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There are five steps to finding your life's purpose.

Step 1: Strengthen your intuition

Everyone is intuitive but we haven't been taught how to use that intuition and what it looks like so we don't trust it. We also don't know how to access is on demand. If you want to learn how, please head over to my online course How To Learn to Trust Your Intuition.

As children, we have been actively encouraged to ignore our intuition so that we could fit in and become compliant citizens. We are socially trained to believe what people say rather than observe their behaviour or how we feel about it. In the episode, I teach you one example that will enable you to know the difference between anxiety and fear on the one hand and intuition on the other hand. The clue is on how it makes you feel.

You can also listen to previous episodes about intuition: EP 5 - How does intuition work. And EP 91 - Ignore your intuition at your peril.

Step 2: Follow signs

What are signs? In order to dive into the range of signs that are available to you I encourage you to listen to EP 23 Signs from the Universe. If you are in a hurry, they can be anything significant to you especially after you ask the Universe to show you the way. How do you ask? Listen to EP 47 How to Work with Angels to have more information about it. In a nutshell, you write down the help you want and then wait and pay attention. You start with paying attention to how you word your request. Every word matters. I help clients with this step because it's quite subtle and more complex than it appears at first. However for the purpose of this podcast episode you can keep it simple: What is my life's purpose? Date and sign it. In the episode, I list several ways in which you can receive the answer to your request.

Step 3: Learn to say no

This is a very important step. If you are a people pleaser and cannot say no, you are not likely to find your purpose because you will believe that your purpose is to make other people happy. No one's purpose is to make other people happy. Not even your own children if you are a parent. That's just a people pleasing point of view.

Step 4: Trust the detours

Even though we would like our lives to be this linear path to success, it rarely happens like this. Life is messy. I had to lose my entire career in 2005 in order to find my true purpose. And most of it was due to the fact that I was living someone else's version of success because I was a people pleaser, as I explained in EP 110 Success and Spirituality.

Step 5: Open your own akashic records

Your life's purpose is stored in your akashic records. They are what you could call your soul's diary. They contain everything about you as a soul. It is possible for you to access your own records and get information from them. I recommend Linda Howe's book to get started: How to read the akashic records. I also invite you to book a session with me as this is my speciality. I have two separate tariffs depending on whether you consult me for your private life or your business.

The Universe has a radically different way to look at success than we do in the Western world. In this episode, I explore those differences, how I have lived experience of it and the five regrets of the dying.

From 1988 to 2005, I had a stellar career as a lawyer (I count my studies in this period as I did really well at University). Then in 2005, two things happened, I lost my job and I became pregnant with my third child. This was a massive crisis for me as I wasn't just losing my job, I was losing my career. I talk about this second burnout period in my life in my brand new book, Healing Burnout with the Angels, so If you want to know when the book is coming out, sign up for my newsletter with this link.

According to the Oxford dictionary, he definition of success is the accomplishment or an aim. In the West, that usually means wealth, fame or respect. For me, in 2005, two versions of success collided. The success I wanted to feel in my career and the success I wanted to feel as a mum. I wanted to be both the best lawyer in the world and the best mum in the world and sadly, the way the Western world is structured, both cannot be attained simultaneously.

The second part of the episode is about whether this Western world definition of success is really going to matter when you are on your death bed and the short answer is no.

In 2011, Bronnie Ware wrote a book called the five regrets of the dying. This was inspired by her work in palliative care. In the episode we explore these five regrets and then move to the most important question I believe we should ask ourselves: How do we make sure we live a life well lived? And what does that mean on a spiritual level? I share my answer at the end of the episode. I would love to know yours.

And if you need to redefine your version of success and you need some help, book a discovery call with me.

The last letter of my EPIC framework to manifest success without burnout is what I call the Triple C: Clarity, Courage and Confidence. They all come under the banner of mindset, which is at least 50% of success. Without the right mindset we often believe that what we want is not for us. We are too young, too old, to rich, too poor. Whatever it is that our limiting beliefs tell us.

Suppose you had the energy pillar nailed as well as the prosperity mentality and the intuition, why do you need clarity? Clarity is probably one of the biggest obstacle to manifesting our dreams. I don't know about you but I used to change my mind about what I want so often that I confused myself. That was particularly true when I finished school and had to choose what to study. I had so many ideas. Perhaps for you, it's too many book ideas. And the truth is, you need to choose one and focus on that one long enough to get traction. Even that you need to be clear on. The fact you need to focus on one thing. I use to scatter myself. It is really bad in terms of results.

But even getting clarity is not enough. When I do akashic records session, I give clarity to my clients. Unless they have the courage to take action, nothing is going to happen. And then the confidence comes last. Yes, it comes after action. If you wait to have the confidence to do something you are missing what it takes to go after your dreams.

What if the action you took is not right? I think of intuition as a satellite navigation system, so it will show you how to redirect. But it won't be able to show you the right way unless you start your car and your journey. Does that make sense?

I explore all three aspects of this pillar in this episode. If you believe you need support specifically with your mindset, why not check out my Stop Sabotaging your Success online course. Click here to find out more.

Intuition is the third pillar of success without burnout. How so? Well intuition enables you to be in the right place at the right time, saving all the effort to get to that place. I experienced that recently in my career as an author. You can buy the Writer's and Artist's yearbook and pitch 100 agents or publishers, or... you can set your intention, write it down and opportunities COME TO YOU when the time is right.

You can see how this allows you to have plenty of spare time to rest, reflect or work on your fitness. It's awesome.

What is intuition? My definition of intuition is that it is a form of intelligence that does not require thinking.

