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Episode #40 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast. 

I''m back baby. 

Join me, Alessandra, as I give a brief update to where I've been, why I have so humbly returned and what's on the long-met horizon, or tentatively so, as you know I am always a bit up in the air:)


Also, feel free to check out my linktree below for my book! (it's still so wild to write that!)

My book: https://linktr.ee/ajacobs777

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Episode #39 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

Join me, Alessandra, as I explain how on earth I was hacked in the year of our lord, 2024. Yep, you heard that right. I talk about how I'm trying to learn something from this whole experience and how I maybe manifested it by accident. (Whoops:( ) It's really a take on trying to make lemonade from some nasty lemons.

So, take a listen and commiserate if you too are going through it -- or get some relief that you're not in my situation.

As always, it's a choose your own adventure experience.

Also, feel free to report my hacked accounts to help a girl out. They are linked below! :)

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Things mentioned in the video:

Facebook Manufacturing Outrage

What it Takes to Get Back an Account from Meta

Facebook Perhaps Guilty of Stoking Civil Unrest Abroad

Meta -- The Tech Monopoly

Meta Layoffs, Including Customer Service

Optimistic Nihilism

Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn

Gone Girl Movie

High Taste/Low Skill Quote:

“Nobody tells this to people who are beginners, I wish someone told me. All of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But there is this gap. For the first couple years you make stuff, it’s just not that good. It’s trying to be good, it has potential, but it’s not. But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase, they quit. Most people I know who do interesting, creative work went through years of this. We know our work doesn’t have this special thing that we want it to have. We all go through this. And if you are just starting out or you are still in this phase, you gotta know it's normal and the most important thing you can do is do a lot of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week you will finish one story. It is only by going through a volume of work that you will close that gap, and your work will be as good as your ambitions. And I took longer to figure out how to do this than anyone I’ve ever met. It’s gonna take awhile. It’s normal to take awhile. You’ve just gotta fight your way through."
― Ira Glass


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Episode #38 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

Join me, Alessandra, as I open up about my desire not to film today and my futile addiction to perfectionism (always to my own detriment). I also give my own spin on the notion that the grass is not greener on the other side and how social media makes me feel behind and depressed.

It's really an ode to the idea that there's nothing more hollow than fulfilling someone else's dreams.

So, listen to this pod -- and then go get those dreams, girl! [or guy, ambition don't discriminate here] !!

As always, email suggestions to [email protected].

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Things mentioned in the video:

Why We Procrastinate About The Things We Care About

The Addiction of Seeking Perfection

Using Anger as Motivation

Humans Need to Belong (Sometimes to Our Detriment)

Kinship Altruism

Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst by Robert Sapolsky

Introduction to Genetics and Evolution Coursera Class

Rich Roll Podcast Clip about Showing Up on the Hard Days

The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

Joey Diaz On Rogan

Richard lewis & Larry David -- A Match Made in Purgatory (in the best possible way)

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Episode #37 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

Join me, Alessandra, as I discuss designing my own hodgepodge syllabus for my life-long education plan (or at least for the foreseeable future). I also muse on the sadness that is adulthood, how we "childify" America, and how to find the simple joys as a grown-up -- for me it naturally involves dry erase markers.

It's a perfect combo of social commentary and self-betterment, what's better than that? :)

Things mentioned:

75 Hard
Impressionist Paintings of Leisure
History of Leisure
Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins
Goggins on Leadership
Rogan and Goggins the First Time Around
BUD/S & Seal Training
The Compound effect
Keats' "When I have Fears That I May Cease to Be"
Masterpieces of World Literature Class
Goethe book I Bought
Harvard Classics and Their Lore (including both the good and the bad)
Goggins' Cookie Jar
David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell
Acromegaly and Goliath
Diseases in the Bible
The American Child Conundrum
The Over-parenting Crisis You Probably Haven't Realized is a Problem
The History of the Protestant Work Ethic and Puritanical America
The Origins of Pull Yourself up by Your Bootstraps
Existential America Returning Perhaps?

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Episode #36 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

Join me, Alessandra, as I embrace the unemployed yet somehow constantly busy life of a creative. I also muse on Harrison Butker's commencement speech and how repulsive I find that way of thinking and how to potentially use existentialism as the salve -- spoiler alert, it always comes back to existentialism.

