The Heart of the Matter - Dr. Darren Weissman

Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.

Just as important as defining what forgiveness is, though, is understanding what forgiveness is not. Experts who study or teach forgiveness make clear that when you forgive, you do not gloss over or deny the seriousness of an offense against you. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, nor does it mean condoning or excusing offenses. Though forgiveness can help repair a damaged relationship, it doesn’t obligate you to reconcile with the person who harmed you, or release them from legal accountability.

Instead, forgiveness brings the forgiver peace of mind and frees him or her from corrosive anger. While there is some debate over whether true forgiveness requires positive feelings toward the offender, experts agree that it at least involves letting go of deeply held negative feelings. In that way, it empowers you to recognize the pain you suffered without letting that pain define you, enabling you to heal and move on with your life. Join Dr. Darren as together we dive into the healing power of forgiveness.

Grief is a normal and natural response to loss. Though we often expect to grieve the death of a family member or friend, many other significant losses can also trigger grief. Examples include:

The end of a relationshipA move to a new communityA much-anticipated opportunity or life goal is suddenly closed to usThe death of a petSomeone we love contracts a potentially life-threatening illness

Grieving such losses is important because it allows us to ‘free-up’ energy that is bound to the lost person, object, or experience—so that we might re-invest that energy elsewhere. Until we grieve effectively we are likely to find reinvesting difficult; a part of us remains tied to the past.

Grieving is not forgetting. Nor is it drowning in tears. Healthy grieving results in an ability to remember the importance of our loss—but with a newfound sense of peace, rather than searing pain. Join Dr. Darren as he guides us into the Heart of the Matter of the role our subconscious mind plays with Healthy Grieving. Infinite Love & Gratitude!

Does someone else's bullying personality make you feel worthless? Do you mistake people's antics for subtle insults? This Heart of the Matter show will highlight some ways to remain unaffected by the way others treat you, weather it's a weird look, a teasing remark, or direct criticism. Even further, Dr. Darren will take you on a deep dive into the heart of the matter of living life spiritually to see, feel, and hear those painful and insecure reactive parts of your self and others from a compassionate, powerful, and grateful vantage point. Infintie Love & Gratitude!

Are you open to embracing your shadow to discover your light? Are you willing to fully embrace your soul's journey to awaken the freedom of authentic expression, love, and healing?  So often we look outside of ourselves for esteem and worth and when people don't like us or confront our views we fearfully change direction. Symptoms of the body and life stress represent a meaningful conversaton that is here to awaken each of us to living an intentional life. Join Dr. Darren as we dive into the Heart of the Matter of making choices from our soul.  What others choose is their own journey. What we choose is our destiny. Infinite Love & Gratitude!

Take 2!!! Because of the glitch it the matrix from last week's show we're going at it again:) Nothing about life or love is irrational or pathetic. Persistence, determination, and discipline combined with a clear vision creates a yellow brick road to authenctic, genuine, reciprocal, yummy, and delicious relationships.

In love and in life our vulnerability is one of our greatest strengths. We often believe that we risk too much by being vulnerable, but, in fact, the opposite is true. When we build a wall around us to protect ourselves from our big, bad fears, we miss out on so much.   

When we live with the mindset that something may be taken from us (physically or emotionally), or that we need to be in control of everything that happens, we endure fear on a daily basis. It’s exhausting to live this way. It makes us cynical, suspicious, and unable to follow our hearts because we are afraid of what might happen.

Join Dr. Darren as he dives into the Heart of the Matter of letting love rule!

Stress affects your brain and body. Too much of it can have a fatal effect. Here's what you can do to relax.

Psychological stress doesn't just put your head in a vice. New studies document exactly how it tears away at every body system—including your brain. But get this: The experience of stress in the past magnifies your reactivity to stress in the future. So take a nice deep breath and find a stress-stopping routine this instant. Join Dr. Darren as he dives into the Heart of the Matter of Stress and throws you a LifeLine of self-love!

There is an inherent nature of love, compassion, kindness, and gratitude that each and everyone of us knows in our core. It is our nature is to be loved and be lovable. We began life with confidence, clarity, and a compassionate heart that was bathed in a mother's love and swaddled in our own innocence. Each and every emotion is love being expressed the best way it knows how. Love's energy creates movement. Movement is change. Change is the essence of life! Our intention for this Heart of the Matter Show is to learn and grow from the limiting beliefs that have perpetuated separation, misunderstanding, fear, and hatred for thousands of years. Join Dr. Darren as he leads you into the Heart of the Matter of Love is My Religion.

All pain has its purpose. Sometimes there is an obvious cause and effect and others the meaning and purpose of pain is illusive to the naked eye. This show will help us to turn pain into a journey of self-love. Think of your body as a computer in which all information is stored. You (as your mind), are the person operating your computer. Sometimes your computer expresses symptoms of a virus or crashes from too many programs running because you haven't updated your software to the lastest model. Our intention for this Heart of the Matter Show is to use The LifeLine to awaken a new understanding of pain and even more, reprogram the old subconscious programs. Our journey together will reveal the invisible truth of physical pain and as a natural by-product of the process itself,  heal it. Quickly and naturally.

Do you want to believe that you are powerful or would you rather know that you are powerful? There is a significant and important difference between believing and knowing. One that many people overlook and even more often dismiss. Beliefs are place holders for knowing. Our intention for today's show will help you get to the Heart of the Matter of knowing the power you possess to live true to your greatest and fullest potential.

We’ve all heard the saying ‘laughter is the best medicine’ and like most of these sayings it has some truth in it. The positive effects of laughter and a sense of humour cover not only the psychological but also the physical and the lifestyle aspects too. Humour and laughter are infectious and can bring people together and make them forget their troubles and one of the best tools to maintain a positive outlook and good health.  Laughter is correlated with mental health and has many social and interpersonal benefits. With all these benefits, laughter is an antidepressant, pain killer, workout, stress reliever and a great way to make friends and strengthen bonds. And best of all – it’s free! Join Dr. Darren into the heart of the matter of laughter. Infintie Love & Gratitude :-)