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Quote From Research:  “Without deliberate intervention to redefine masculine success beyond economic provision and to challenge the Man Box's emotional restrictions, we risk losing an entire generation of men to depression, anxiety, and despair.” 

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Last week, I had the absolute pleasure of being a featured guest on The BottomsUp Podcast: Rising From Trauma to Transformation with Kerie Hamilton. She is truly an incredible woman and a powerful voice for trauma recovery and domestic violence awareness. Kerie asked me thoughtful and challenging questions about my life prior to getting sober and after achieving sobriety. She even shared an inspiring and emotional story about how her step-father wrote an amends letter to her while attending AA meetings and working on his own sobriety journey.

Kerie is also the author of a powerful new book titled “Sorry Satan, This Soul Is For The Savior.” In it, she courageously writes about growing up in a physically abusive home and finding the strength to leave a physically and emotionally abusive relationship. I haven’t read her book yet, but it’s definitely on my reading list. You can learn more about her book and resources for survivors of abuse on her website: https://bottomsupwithkh.com/.

Beginning October 1st of this year, Kerie also launched a YouTube Channel called Breaking FREE: Life After Domestic Violence. On Breaking FREE From Domestic Violence, she posts daily videos exploring the many dynamics and warning signs of DV, offering support, education, and healing tools for survivors.

Saving Grace: Surviving Domestic Violence; https://docs.google.com/document/d/13F0EGELj_xbv1YUvIqO8NLuKP2GttHsHBbRyu-izLWI/edit?usp=sharing

Kerie has been my biggest inspiration this month to spread the word about domestic violence awareness and prevention. In this episode, I share the first couple of pages from the domestic violence pamphlet that was emailed to me about three months after my divorce. At that time, I never believed I could have ended up in a situation where I was subjected to such intense emotional abuse. I thought that unless there were punches being thrown, it wasn’t “real” domestic violence. I was SO wrong.

So, in this podcast episode, I break down some of the most common myths and facts about domestic violence, highlight the red flags everyone should look out for, and discuss the often overlooked but devastating impact of emotional abuse in relationships.

Finally, Kerie and I have agreed to start a new podcast called, “The Ren & Kerie Annnnnnd #GFY Show.” We recorded our first episode last night and I’m in the process of editing it right now. We plan on recording at least three more episodes before we publish anything. Our conversations will be light hearted and discuss current events and random topics that we know an audience will enjoy. More to come on that later! 

Keep smiling, 
R-

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Quote From Research:  “Without deliberate intervention to redefine masculine success beyond economic provision and to challenge the Man Box's emotional restrictions, we risk losing an entire generation of men to depression, anxiety, and despair.” 

LINK - To The State Of American Men 2025 Research Study: 

https://tr.ee/HOIXxW

Here is the link to the introduction playlist for The InBetween Man Podcast. Listen to all five episodes or one, it will help you get to know me and determine if my content is right for you. 

https://tr.ee/XglIlS

Below is a link to all of our social media.

Linktr.ee/theinbetweenman

ETSY Store: 
https://tr.ee/hEcpYQ

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*Ever feel like you have no idea where you’re going in life? Same. This video is for anyone who feels lost, stressed, broke, single, stuck in a job they hate — but still holding onto hope. From anxiety to laughter, from “I’m lost” to “my dog loves me unconditionally,” this is a raw, relatable journey through the ups and downs of everyday life.

If you’ve ever thought:

“I hate my job.”

“I need answers now!”

“I’m broke (my fault).”

“It could be worse.”

“But I’ll get there soon… maybe?”

Then you’ll connect with this video. You’re not alone. 💙*

✨ Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe if you’ve ever felt the same way.

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YouTube Live Event. 10/3/2015 at 9:00pm eastern time, the Inbetween Man Podcast presents The Introduction of The Man Game! Are you a Mr. Sensitive? Save the day, subscribe and join us for a deep dive into why The Man Game is important for you to learn. 

The last two weeks we have been talking about acknowledging and learning how too as good questions. Learning how to ask good questions is an art form and learning how to answer questions is also a process that requires a lot of practice. Since guys already know how to "Bust Other Dudes Chops", the Man Game shouldn't be a new thing any man. The InBetween Man's Man Game is a different animal all together and it will require you partner up with another dude who you know very well. Someone like a brother or very close college friend who was a roommate at College or whomever. You really need to know before going into this that you partner in this game isn't out to really verbally abuse you. Although, it would be helpful if your partner had some dirt on you, but it's not mandatory. 

