There is an illusion that comes through wanting to control others or the environment around us. What I mean by that is, we believe that if we can control someone or something else around us, that we’ll feel safe.
But safety can’t be conditional and dependent on something outside of us because the reality is we don’t have control of anyone or anything outsides of ourselves. We only have control over ourselves and how we choose to respond to situations and people in our lives.
So what we’re really look for is not to control but to feel safe and the first point of safety needs to come from within ourselves.
So when we feel pulled to control, the invitation is to ask ourselves in what ways are we scared? What do we need? How can we give ourselves that need so that we feel safe and ok in this moment.
I go much deeper into all of this along with looking at attachment styles, communication and more.
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Corinne
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