The Happy Human Life

"My child will punch and kick during a meltdown and it feels like I can't give them any support. What can I do to help them when they get this way?"

In this episode, we talk about CALMY RIDING THE WAVE.

When your kid is in meltdown mode and throwing punches and kicks, we need to do our best to maintain our cool at all costs.

It’s not just about keeping everyone safe, but also about modeling calm behavior. It may help to say a mantra like, “We’re going to get through this. They’re just having a hard time.”

We need to remember that our kids look to us for cues on how to handle their BIG emotions. If we can model regulation, it’s almost as if we lend them our calm through co-regulation.

It can take time, so try not to rush the process. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in their storm, but we know that reacting strongly will just escalate the situation.

While giving them space, we recommend staying close by and offering support. Even though it may not feel that way, your presence is reassuring and will help them move through their feelings.

You may want to try opening your arms for a hug to show them that you’re there for them and aren’t afraid of their big emotions. This can be a SUCH powerful way to let them know that you’re there to support them… no matter what.

It’s not always easy, but let’s do our best to CALMY RIDE THE WAVE. All waves come down eventually. They just need time.

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-Jenilee and Greg

“It’s been hard for me and my partner to get on the same page with the kids. We have different ideas on boundaries and discipline, and it's been causing a lot of tension between us. What can we do?”

In this episode, we dig into the tip of: LEADING WITH VALIDATION.

Understanding and acknowledging each other’s feelings and beliefs will always be the first step in finding common ground. Before we can even think about achieving a compromise, we first need to feel seen, heard, and validated.

To do this, we recommend setting aside dedicated time to give your partner space to share what they're thinking without ANY judgment. For us… this takes the form of a weekly 30-minute “team meeting” where we discuss the issues that we tend to avoid.

Though we’re not perfect at making sure it happens each week, it’s become a somewhat regular “check-in” that’s been helping us better align with and understand each other.

Although it’s easy to feel defensive (or even attacked) during these kinds of talks, just know that expressing defensiveness will only push your partner farther away. It’s a challenge, but we need to do our best to avoid those kinds of reactions, and instead, focus on being an active listener who understands and empathizes.

LEADING WITH VALIDATION will open the door to compromise. It’ll put you both in a position to co-create boundaries and strategies that work for the TEAM. Remember, the goal is not to win and get your partner over to your side. It’s all about letting go of control, being flexible, and compromise.

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Thanks for listening. 🙂

-Jenilee and Greg

Struggle getting your kids to listen when it's time to get ready for bed?

We hear you! It’s been a near-nightly struggle for us over the past 12 years with our four kids.

So… our big tip… LEVERAGE PLAY.

Transforming the bedtime routine into a fun and engaging experience will capture our kids' interest, but more importantly, their cooperation.

As a quick example… our toddler loves to pretend that he’s Spider-Man. Climbing the stool to brush his teeth becomes an adventure of scaling a building, or when we move from the bathroom to the bedroom, we have a thrilling web-slinging ride.

If you’re having a hard time tapping into play, let your kids lead! They are the ultimate play gurus, and by letting them take the lead, it just increases their investment in the whole process.

Let’s try to let go of our adult inhibitions surrounding play and join in on the fun! Our kids want to play with us, and we can use the bedtime routine as an opportunity to have some fun together.

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Thanks for listening. 🙂

-Jenilee and Greg

If you struggle getting your kids to listen and follow through with even the simplest tasks, then this episode is for you!

It can be SO frustrating to feel like you're being ignored or to be met with constant whining, so in this episode, we discuss strategies to motivate your kids to listen without resorting to threats or nagging.

We start by emphasizing the importance of LEADING WITH CONNECTION.

We should recognize that our kids’ lack of listening is often a skill deficit, not an act of defiance. They aren't trying to annoy or hurt us, but instead, they’re likely just preoccupied or aren’t on the same timeline as us.

So let’s try to approach these situations as a TEAM. We shouldn’t be there just to enforce rules. We should work together to tackle whatever problem there is.

It can be SO helpful to start by involving ourselves in THEIR world before expecting them to involve themselves in ours… even if it’s just for a minute.

Sitting with them and showing a genuine interest in what THEY’RE doing can make a huge difference in getting them on board with what WE want them to do.

This kind of connection will open up the pathway for better communication, because when children feel seen, heard, and valued, they’re going to be more likely to listen.

✨Looking for more support? Come grow with us in The Happy Human Collective, our education and support community.

✅ Explore our growing library of self-paced workshops, live virtual meetups, and group chat threads free for 7 days! Tap here to learn more.