The primary purpose of The Man Game is to learn how build up your outside armor and practice getting verbally waterboarded with your buddy. Learning how to overcome "personal attacks" verbally isn't easy especially if your "sensitive" about certain topics happening in your life. This is one of the reasons why I highly recommend you do it with someone you are close with or is a brother because the likelihood of either of you overreacting is low. The whole point of The Man Game is to break through the other persons armor and get them to react in a defensive way. The person who does that first is the winner. 

A good example of a few people who have made a career learning how to play this game is Ted Cruz or Nancy Pelosi. Nothing ever seems to penetrate their armor and they always deflect or move the topic onto something else. Mitch McConnell is another EPIC example of this. (I am not a fan of any of them, but if you can learn how to deflect personal attacks like any of the above, you'll be moving in a direction.)

The whole point of The Man Game is for you to build up enough armor that nothing can stop you from being personally offended. If something does sneak through your armor and you feel like you've been personally attacked, I want you to write down what your partner said to you and how you responded. Each of you should also have a "word" you can use to call off the verbal waterboarding if things start to go off the rails. If your armor is thin, both of you will know right away and your partner in the game MUST be sympathetic to this and willingly back-off. The Man Game at times, will not be fun and it could cause you to hang up the phone in a rage attack. But that is okay, now you have new information about yourself that confirms what hot TOPICS. After all this is a close friend / brother and we aren't trying to emotionally abuse someone on purpose. 

The entire purpose of the game is to learn how to take a "verbal upper-cut" that stings and not overreact or blow up. If you "blow up" you've already lost and the best place to learn how to NOT "blow up" is with your close friend or brother. The other reason for The Man Game is to give the individual an opportunity to understand what areas in your life you are most "sensitive" about. If anyone, including me, ignores any sensitives areas you don't want to talk about or understand, at least you will know why and be prepared for it. What you don't work on know, I promise you will work on later and delay can dangerous. 

So come to the Live ready to be verbally assaulted and this will also give me you a chance to try and throw me off my game as well. October 3rd at 9:00pm Eastern, We will be Live.

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Quote From Research:  “Without deliberate intervention to redefine masculine success beyond economic provision and to challenge the Man Box's emotional restrictions, we risk losing an entire generation of men to depression, anxiety, and despair.” 

LINK - To The State Of American Men 2025 Research Study: 

https://tr.ee/HOIXxW

Here is the link to the introduction playlist for The InBetween Man Podcast. Listen to all five episodes or one, it will help you get to know me and determine if my content is right for you. 

https://tr.ee/XglIlS

Below is a link to all of our social media and invite to our private male only Discord server. The link to my ETSY.com store is also below. 

Linktr.ee/theinbetweenman

ETSY Store: 

https://tr.ee/hEcpYQ

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The top three things you can do for yourself and kids to confirm you’re an epic Dad. The last couple of days I’ve been looking over some of my Video & Shorts data and an interesting trend showed itself to me. 

My last podcast episode, Acknowledging Your More Than Just An ATM Machine had a nice jump in views on Google Podcast/Music. If I average 4-6 downloads per podcast episode, this episode had 87 views. Which isn’t a lot, but it's a lot for me. Plus, I had three YouTube Shorts that all got over a 1000 views. One was titled, Dad Lessons, Men’s Mental Health & Carl Jung.

The podcast episode was about Acknowledging that one or more aspects of the traditional male values system is lacking emotional growth. The Dad Lesson was me playing a Rage Against The Machine video and going crazy with my three boys. The Men’s Mental Health Short was about how men get stuck in an insanity loop trying to figure out what is wrong with them and NOT ask for help. They never actually figure out anything; they just get more miserable. The last short is titled Carl Jung, Why Suffering is Necessary. Carl Jung talks about there is a necessary suffering that must happen in order to be a human being. 

All four of these different pieces of content connected with men in some way. This episode is about taking what I learned from all four of those episodes and bringing them together. A little fun with my boys, how we can connect with our kids in a meaningful and easy way and why learning how to ask questions is a practice every man should do more of and also teach their boys. Learning how to ask good questions is one option men can try without having the anxiety or fear of “asking for help!”. Smart people know how to ask great questions. Questions are the primary WEAPON for attorneys. Questions allow attorneys to see and hear how people respond and gather additional information to help formulate their next question. The goal is to tell a story, expose the facts and lay them out to a jury so they can make a decision. Guilty or Not Guilty.  Asking questions is an art form and the more questions we ask the better we get at asking them and understanding the answers. 

