin our conversation by exploring the complexities that AI introduces into today’s societal norms. From there, we delve into the importance of finding and maintaining authenticity in a world that is often overwhelmed with overstimulation. Together, we unpack the journey of self-discovery and the challenges men face when breaking free from the molds imposed by organizations, service, and society. We also explore the weight of prescriptive identities, the power of living by core values, and why surrounding yourself with supportive relationships is essential to becoming grounded and authentic to yourself.

Chapters

(00:00) The Rise of AI and Its Implications

(02:24) Navigating Personal Identity in a System

(05:29) The Quest for Authenticity

(08:43) Fatherhood and Instilling Resilience

(11:27) The Journey of Self-Discovery

(14:41) Balancing Personal Values and Responsibilities

(17:22) Living Authentically Across Different Roles

(31:18) The Journey to Integrity

(33:46) The Pain of Sacrifice

(39:06) The Masks We Wear

(42:57) Witnessing Our True Selves

(48:48) Building Resilience and Core Values

(57:33) The Importance of Brotherhood

Links

Connect with Dave:

Website: https://www.manuncivilized.com/

Instagram: / uncivilized_dave

Uncivilized Men's Group: https://www.manuncivilized.com/mensgroup

Connect with Me:

Website: https://www.thegroundedwarrior.com

Coaching: ⁠https://www.thegroundedwarrior.com/coaching

Instagram: / the_grounded_warrior

Andre Lam is a relational alchemist coach who has helped many people through teaching Mental Fitness, Conscious Communication, and guiding Transformational Men's Groups.

In our conversation, Andre and I explore the transformative power of self-awareness and emotional intelligence in relationships. He discusses the concept of relational alchemy, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's emotions and their impact on relationships.

Chapters:

(04:46) Transformations in Male Relationships

(10:07) Alchemy of Emotions

(21:01) Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation in Relationships

(29:38) Navigating Emotional Awareness

(35:10) Unearthing Hidden Treasures Within

(39:40) The Balance of Healing and Growth

(41:56) Edgework: Expanding Beyond Comfort Zones

(46:05) Living Meditation

(49:54) Embracing Emotions as Data

Links:

Connect with Andre:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andre_lam

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrelam.fb

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adrelam

Connect with Me:

Website: https://www.thegroundedwarrior.com

Coaching: ⁠https://www.thegroundedwarrior.com/coaching

Instagram: / the_grounded_warrior

Myles Usher Doyle is the founder of SpeakWell Coaching and a phenomenal speech coach whose clientele includes public figures and Fortune 500 CEOs.

In this episode, Myles and I discuss the intricacies of public speaking, addressing common fears and the importance of authenticity. We emphasize the significance of posture and presence in communication, and share practical tips for enhancing speaking skills. Our dialogue explores how to embrace vulnerability and connect with audiences, ultimately encouraging listeners to vocalize their thoughts and be present in conversations.

Chapters

(02:20) Understanding the Fear of Public Speaking

(09:37) The Importance of Authenticity in Speaking

(21:39) Techniques for Enhancing Public Speaking Skills

(39:21) Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways

Links:

Connect with Myles:

Website: https://www.speak-well.co.uk⁠

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/speakwellcoaching

Connect with Me:

Website: https://www.thegroundedwarrior.com

Coaching: ⁠https://www.thegroundedwarrior.com/coaching

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_grounded_warrior/

Joshua Laycock is a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) and has been working with men for over 10 years.

In this episode, Joshua Laycock and I discuss the evolution of masculinity over the past decade. He highlights the positive changes in men's awareness of their impact on the world and the importance of self-reflection. Our conversation delves into the struggles men face in modern relationships, the societal expectations placed on them, and the need for self-awareness and personal growth. Joshua emphasizes that men should redefine their roles to foster emotional intelligence and connection.

Chapters

(03:09) Positive Changes in Men's Awareness

(06:00) Defining a Good Man

(09:05)The Changing Expectations of Relationships

(11:57) Navigating Masculinity: The Primal and Divine

(14:54) The Impact of Technology on Dating

(18:00) Understanding the Modern Dating Landscape

(20:54) The Role of Trauma in Men's Lives

(28:21) Understanding Our Past and Its Impact

(34:06) Navigating Relationships and Communication

(39:53) Redefining Masculinity and Self-Worth

(46:02) Building a Supportive Community for Growth

Links:

Connect with Joshua:

Website: https://www.menstherapy.io

Man Uncivilized: ⁠https://www.manuncivilized.com/coaching

Connect with Me:

Website: https://www.thegroundedwarrior.com

Coaching: ⁠https://www.thegroundedwarrior.com/coaching⁠

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_grounded_warrior

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@GroundedWarriorPodcast

Karden Rabin is a Somatic Practitioner and author of: The Secret Language of the Body.

