The Humans We Are

In this episode, I explain the framework that has been a gamechanger for my clients and for myself.

Some ways in which my life has changed, and yours could too:

• It’s given me a deeper respect and even reverence for this body, which now is way harder for me to criticize and judge harshly in any way. It makes me be grateful for this human body that partners with me, and it makes me want to take care of it, and show more respect.
• It makes me more patient and compassionate when I notice patterns of thinking or behavior that this human has automated over the years, which have served me in some ways. And if I want to change them now, that’s all fine and dandy, but that doesn’t justify or give me permission today to be a jerk to the human that I was before in the past, whether the past is 5 years, 20 years, or 5 minutes ago
• It makes me really curious, and it makes me really want to know myself as a human better. What this human likes and doesn’t like, what comes easy to her, and hard, what she thrives at, what shuts her off. It makes it more accessible to be gentle and kind to myself.
• It makes it easier to be kind when teaching myself something new, whether a new skill, behavior, or new way of thinking. 
• It makes my experiences of this human life more fun. It makes me want to be more present in it.
• It makes me want to get more in touch with emotions, I want to really feel.

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Virtually none of us (or maybe very few) have been directly taught to think highly of ourselves, or how to build a great relationship with ourselves.

We didn’t have anyone model that to us either. 

So now, that we are old enough we get to teach ourselves how to have that relationship. 

We get to pick what we want to believe about ourselves and what is possible for us. 

While it’s very exciting, it may also feel overwhelming and confusing at first.

So listen in and follow along with my suggestions to start building an amazing relationship with yourself today.

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With this guided meditation you will be able to process any uncomfortable feeling that you may experience, without stuffing it down or ignoring it. The more you practice this simple exercise, the easier it gets. You'll find that you get relief just from doing the meditation which will make it easier to not use your old and well-practiced coping mechanisms that you may be trying to rewire (like overeating, over-drinking, overworking, blaming, etc.)And not only that, expanding your capacity to hold emotions will increase your resilience so your capacity to experience unpleasant emotions and not experience damage from them will increase. When your container is bigger, you can also hold more pleasant emotions, so next time something really amazing happens and you feel super happy about it, you won't start poking holes, discounting it, or waiting for the other shoe to drop.Emotions are a real superpower when we develop the skill to really feel them instead of avoiding them!

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Everything you want in life, everything you do is because you’re either chasing a pleasant feeling or running away from an unpleasant one.

We don't really want things for the sake of having the things, not even experiences. We chase the feeling that we think is going to be triggered in us as a reaction to having the thing or living the experience.

So, if you’re always chasing a feeling, if you want to feel better or less bad, you'd better practice feeling how you want to feel in advance, because if you risk actually creating a ton of disappointment.

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How you use your time determines the quality of your life.

I believe that you chose to come here and if you spend your time unintentionally distracting yourself with TV, food, and social media, you are not honoring yourself, or the decision that your higher self made coming here.

When you are intentional about the way you use your time, It shows you that you’re way more in control of your life, than you might think you are… and that is everything, my friend. So many clients that I have the honor to coach have some area in their life where they don’t feel empowered and feel like they are at the effect of a circumstance or person. 

Listen in if you know you need to be more intentional but don't know where to start.

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The first tool you should use to create your own personal version of a life well lived is this Value Alignment Check. 

In this episode, I answer these three questions:

1. What is a Value Alignment Check?
2. Why it’s important and you should do it at the very least once in your life?
3. How to do it on your own?

Listen until the end if you want to know how to get your hands on a special free gift I created for you to support you in this exercise. 

Listen in!

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Let's talk about using your resources of time, attention, energy, and money on things that you want or need... how do you feel about it? Why?

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It’s important to have some notion of what a life well lived is to YOU, because the answer will be very personal.

Knowing what that looks like for you, will help you make decisions in the present to make sure you’re aligned with that.

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Even if you're not aware of it, it's likely you've been learning to push down your wishes and desires since a very early age.

Either because they wanted to spare us from pain if we didn't get what we wanted, or because of the scarcity of thinking that there isn't enough for everyone to get what they want, or because you associated wanting "too much" with negative personality traits... it's likely that you trained yourself out of knowing and owning that you want what you want. 

Some of my clients have a hard time even answering the question "what do you want?" because they have tuned it out so much that they don't know anymore and it feels like a foreign concept. 

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I've seen most of us have a misguided understanding of Unconditional Love that makes it harder for us to experience it and can even become counterproductive.Join in to hear a different take, and try it out!

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