I believe all men can do a better job at learning how to ask smart questions and teaching our kids how to ask questions is a skill set they can develop over time. Along with three others things you men can do to confirm they are great Dads! This one is short and sweet and I hope you enjoy it as much as I did recording it. I’ll see ya in there. 

Keep Smiling, 

R-

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Quote From Research:  “Without deliberate intervention to redefine masculine success beyond economic provision and to challenge the Man Box's emotional restrictions, we risk losing an entire generation of men to depression, anxiety, and despair.” 

Here is the link to the introduction playlist for The InBetween Man Podcast. Listen to all five episodes or one, it will help you get to know me and determine if my content is right for you. 

https://tr.ee/XglIlS

Below is a link to all of our social media and invite to our private male only Discord server. The link to my ETSY.com store is also below. 

Linktr.ee/theinbetweenman

ETSY Store: 

https://tr.ee/hEcpYQ

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Did you grow up watching your father be the man of the house? Did your mother stay home from work and take care of you and your sister? Who was the primary “bread winner” in your house? Your father? Your mother? Did they both work? What was that like? 

In this episode I’m going to share with you the 1st Stage Of Men from my personal growth accountability process, otherwise known as The GOTR Methodology. There are a total of 5 different stages of men and if you are seeking a process to help you isolate & understand personal dynamics you’ve never considered before, you can find more info The GOTR Methodology on my website. 

https://thein-betweenman.com/the-gotr

If you would like to know more about how I use the 5 stages of men, you can set up a free one-hour consultation with Renick and he will be more than happy to share our process and hopefully work with you on a one-to-one coaching basis. I’m only accepting three clients right now. I’m already coaching a new client who started at the end of last month. I’m happy to discuss next steps towards the end of our free consultation. 

First of all, this episode isn’t going to be your everyday overview. I’ve made a conscious effort to make sure I’m using “Man Banter”. That means, I’m gonna be honest, in-your-face, ball busting and hopefully you’ll learn something. The GOTR Methodology is very simple to wrap your mind around, you don’t need to be Albert Einstein to figure it out or ChatGPT. I promise! 

My only ask for this episode is to really think and use your brain to determine if you can simply “acknowledge” my 1st stage of Men. That’s all it is, acknowledging. Can you validate that my 1st stage of men is correct? It’s a simple yes or no question, but if you are “on the fence” about it and need more time to come to a decision, be “on the fence” then. 

If you can acknowledge, please do me a favor and share this podcast with a friend and ask them the same thing. Can you acknowledge the 1st stage of men's definition / statement? Maybe you could even have a conversation with a drinking buddy of your to see if he agrees. Share it with your wife, mother, friend, enemy, barber, Doordash delivery guy, whoever. If you could leave a comment also, that would be great, even it’s, “#gfy this crap is stupid.” I can live with that. 

Any feedback you can share I would really appreciate it. You can also email me at [email protected]. 

Also in this video I go over my Emotionally Vulnerable Everyday Greeting Cards by Peder North. They are a must have for any first, just in case your date wants you to pay for take-out for all 9 of her kids. Don’t Do It!! You can purchase all four of my emotionally vulnerable greeting cards on my ETSY Store. The link is below. 

That’s all I’ve got for you. I’ll see ya in there!

Keep smiling, 
R-

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Quote From Research:  “Without deliberate intervention to redefine masculine success beyond economic provision and to challenge the Man Box's emotional restrictions, we risk losing an entire generation of men to depression, anxiety, and despair.” 

LINK - To The State Of American Men 2025 Research Study: 

https://tr.ee/HOIXxW

Below is a link to all of our social media and invite to our private male only Discord server. The link to my ETSY.com store is also below. 

Linktr.ee/theinbetweenman

ETSY Store: 

https://tr.ee/hEcpYQ

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I’m happy to report that this weekend I finally launched the InBetween Man Official Website. It’s taken me a while, but it’s published and available for you to check out. The address is

www.thein-betweenman.com 

Right now you can schedule a free one hour consultation with me to determine if our personal growth services are right for you. The topic of this podcast is just one concept that is included in our GOTR Methodology to help men learn and understand their own emotions. The actual process isn’t complicated at all and it’s very easy to understand. What is usually the most challenging part is actually working through the process and it’s much easier to grasp if you are doing it with someone who understands and has lived the process. 