In this episode, Karden and Phil delve into the complex relationship between the body, emotional well-being, and parenting. We discuss how tension in the body often reflects deeper emotional issues and the importance of understanding and addressing these tensions. The dialogue highlights the importance of connection, rupture, and repair in fostering resilience, particularly in parenting. We emphasize the importance of intentionality in relationships and the role of physical contact in forming emotional bonds, as well as offer practical takeaways for men on embodiment and emotional responsibility, encouraging a deeper understanding of their own bodies and emotions.

Chapters

(05:19) The Struggle with Belonging and Vulnerability

(11:25) Understanding Safety and Belonging

(16:47) Embodiment vs. Observation

(20:12) Developing Somatic Awareness and Connection

(29:09) Letting Go of Tension

(32:07) Building Resilience Through Core Connection

(35:51) Rupture and Repair in Parenting

(37:09) The Importance of Contact

(40:06) Repairing Relationships

(43:57) The Role of Embodiment

(47:03) The Power of Contact

(51:21) Intentionality in Relationships

(57:24) Key Takeaways for Men

Links:

Connect with Karden:

Website: somiainternational.com

Instagram: ⁠instagram.com/kardenrabin

Connect with Me:

Website: ⁠thegroundedwarrior.com⁠

Coaching: ⁠thegroundedwarrior.com/coaching

⁠Instagram: ⁠instagram.com/the_grounded_warrior⁠

YouTube: youtube.com/@groundedwarriorpodcast  

Zac Miller is the Director of Manpower at Uncivilized and leads breathwork and men's work facilitator.

In this conversation, Zach Miller shares his journey with Uncivilized, his experiences with breathwork, and the importance of community support in overcoming personal struggles. He discusses the challenges faced in public safety roles, the stigma surrounding mental health, and the significance of authenticity in connecting with others. The discussion also explores the transformative power of breathwork and its potential to support emotional regulation and personal growth.

Chapters:

(01:22) The Impact of Community on Personal Growth

(05:04) Understanding Rock Bottom and Its Lessons

(08:23) The Role of Public Safety in Mental Health

(12:05) Breaking Stigmas in Public Safety

(15:11) Finding Support and Overcoming Stigmas

(18:51) The Journey to Becoming Director of Manpower

(22:13) Building a Strong Foundation for Growth

(27:10) Embracing Opportunities and Threads of Life

(30:09) Navigating Ego and Intuition

(33:32) The Power of Breathwork

(42:35) Breath as a Tool for Regulation and Awareness

(47:55) Authenticity and Connection in Life

Links:

Connect with Zac:

manuncivilized.com

evolvingguidance.com

Connect with Me:

Website: thegroundedwarrior.com

Coaching: thegroundedwarrior.com/coaching

Instagram: instagram.com/the_grounded_warrior

YouTube: youtube.com/@GroundedWarriorPodcast

Michael Read is a Licensed Massage Therapist and men’s coach who helps men reconnect with their bodies, process stuck emotions, and step into a more authentic version of themselves.

In this episode, Michael and I dive deep into the modern masculinity crisis and what’s really holding men back. We explore how emotional suppression, constant distraction, and disconnection from community are eroding men’s mental health and what it takes to come back to center. From the importance of grief and emotional processing to the biological wiring of men to stabilize the future, this conversation challenges outdated ideas of strength and offers a new path forward.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in survival mode or silently carrying the weight of unprocessed pain, this conversation will meet you where you are and call you into something deeper.

Chapters:

(00:00) Introduction to the Masculinity Crisis

(01:33) Understanding the Future Self and Present Moment

(11:34) Distractions and the Need for Reflection

(18:47) The Balance of Productivity and Personal Growth

(24:39) Victim Mentality vs. Personal Responsibility

(31:38) The Importance of Community and Connection

(37:28) The Role of Being Witnessed in Grief

(42:26) Breaking Homeostasis: The Need for Connection

(48:16) Finding the Right Coach or Therapist

(55:18) Understanding Fear and Self-Awareness

(01:01:51) Navigating Vulnerability and Risk-Taking

Links:

Connect with Michael Read:

Website: adaptivemen.com

Connect with Me:

Website: ⁠thegroundedwarrior.com⁠

Coaching: ⁠thegroundedwarrior.com/coaching⁠

Instagram: ⁠instagram.com/the_grounded_warrior⁠

YouTube: ⁠youtube.com/@GroundedWarriorPodcast