Thanks for listening. 🙂

-Jenilee and Greg

Have you ever wondered how to handle situations where family members label foods as "good" or "bad" in front of your children?

In this episode, we dig into the following question from our community:

"My mother-in-law is always labeling foods as good or bad in front of our daughter. She came home yesterday telling me that Grammy said, 'All I eat is junk food.' How do we handle this?"

Here’s our tip…

Empower kids by educating them about the nutritional content of foods.

There's no such thing as inherently "good" or "bad" foods. Instead, it's about understanding the macro and micronutrients that foods provide (or lack).

By emphasizing education over stigmatization, we equip children with the tools they need to develop a healthy relationship with food so they don’t fall victim to the diet culture that so many of us were raised in.

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Thanks for listening. 🙂

-Jenilee and Greg

Are you struggling with disciplining your children? Do you often find yourself using threats or removal of privileges as a quick fix to stop unwanted behavior?

You're not alone! In this episode, we dive deep into the common parenting problem: "Should I be using removal punishment with my kids, or are there better ways?"

We all know how challenging parenting is, and it's easy to feel like you're running out of tools when your kids misbehave. We often turn to threats or punishments, like taking away toys or screen time, because it seems to be effective in the moment. But is this really the best strategy? Let’s dig in!

✨Looking for more support? Come grow with us in The Happy Human Collective, our education and support community.

✅ Explore all of our self-paced workshops, live virtual meetups, and group chat threads free for 7 days! Tap here to learn more.

Thanks for listening. 🙂

-Jenilee and Greg

Are you struggling to manage screen time in your household? Wondering how much is too much for your kids?

In this episode, we explore the often asked question, "How much screen time is appropriate for my kids?" and we share our personal experiences and tips on finding the right balance.

The American Academy of Pediatrics provides guidelines and limitations, but like many parents, we often find that screen time can be a valuable tool. Whether it’s bonding over a family movie or using a kid-friendly show to keep them occupied while we handle essential jobs, screens can play an important role in our daily parenting practices.

It's all about setting limits while also being flexible and understanding the needs of your family.

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Thanks for listening. 🙂

-Jenilee and Greg

“I’ve heard about helicopter versus free range parenting and I’m having a hard time finding a balance. How much freedom should we give our kids?”

In this episode, we dig into the world of parenting styles as we discuss helicopter vs. free-range parenting.

If you're struggling to find the right balance of freedom and guidance for your children, this one's for you!

We start off with a quick overview of what helicopter parenting and free-range parenting involve, and then discuss how much freedom is too much. We dive into the challenges of balancing control with independence, and how to tailor your approach to best suit your kid's age and maturity.

You’ll gain practical tips on how to be supportive of your kid’s interests and self-expression without overstepping, learning how to model flexibility, acceptance, and support. Let's dig in!

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Thanks for listening. 🙂

-Jenilee and Greg

In this episode, we dive into a topic that every parent grapples with: kids testing boundaries.

We discuss the challenging moments when our kids push limits and how we should respond to them.

Is constant kindness and support realistic? Should empathy and understanding be unconditional?

We all face those tough parenting moments when our kids are confrontational or are just getting under our skin and it's natural to wonder if we need to maintain a facade of “perfect” patience and understanding.

Whether you’re a new parent or have been in the trenches for years, we provide insights into managing and understanding our kid’s boundary-testing behaviors. Let's dig in!

✨Looking for more support? Come grow with us in The Happy Human Collective, our education and support community.

✅ Explore all of our self-paced workshops, live virtual meetups, and group chat threads free for 7 days! Tap here to learn more.

Thanks for listening. 🙂

-Jenilee and Greg

In this "burning question" episode, we remind ourselves that our young children are still in the process of developing a slew of skills, so even though they don’t always follow directions immediately, we need to approach these situations with patience and empathy.

We discuss the importance of first connecting with your child, spending a few minutes in their world before expecting them to engage in yours.

Our goal is to move away from traditional fear-based parenting and towards more connection-based parenting. But what does this look like in practice?

We provide actionable tips like breaking tasks down into small, manageable steps, as well as offering choices to tap into their innate need for autonomy and control.

Whether you're struggling to get your child up in the morning or battling the dreaded bedtime resistance, we’re here to help!

✨Looking for more support? Come grow with us in The Happy Human Collective, our education and support community.

✅ Explore all of our self-paced workshops, live virtual meetups, and group chat threads free for 7 days!

Tap here to learn more.

Thanks for listening. 🙂

-Jenilee and Greg