In this episode we discuss what it means to actually “Do The Right Thing”. There are four moral and ethical principles: Acting with integrity, considering the well-being of others, understanding the difference between long-term growth versus short-term temporary gains and adhering to universal standards of morality even if it means you won’t get any credit for it. These moral and ethical principles shouldn’t be hard to understand. They are simple for a reason. 

The flip side of being able to accept moral & ethical principles is doing the opposite when it comes making your decision. Understanding the “right thing” vs the “wrong thing” thing to do in any personal or professional dynamic is the essence of what being an InBetween Man is. The back and forth battle we have with ourselves to determine what is right vs what is wrong. Some men and even women are so blinded by what they want and believe they deserve everything good, they don’t even realize how many people they have harmed along the way to get what they want. This “self-perpulsion” mentality and victory at any cost no matter who or what it hurts is the termites eating away at our collective wooden foundation. It’s only a matter of time until the foundation gets weak and brittle it just falls down. 

Also in this episode, I use the analogy of walking through a long sewage filled dark tunnel with going through and experiencing complicated and painful emotional growth. How some men just sit down in the tunnel and decide to do nothing but wait or how some men stand up and walk through the tunnel because it’s better than doing nothing. Most people don’t grow when they are doing nothing, an action needs to be performed in order to move a muscle and change a thought. I hope it's easy to comprehend. We will be talking more about this specific topic and others in upcoming episodes. I’ll see ya in there. 

Keep smiling, 

R-

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#theinbetweenman #theinbetweenmanpodcast #wheremencanbemen 

Quote From Research:  “Without deliberate intervention to redefine masculine success beyond economic provision and to challenge the Man Box's emotional restrictions, we risk losing an entire generation of men to depression, anxiety, and despair.” 

Here is the link to the introduction playlist for The InBetween Man Podcast. 

https://tr.ee/XglIlS

Below is a link to all of our social media and invite to our private male only Discord server. The link to my ETSY.com store is also below. 

Linktr.ee/theinbetweenman

ETSY Store: 

https://tr.ee/hEcpYQ

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This my first Act at the Comedy Zone in Charlotte if you want to watch. It was something I forced myself to do and committed to doing via a Facebook Post. Wearing My One-ZZZ. 
https://youtu.be/zA4eQ-9LRN8

Here are the links to all of my previous YouTube Channels except one. I’ll make a separate video on that one later. 

The first channel I ever created on YouTube was The VeryFatBubba Channel. Below is the link. 

https://www.youtube.com/@VeryFatBubba

This is the link to my 2nd YouTube Channel I started on Sept 11th, 2013. That was a very long time ago. 

https://www.youtube.com/@renickmorris2195

You can see all the videos I’ve uploaded over the years to get a better understanding of me and who I am. Most of the videos are moments in time when I just knew I needed to capture the moment and upload the video to YouTube so I’ll always have it. That is one of the amazing things about YouTube. When I’m long gone, my kids will always have a place to look back on old memories we made together and uploaded to YouTube. There many special and wonderful moments I’ve captured. While I was going over them, they just brought me back to those moments and what I did with so many people I’m no longer connected with anymore. 

Special memories?? 100%!! The building blocks of my life captured in a handful of YouTube videos that will never disappear. It’s awesome to think about and be able to relive those moments in time. I hope after watching this or listening to this, it might compel you to do the same thing. The decision is up to you. I’ve still got one more YouTube Channel to go over with you. The upcoming podcast about my next channel is going to highlight the power of YouTube and how incredible the platform is for so many people. I love this Video World YouTube has created for us. It’s smart and they are making a boatload of money with it. 

I believe my last and final YouTube Channel, The InBetween Man will be my final push to do something productive for mankind and men in general. I’ve always been compelled to give back, I learned how wonderful the process can be by being an active member in a 12 Step program. I can hear his voice right now, Jack D saying… “Just Zip it Renick! And go help that guy who is still hung over from drinking the night before! Honestly, PAL, you’ve never had it so good.!” How right Jack was. 

As you listen or watch, try and think back to any similar memories that you might have had that sparked a smile. Times with your family, friends, loved ones, baseball games? It doesn’t matter. I think we all have a lot to be grateful for if we can take the time to slow down and really think about it for a minute. Food, clothes & shelter for starters, at least I’m not homeless and there are millions of people who are! I’ll see ya in there. 

