Is your confidence UNSHAKABLE? Do you believe, down to your core, that you are worthy and valuable and have every ability to kick ass at life? If you’re nodding “Hell yes” that's awesome! If not, take a deep breath because you aren’t alone. At any given time, 85% of people admit they struggle with self-confidence and, roughly the same number of adults admit to having low self-esteem. In this episode we’re getting real about, what I refer to as, the Holy Trinity of Self-Love and that is the ability to have self-confidence, self-worth, and self-esteem.

These things sound the same but are totally different. So we’re breaking it down without the fluffy “woo speak” so you can understand what each of these is, what they are NOT, and why self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-worth matter if you’re going to live a liberated life on YOUR terms. Let’s do this

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How do you feel about your fat body? This can be a sticky topic for anyone, let alone someone who has felt negative stuff about their weight in the past.  This (super-nuanced) episode is Part TWO of a series discussing the ideas of fatness so that people of all sizes can be empowered to pursue body liberation on their terms. If you've ever hated your body, you're not alone. But hating your body won't make you happier. It's time to change that. This podcast does not want you to be fat and it does not want you to lose weight - this podcast wants you to learn where your shitty ideas about your body come from so that YOU can figure out how YOU feel about YOUR BODY on YOUR TERMS.

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Fatness can be a heavy idea - how do YOU feel about it? This (nuanced) episode is Part One of a series discussing the ideas of fatness so that people of all sizes can be empowered to pursue body liberation on their terms. This first episode discusses ideas of fatness in society today, and breaks down the concepts of Body Positivity, Fat Acceptance, Fat Activism, Fat Liberation, Body Neutrality, and Body Liberation.

This series is particularly helpful for those living in larger bodies looking to unpack their weight shame and stigma so they may pursue what true body liberation looks like for themselves - whether that answer includes weight loss or advocating against diet culture.

This episode has no sociopolitical agenda! Its purpose is to educate and empower listeners to learn and think about ideas for themselves in order to embrace self-love and live a self-loving life

Our next episode will be our Part 2 and dig into our own feelings of weight shame and stigma.

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Does the holiday season stress you out? If so, this podcast is for you! In today’s episode we’re taking a practical yet irreverent look at how to navigate the holiday season as self-lovingly as humanly possible. AKA how to NOT lose your sh*t! With relatable anecdotes and actionable tips, I’m reminding you that you have the power to navigate family gatherings, overwhelming responsibilities, and the pressure of gift-giving while staying true to yourself. From managing meltdowns to reframing triggered emotions, we’re talking tips and tactics to take control of your holiday experience and prioritize self-care. If you’re working to  embrace imperfection, set boundaries, and find joy in the midst of holiday chaos, this is an episode for you.

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[00:02:57] The big set up.

[00:05:21] The goal is to stay self-loving and stay YOU.  What this means and why it matters?

[00:07:26] Triggered vs Activated: Understanding the difference and why that matters.

[00:11:40] The difference between having a REACTIVE or a PROACTIVE experience in life.

[00:16:32] The importance of having a PROACTIVE holiday experience. Creating your Action Plan.

[00:18:42] Strategy One: Define what the holiday needs to be for YOU.

[00:22:00] Strategy Two: Give yourself the tools you need. 

[00:23:58] Four steps to make a toolkit to prepare for holidays.

[00:29:00] Strategy Three: Practice boundaries and use “boundary scripts” to set yourself up for success. 

[00:32:58] Practice self-forgiveness.

Visit my blog for downloadable worksheets mentioned this episode!

“Love yourself!” If I had a dollar every time someone screamed that on social media, I’d be rich. Here’s the thing, screaming “Love yourself!” isn't actually self-love. Nope! In today’s episode we’re getting real about what self-love actually is and what it isn’t. We’re busting the myths and straight-talking about self-love! This is the ONLY podcast you’ll ever need if you truly want to understand self-love in its most practical, real-world approach. 

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I’ve done a gillion things in my life trying to feel more loved - and I bet you have too! Join me as we explore our own patterns and beliefs, unearthing our worth and embracing self-love like never before. It's time to let go of shame and treat ourselves with the love and compassion we deserve, my friends.

Self-love isn't just about pampering ourselves; it's about something greater. It's about serving ourselves and becoming the best versions of ourselves possible. In this episode, we'll dive deep into the definition of self-love, its importance, and learn how to cultivate it in our everyday lives. Buckle up and get ready for a ride of self-discovery!