Just like for another YouTuber it always relates back to tuberculosis. :)

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Things mentioned in the video:

Scrivener

The Stamet's Stack

Soul Boom by Rainn Wilson

The Baháʼí faith

Dwight Schrute's Descriptive Personality Statistics

The Office’s Rainn Wilson on meaning and happiness

Harrison Butker's Speech

The Religious Battle Behind Harrison Butker’s Culture-War Speech

TikTok I filmed responding to Harrison Butker's speech

Carl Jung Archetypes

An Interesting Idea in Gender Existentialism

Beauvoir | an overview

The Importance of Crop Diversity

Beyond the Binary in Nature

Beyond the Binary in Nature 2

Simone de Beauvoir Books

The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir

A Hero's Journey Makes you an existentialist -- and Happier?

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Episode #35 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

Join me, Alessandra, as I discuss being unemployed whilst keeping up my spirits -- and keeping myself busy. I end with an excerpt of my book that connects to the conversation, and I promise it relates. :)

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Things mentioned in the video:

Libby Library App

Books by Eckhart Tolle

Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs

Transcendental Meditation

The Satanic Verses by Salman Rushdie

What happened to Salman Rushdie, all from a book


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Episode #34 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

Join me, Alessandra, as I discuss the limitations of love our modern society has created -- but I tried to end it with some tangible suggestions for actually fixing the problem. My rule to live by: You can't complain about something unless you're actively trying to work on it.

As always, email suggestions to [email protected].

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Things mentioned in the video:

The Atlantic Babysitter Article

Over-parenting article 1

Over-parenting article 2

The Five People You Meet in Heaven Book

The Importance of Third Places

Cul-de-Sacs in America

A More Walkable Community


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Timestamps: 

00:00 - 01:1

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Episode #33 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

this was filmed a month ago

Join me, Alessandra, as I document a bout of depression mode in my life. It is a bit of woe mixed with, hopefully, some optimism at the end. Always a bit of happy entangled with a whole lot of sad.

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Things mentioned in the video:

Social Contract Theory

How to Revamp the Social Contract in our Modern World

An interview about bullshit jobs

Bullshit jobs book

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Episode #32 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

Join me, Alessandra, as I try to repair my relationship with rejection and seek out getting no's in the wild. It's regular therapy alongside rejection therapy in 2024.

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Things mentioned in the video:

Changes by Jax Anderson Lyrics:

Scared to Start by Michael Marcagi Lyrics:

Ohio by Stephen Markley

The Architecture of Happiness by Alain de Botton

The B3 Chair

John Ruskin's Essay "On Restoration"

The story of the British Bicycle Racing Team & Marginal Gains

Identity and the Concept of Change

Cal Newport Video that includes deciding upon your values

Atomic Habits by James Clear

The Sopranos

Severance

CitiesX: The Past, Present and Future of Urban Life

How Your Nervous System Works & Changes | The Huberman Lab Podcast

Rejection Therapy Ted Talk

100 Days of Rejection Videos Playlist

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Timestamps: 

00:00 - 01:19 Intro
01:20 - 05:58 What I've been listening to
05:59 - 20:58 What I've been reading
20:59 - 22:05 What I've been watching
22:06 - 24:50 What I've been learning
24:51 - 31:15 seeking rejection 
31:16 - 39:20 Quotes & outro
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Episode #31 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

Join me, Alessandra, as I get real with myself and choose actual goals I can actually accomplish in 2024. It *actually" is new year, new me.

As always, email suggestions to [email protected].

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Things mentioned in the video:

Martyr by KiNG MALA Lyrics

Ohio by Stephen Markley

The Architecture of Happiness by Alain de Botton

The influence of Classical architecture in our modern world

Tenets of Gothic architecture

The two sides Le Corbusier

The cult of le corbusier

The history of Villa Savoye

A darker history of Villa Savoye

Visit Villa Savoye

Atomic Habits by James Clear

The Sopranos

Severance

What is a misogi?

Weight gain and protection

The Huberman Lab Podcast

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More videos about 2024 goals that I found inspiring:

Fernanda Ramirez -- HOW TO CREATE A 2024 LIFE BINDER | the SECRET to creating your dream life + ULTIMATE vision board !!

UnJaded Jade -- How I Set My New Year's Goals 2024 | free templates, vision board, reflections + resolutions

Nicolas Berndt -- How To ACTUALIZE Your 2024 New Year Resolutions // 7 DAY PLAN

Nike Erculj-- ELEVATE YOUR LIFE in 2024: Crush Goals, Design Your Best Life + Exit Lazy Girl Era for Good:

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