We all do it. We make schedules, we build businesses, we manage outcomes, and we tell ourselves, “I’ve got this”. We plan, prepare, and try to predict everything because we believe we are in the driver’s seat.

But somewhere in the background, the universe smiles and whispers, “Do you though?”.

The truth is, we never really had control. What we had was an illusion of control. It feels comforting because it gives our logical minds a sense of safety. But the moment life throws a curveball—a layoff, a breakup, an illness, or a global shutdown—that illusion shatters.

Suddenly, we realize how fragile it all is. We don’t control our jobs, our families, or even our next breath.

The Ego’s Favorite Drug

Control is the ego’s favorite drug. It numbs our fear of uncertainty. We treat uncertainty as something to be terrified of, yet uncertainty is exactly where the magic of transformation happens.

When we try to micromanage the universe, we create stress. When we surrender, we create flow.

Think back to a time when life didn’t go according to plan. Maybe you lost a relationship or your health took a turn. At that moment, it felt like your world was ending. But looking back months or years later, you realize that moment was actually the beginning of something beautiful.

I know people who received a scary health diagnosis and used it to finally take charge of their bodies and mindset. I know people who lost their jobs during the pandemic and used that empty space to start thriving businesses.

That “out of control” experience was actually the launchpad for the next version of themselves.

What Do You Actually Control?

If we don’t control the future, what do we have?

You control the input. You control your thoughts, your words, and your actions. You don’t control how people respond to you, but you control how you show up.

The present moment is the only real power we ever have. The caterpillar doesn’t control when it becomes a butterfly; it just surrenders to the transformation and allows it to happen when the time is right.

The 5-Hour Question

If you are struggling to distinguish between what matters and what is just “noise” from your need to control, I want you to ask yourself this question:

If you knew you were going to leave this earth in the next five hours, and you had 5,000 people sitting in an audience waiting for one final message from you, what would you say?.

Who would be in that audience?.

When I ask people this, they instantly know the answer. The trivial worries disappear. The need to control the outcome fades. Suddenly, the truth emerges.

Control belongs to the mind, but evolution begins in the soul.

Stop Waiting for the Shoe to Drop

We are so conditioned to fear loss that when things are going well, we start to worry. We wait for the “shoe to drop” because we think, “Something’s going to go bad because everything’s going so good”.

We refuse to accept uncertainty as a way of life, even though everything is uncertain. We don’t know if our jobs or health will be there for us.

So, here is my challenge to you today: Let go.

Stop allowing the illusion of control to take over your mind. You cannot control how the story unfolds, but you can always choose how you show up.

Have the courage to let go of the wheel and the grace to find yourself in the flow.

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