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The Holy Trinity to REALLY Love Yourself: Self-Confidence, Self-Worth, and Self-Esteem

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Is your confidence UNSHAKABLE? Do you believe, down to your core, that you are worthy and valuable and have every ability to kick ass at life? If you’re nodding “Hell yes” that's awesome! If not, take a deep breath because you aren’t alone. At any given time, 85% of people admit they struggle with self-confidence and, roughly the same number of adults admit to having low self-esteem. In this episode we’re getting real about, what I refer to as, the Holy Trinity of Self-Love and that is the ability to have self-confidence, self-worth, and self-esteem.

These things sound the same but are totally different. So we’re breaking it down without the fluffy “woo speak” so you can understand what each of these is, what they are NOT, and why self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-worth matter if you’re going to live a liberated life on YOUR terms. Let’s do this


Topics we’re chatting about include:

  • Self-Worth: This is the deep-seated acknowledgment of your inherent value as a person, deserving of love and respect.
    • Self-Confidence: This is the belief in your ability to succeed at specific tasks.
      • Self-Esteem: This is your personal evaluation of your own worth, often influenced by comparisons with others.
        • My Personal Path to Self-Discovery: I opened up about my own struggles with these concepts, particularly as I approached my 40s. Despite others seeing me as confident, I was a champion people-pleaser without a true sense of self. My journey to self-love began with the realization that I had been seeking external validation instead of cultivating my own sense of worth.
          • The Role of the Trinity in Self-Love: Cultivating self-worth, self-confidence, and self-esteem is essential for taking control of our lives. These elements enable us to leave unhealthy relationships, pursue our dreams, and feel deserving of success. They're not static; they can be strengthened or challenged over time, and we can actively work on improving them.
            • Tools for Self-Reflection and Growth: I provided resources, including the Rosenberg self-esteem scale and the contingencies of self-worth scale, along with reflective questions to help you assess your levels of self-worth, self-confidence, and self-esteem. These tools encourage introspection and are a starting point for personal growth.

              • Timestamps

              • 01:14 - Starting Point: The Basics of Self-Love
                • 01:57 - Sarah's Personal Journey of Self-Discovery
                  • 02:49 - Realizing the Need for Self-Awareness
                    • 03:52 - The Confusion Between Confidence and Self-Knowledge
                      • 04:36 - The Gap Between External Perception and Self-Perception
                        • 05:39 - Introducing the Holy Trinity of Self-Love
                          • 06:00 - The Interplay of Self-Esteem, Confidence, and Self-Worth
                            • 07:59 - Defining Self-Esteem: Your Sense of Value
                              • 09:35 - Tools for Assessing Self-Esteem
                                • 11:00 - Exploring Self-Worth: Beyond Self-Esteem
                                  • 13:09 - Characteristics of High Self-Esteem
                                    • 14:47 - Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem: Understanding the Difference
                                      • 16:03 - The Self-Worth Theory: Ability, Effort, and Performance
                                        • 18:10 - Common but Questionable Sources of Self-Worth
                                          • 20:07 - Reflecting on Your Own Self-Worth
                                            • 21:10 - Defining Self-Confidence: Belief in Abilities
                                              • 22:36 - Self-Confidence vs. Self-Esteem: A Critical Distinction
                                                • 23:07 - Summary: The Relationship Between the Three Concepts
                                                  • 24:10 - Sarah's Example: Interconnection of Self-Concepts
                                                    • 27:58 - The Necessity of Balancing All Three for Self-Love
                                                      • 29:02 - Mention of Resources and Upcoming Deep Dives
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