Keep smiling, 

R-

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#theinbetweenman #theinbetweenmanpodcast #wheremencanbemen 

Quote From Research:  “Without deliberate intervention to redefine masculine success beyond economic provision and to challenge the Man Box's emotional restrictions, we risk losing an entire generation of men to 
depression, anxiety, and despair.” 

LINK - To The State Of American Men 2025 Research Study: 

https://tr.ee/HOIXxW

Here is the link to the introduction playlist for The InBetween Man Podcast. Listen to all five episodes or one, it will help you get to know me and determine if my content is right for you. 

https://tr.ee/XglIlS

Below is a link to all of our social media and invite to our private male only Discord server. 

Linktr.ee/theinbetweenman

ETSY Store: 
https://tr.ee/hEcpYQ
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The Double Edge Sword of Emotional Stoicism For Men. 

You're a guy, a dude, a graduate student, an intern in a law office, a parent, a high school coach, an electrical apprentice, career military man, what does it mean for a man to be emotionally stoic? Do you think everyone listed above might have a different definition of what being emotionally stoic means for them, as a man? My guess is, most men aren’t really thinking about what being emotionally stoic means for them. I believe any time a man hears the word emotions, they default to connecting it with being a pussy. You’re not a man if you share your feelings. Don’t ever share your feelings, it’s a sign of weakness and everyone will see and know that you aren’t strong and dependable. 

I’m here to tell you that centuries ago and multiple generations before my time a false narrative has been passed down to boys from their father that being emotional is a sign of weakness, it’s actually the opposite. It takes more effort and courage to make a personal inventory of any resentments or harms that you’ve done to other family members, your spouse, your children, business partners, relatives, past girlfriends, I could go on and on. I’m sure most men will disagree with me and that’s fine. Some men might  ignore this entire video all together because even listening to topics like this is annoying and a waste of time. It may be for you and if it is, good for you. I would say you’re one of the lucky ones who has figured out a way to more connected with your emotions and feelings. 

Being emotionally stoic is a double edged sword for sure. One side of the swords reminds you not to share your feelings and the other side of the sword reminds you NOT to ask for help. Asking for help might even be harder for some men because they are admitting out loud they can’t figure out this problem. At least when you’re emotionally stoic, you can stuff it all inside your body so no one can actually see it. You’re a pussy for talking about your emotions and your even a bigger pussy admitting defeat and throwing in the White Flag of defeat. Damned it we do, damned if we don’t. 

You tell me, does this sound like a welcoming mental space to lay your head down at night? Have you ever experienced what it would feel like to have no thoughts running through your head for even a short period of time? Soundness of mind sounds like a record album someone  came up with in the late 60’s. 
I’m here to tell you one simple thing, if I can take stock of my emotions and share my darkest secrets with a trustworthy friend or mentor, then anyone can do it. ANYONE. That includes you, the only requirement is to jump in with both feet and admit you can’t sustain all the pressure and stress you’ve loaded up on top of you over the decades of your existence. More to come for sure. I’ll see ya in there. 

Keep smiling, 
R-

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#theinbetweenman #theinbetweenmanpodcast #wheremencanbemen 

Quote From Research:  “Without deliberate intervention to redefine masculine success beyond economic provision and to challenge the Man Box's emotional restrictions, we risk losing an entire generation of men to depression, anxiety, and despair.” 

LINK - To The State Of American Men 2025 Research Study: 

https://tr.ee/HOIXxW

Here is the link to the introduction playlist for The InBetween Man Podcast. Listen to all five episodes or one, it will help you get to know me and determine if my content is right for you. DO you. 

https://tr.ee/XglIlS

Below is a link to all of our social media and invite to our private male only Discord server. 

Linktr.ee/theinbetweenman

ETSY Store: 

https://tr.ee/hEcpYQ

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Headline #8 and The SOAM 2025 Wrap Up. Conclusion. 

Headline #8 is about Care Policies for men and women who may be spending money on child support services or their parents or close family members. The bottom line is the data highlights the fact that both men & women would like to see federal or state programs addressing Child Care or After Care. You and I both know that the Federal Government and State Government has zero interest in listening to anything we have to say unless we come loaded to a meeting with a million dollar check. They aren’t going to waste federal or state resources that are already tapped on something that is actually needed. It’s a sad but very true dynamic. It makes much more sense now why men and women both are armed and ready. 