I’ll also get real about how I’m using self-love right now (yes, right now!) to  navigate grief and overwhelming circumstances. Self-love starts with being honest about what is and isn't working in your life and what you truly desire. Let’s dig deep together! There's no quick and easy solution for self-love, but the journey is absolutely worth it.

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00:51 Random things I’ve done in my life to feel more loved.  Understanding shame and self-forgiveness and looking at our patterns. 

05:18 The definition of Self-Love. 

06:02 Self-love is any thought or action that helps us connect to our ultimate selves.

06:38 Prioritizing self-love over self-abandonment leads to a self-loving life and personal growth.

07:31 Self-love helps us stay aligned, prioritize our needs, and live life based on our values.

08:11 Self-love is a roadmap to understanding what is good for us and making positive changes.

08:43 With self-love as our guide, we can simplify the process of personal development and build self-trust.

09:09 Figuring out what Self-Love means for you.

16:17 Five Essential Truths about Self-Love. 

16:33 Truth one: Self love means different things to different people, based on their needs and desires.

19:14 Truth two: Self love is not always easy.

20:56 Truth three: Self love changes as we change.

22:01 Truth four: Self love isn’t the same as being busy.

22:43 Truth five: Self love is self accountability.

24:05 Question: How do I start practicing self-love when I have no idea where to begin?

Do you find yourself watching the same TV shows and movies again and again but have no idea why? Do you ever feel drawn to watching specific things when you feel hard or complex emotions? If so, I have an episode for you!

Today we’re taking a deep dive into the connection between self-love and our media consumption habits. I’m going to help you uncover your own coping patterns by sharing how my intense feelings for  Elliot Stabler and Godzilla - as  highlighted in my personal Freaking the F*ck Out Scale - correlate my emotional state with the TV and movies I want to watch. (Spoiler alert - when I hit the “braless, feral" stage of anxiety the only thing I want to watch is Mandy Patinkin in Homeland.)

From the comfort of our favorite TV shows to the solace found in parasocial relationships with fictional characters, I’m  exploring how our media choices can fuel our emotional needs and how coping can either perpetuate self-abandonment or contribute to our self-loving life. This episode is irreverent yet illustrates an important layer of our Soul Archaeology we can dig into to uncover a more empowered  and liberated life! 

Timestamps and Key Points 

01:25 - TV Shows and the Connection to Emotions

Understanding the connection between how we feel in our lives and the media that we consume and what TV and movie characters we are drawn to. I draw from my own pull towards Elliot Stabler, Godzilla, and Mandy Patinkin and my own “Freaking The Fuck Out Defconn Scale” to correlate the connection between emotional discomfort and the need for using media as a tool for self-regulation.

08:33 - Understanding Coping Patterns in Self-Love

Exploring how coping is a part of life and how coping techniques we use can either be self-loving or a form of self-abandonment when dealing with hard emotions. 

13:37 - Coping With TV and Movies

Discussing TV and movies as a coping skill. How  social surrogacy and  parasocial relationships illustrate our need for comfort and belonging that we sometimes can only find in the media. Understanding the difference between coping mechanisms and coping skills. 

Do you trust yourself to have your own back? In this straight-talking episode we're talking about the ways you self-abandon, AKA the ways you may be inadvertently preventing yourself from feeling the happiness you long to feel. You can't feel liberated from others (and your own) expectations when you are self-abandoning. You've got to learn how to have your own back!

Hard feelings about our bodies are a part of life. (A sh*tty part, but a part none-the-less.) In this straight-talking episode, I break down what weight stigma is, what weight self-stigma is, and how to navigate the really crappy feelings you have about your body when you have them.

TW: Body talk, weight talk.

I'm in a REAL podcast recording studio in this episode -- and holy sh*t am I nervous and talking fast! LOL. In this episode I am busting the myth that wellness is the quest to be thin. Instead, I'm sharing that wellness is, really, about creating a sense of wholeness. It's not one thing but EIGHT! If you've ever thought the greatest version of you was the one that was the thinnest - no matter at what cost - this podcast is for you.

Have you ever had that moment where you realize sh*t in your life hurts but you feel overwhelmed and have NO idea what to do to make it better? I got you. This episode talks about the TWO things you need to do when you realize your life hurts. No bullsh*t. Just straight talk!

PS - I know my audio sucks. Still in Montana. One more week and then I will be in a fancy studio!

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