Leaving a relationship is an emotionally challenging - and charged - decision, but if there's nothing particularly wrong, if the relationship is just a bit meh, how do you justify even going to counselling, never mind separating?

This can be one of the biggest problems: if there's not much wrong, how do you do something about it? If you're not happy but you're also not unhappy, how do you have that conversation with your partner?

It's easy to look at an abusive relationship and say, "You need to leave" but when the relationship is okay, it can be very difficult to explain why it's not working for you to yourself. And it can be even more difficult explaining how we feel to other people.

Self-awareness can be both a blessing and a curse in this situation because if we are 100% responsible for everything that happens in our lives (this is not about fault or blame, it's about being responsible for our behaviour and reactions to events) then how do we correct something and tell someone else that the relationship isn't working for us and we want to change or end it without causing them no end of pain?

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