No one is shamed more than a woman who loves a man who cannot show up for her. Let’s chat about why...
For thousands of years women have been conditioned to believe that they needed a man to survive and, in many cases, they actually did.
Because of this women have been wired to scan for safety when it comes to a man because she quite literally needed him or she could not own land or make money, and unless she had a relative to take care of her, would die.
It was unsafe for a woman to be alone, and so women would choose the man who was the best provider and the one who was going to make sure she stayed alive.
In the process of this, love became a luxury.
And we lost the art of what it means to love and began shaming women if they loved a man who couldn't show up.Women then began to make it mean something about them and their worth, which, of course they did...
When your survival is dependent on a man saving you, if he doesn't show up, the story becomes "I am not worthy of living."
Sit with that for a minute...
Women then began obsessing, manipulating, blaming, projecting, grasping, and competing when it came to a man...
This is wounded energy and it has perpetuated because people do not know HOW to hold love without attaching to "shoulds."
He "should" be doing this
I "shouldn't" care
This creates shame on both ends.
Shame is not love.
A woman's love will transform worlds.
When she is not connected to it, she will destroy them.
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