The summary or conclusions to the findings presented in this study are also rather FLUFFY as far as I’m concerned. They are broad in nature and don’t address the real challenge we are facing today with men. Any conclusion that requires ANYONE to engage with a state or federal government and partner together is just not realistic. 

A very close personal friend and father figure of mine taught me that in order to be a man, you have to see a man. This is a very easy thing to say, but it is a totally different thing to actually put it into action. I usually do it wrong the first time and then learn after the fact, what is the right way. Shoot, Ready, AIM! 

My point is, in order for anything to change, someone has to take ACTION. In this episode I make a commitment to all of you that I’m going to reach out to some online influencers to see if they would consider being a guest on the podcast. I know it would be great to talk to some younger successful guys who have carved out a niche for themselves streaming. There is so much untapped potential here on YouTube and many other platforms. 

This weekend I’m going to spend more time going over the history of the Traditional Male Value System. I do believe if we can make healthy and modern edits to some of the male values being promoted today, we can start changing the narrative to let men of all ages know it’s totally okay to discuss your emotions and still be a MAN. With manly values and attributes. Being emotionally stoic is no longer the long term answer to addressing any feelings men might have. Creating a healthy and freeing process that teaches and confirms it's okay for men to talk about emotional stuff will hopefully pave the way to bigger and better things for all men. I’ll see ya in there! 

Keep smiling, 

Renick 

Access to all of The In-Between Man Social Media Links:

https://linktr.ee/theinbetweenman

#theinbetweenman #theinbetweenmanpodcast #wheremencanbemen 

Quote From Research:  “Without deliberate intervention to redefine masculine success beyond economic provision and to challenge the Man Box's emotional restrictions, we risk losing an entire generation of men to depression, anxiety, and despair.” 

LINK - To The State Of American Men 2025 Research Study: 

https://tr.ee/HOIXxW

Here is the link to the introduction playlist for The InBetween Man Podcast. 

https://tr.ee/XglIlS

Below is a link to all of our social media and invite to our private male only Discord server.  

Linktr.ee/theinbetweenman

ETSY Store: 

https://tr.ee/hEcpYQ

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Intimate Partner Violence. 

I had to take a break from The State of American Men 2025 Research study. The last three podcasts have generated so much interest there are no longer enough numbers in the universe to calculate the number of downloads. It’s amazing! 

The reality is, if no one is listening to your content, you need to think about coming up with something else to talk about and today I took some time to do that. I’ve been using Perplexity.ai, Krok and ChatGPT and the clear winner out of all three is ChatGPT. No question. It’s been fun figuring out how they all work and how long it takes for them to answer a complicated question and how right all of them are after a couple of seconds of thinking about it. 

Intimate Provider Violence is not a term I’ve heard until today. When I asked ChapGTP to search if there are any research studies or surveys done that reference men being victims of psychological aggression, it came back with the 2015 study I’m going to be talking about today. I’ve never really considered how much domestic violence could impact anyone and now that emotional and psychological aggression is added to the list I became much more curious. 

For me, I spend roughly 20 years together and married to my x-wife and I NEVER ….EVER considered I could be a victim of emotional abuse, gaslighting, isolating me from family and loved ones and having to always pick up the phone when my wife called. No matter what, everything was a Defcon 5 nukes in the air problem that needed to be solved 2 hours ago. Full disclosure, I made a lot of mistakes also but I was also in a program of recovery and never thought I could be a victim of any psychological / emotional abuse. I refused to believe it and there were many other factors at play that prevented me from filing a divorce. It wasn’t until a close friend of mine who I went to college with said to me, “It doesn’t sound like to me that you have a partner!”. My jaw hit the floor, I was miserable, tired of always having to work on something and I wasn’t the only problem in our marriage. We even went to a therapist who refused to call out my wife on any of her stuff and always brought the focus back on me and what I needed to do to make things better. That was a consistent thread in my marriage until I realized that my wife was NEVER going to change and I was going to be on this train forever and I wanted out. 

It’s my hope this information helps you understand a marriage dynamic you might not have ever considered? Men can be victims of emotional abuse handed down by a manipulating & controlling female partner. Some of this information was so good that I shared it with my middle son who dated a girl that flipped out whenever he turned off his location services on his mobile. He connected the dots today also, which was awesome. I’ll see ya in there!

Keep smiling, 

R-

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