You've tried the sleep tips. You've tried the supplements. You've gone to bed earlier, cut back on screens, downloaded the meditation app.
And you're still not sleeping.
Here's what I want you to understand: you don't have a sleep problem. You have a hormone problem. And that distinction changes everything about how you fix it.
In this episode I share the story of Fiona — a client who came to me completely exhausted, caught in a vicious cycle of hot flushes, night anxiety, afternoon energy crashes and creeping weight gain. And I walk through exactly what we did to break that cycle and get her sleeping again.
Fiona's Story
Fiona was doing everything right. She was smart, capable and had tried every sleep solution she could find.
But she was waking multiple times a night drenched in sweat. Hot flushes pulling her out of sleep just as she'd finally drifted off. Then lying there afterwards with her heart pounding and a low-level anxiety she couldn't explain.
The days were brutal. She'd crash around 2pm and spend the afternoon reaching for sugar and coffee just to function. The weight was creeping on. She was eating less and exercising more, which made her more exhausted, which made her sleep worse.
She was completely stuck.
When she came to me she said: "I feel like my body has completely given up."
This episode is for every woman who has felt exactly that way.
What We Cover In This Episode
🔹 Why hot flushes and night sweats are an oestrogen issue — not a sleep issue When oestrogen fluctuates, your body's internal thermostat becomes unstable. Your brain gets a false signal that you're overheating and triggers a flush to cool you down. This pulls you straight out of deep sleep. Treating this as a sleep problem will never work because it is an oestrogen regulation problem.
🔹 Why night anxiety is a progesterone issue That low-level dread you feel lying awake in the middle of the night — that sense of unease you can't quite explain — is your nervous system without its natural calming buffer. Progesterone is that buffer. When it drops, everything feels bigger and harder to manage after dark.
🔹 The afternoon energy crash and cravings explained Poor sleep keeps cortisol elevated. Elevated cortisol drives sugar and carbohydrate cravings as your body desperately looks for a quick energy hit. So you reach for the chocolate at 3pm, your blood sugar spikes and crashes, you feel worse, and that night the whole cycle repeats.
🔹 Why magnesium alone is never going to be enough Magnesium is a wonderful support tool. But it cannot replace declining progesterone, stabilise fluctuating oestrogen or reset a dysregulated cortisol pattern. If you've been taking magnesium and still not sleeping, this is why.
🔹 What we actually did to fix Fiona's sleep We stopped treating her sleep as a sleep problem and started treating it as a hormone problem. Within the first week her night sweats reduced noticeably. By week three she was sleeping through most nights. The afternoon cravings were almost gone. The weight started shifting. And she said, "I feel like myself again."
The Bottom Line
Most advice out there for perimenopause sleep is aimed at helping you fall asleep faster without ever asking why you're not sleeping in the first place.
The why matters. It matters enormously. Because the why determines the fix.
For most women in perimenopause and menopause, the why is hormonal.
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Big love, Kylie x