As this is an episode that was released on my Intuitive Revolution in Business podcast in 2021, I talk about my book launch of the book called Intuitive Revolution in Business which I am still incredibly proud of. The book, the decision journal and the intuition tracker are all available on my amazon shop. My Facebook page has been renamed Spiritual Lawyer. My podcast #HighVibeMonday has been discontinued by my podcast The Intuitive Revolution in Business is still available. I encourage you to listen to it as there are many accounts of entrepreneurs' stories around intuition. The more you listen to other people's stories of intuition, the more you will remember yours. And that is the start of the journey of trusting your intuition.

In order to make room for intuition we need to both understand the mind and aim at quieting the mind. Intuition whispers. The more noise we have in our heads, the less we can hear it. And then hearing it is not enough. We need to act on it.

It is also important to address the fears that will come when you decide to pursue your intuitive gifts. There is always the fear of ridicule. The number of time I have been called irrational by people who did not understand how intuition works is shocking. At the end of the day, though, I was right and that is all that matters. I acted on it and never had to live through regrets.

Our guest this month is an Anxiety and OCD therapist who shares his journey of curing his OCD.

Chris started developing high levels of anxiety from when he started going to school which was fed by some of the stories he was told around religion. He reacted against this by becoming an atheist but the damage was done. He battled intrusive thoughts about death, about hell for years. Even in cartoons that he watched on TV, like the Simpsons these messages about hell were reinforced.

There came a point in his life where the fear was so intense that he wasn't functioning. He was obsessing over death. It was during COVID too so he hadn't seen friends in a month. He cried for five hours and then starting wondering if the problem was not death but OCD, so he went on YouTube and found a video by John Glanvill, who was to become his mentor. Slowly, Chris was able to look at his thoughts and question them. He now considers himself an entirely different man. But it took dedication and persistence and he says he is still working on himself.

He knew when he watched the first video that the man who had recorded it was going to help him. Some of the things that this man talked about felt too far fetched but because Chris was getting results, he kept with the programme.

Part of the work is to face your fears head on and do the things that you have up to now tried to avoid. I met Christ at Toastmasters which he joined long before I did to conquer his fear of public speaking. The idea is to sit with the anxiety rather than try to avoid it by doing some ritual that the ego promises will resolve the issue.

As his mentor shared with him how he went to Peru and did ayahuasca, Chris felt the desire to experience something similar, so he found a Magic Mushroom retreat near him. He shared his insights into that experience with us on the podcast. It is now his end goal in life to experience something similar to what he experienced on that retreat without the mushroom. It's still work in progress but his life has been truly changed by the experience, although not as much as he thought it would because he had started doing the work long before turning up at the retreat.

To work with Chris, head over to his website with this link.

Sign up for my upcoming webinar called the 4 fun ways to avoid burnout on the 14th of October at 7 pm UK time. People who attend live with have a chance to win a session with me worth £300. Click here to sign up.

Prosperity is defined by the Marrian Webster dictionary as "the condition of being successful or thriving, especially by making a lot of money". Abundance, which is a term also widely used in spiritual circles in the context of the law of attraction is defined as "a very large quantity of something". It is interesting that there is no concept of success linked to it, nor of money. And in reality, you could have an abundance of bills or debt. And abundance can have connotations of clutter to me. And lastly, wealth is defined as "a plentiful supply of a particularly desirable thing".

This is where the episode about what I call True Prosperity starts. Definitions. And you can see how abundance and wealth don't really fit in my EPIC framework because as such they are not profound enough to lead to success. Prosperity does not necessarily link to materialism, and I like that. Or at least there need not be. The notion of money is added towards the end of the definition more as an example.

i also talk about perfectionism because perfectionists could be prosperous and successful and yet not feel the success and prosperity attached to it. They simply move the goalpost as soon as they reach it. And that of course, can lead to burnout. We need to talk about success when we talk about prosperity because it is an entirely personal notion. I invite you to reflect on what success means to you.

In the third part of the podcast, I talk about manifesting. This is a topic I already touched upon in Episode 32 titled the Gentle Art of Manifesting. Forgiveness and gratitude are two pillars of prosperity. If we hold grudges about people, we hold our prosperity back. If we are not grateful for what we already have, same.

Before we start, can I remind you of my upcoming webinar on the 14th of October at 7 pm UK time, that you can sign up for by joining my newsletter with this link.

Energy is like gravity. You don't need to believe it in order for it to affect your every day life.

Are we taught about energy in school though? No.

This episode will make up for that grave deficiency. It all stems from the energy field that is around us that the new age world calls the aura. We have seen in a previous episode about the Freemasons, that they also refer to that energy. It is here to protect us. it is also here to help us keep safe by allowing us to feel what is around us and hence sense danger. Our aura is directly linked to that gut feeling that tells us that someone is watching us behind us.

In this episode, I share how our auras work, how it can become unbalanced, and how we connect energetically to other people, including people when we first meet them. And that energetic connection is what is behind our instant likes or dislikes of people. The English language reflects that reality through expressions like "being on the same wave length". I find it fascinating.

I also explains what cords are and how these cords can affect our energy. This ties into what I discussed in last week's episode about energy vampires but even people who are not energy vampires can cord you, especially if they want to manipulate you. These cords can also come from our own habitual thoughts. So it's important to get an energy cleanse to be able to think in different ways, especially if our thinking and our beliefs do not support our goals.

This is pillar number one of the EPIC framework that I use to support my clients reach new levels of success without burning out. Next week we will explore pillar number 2.

You may have heard the expression "Energy Vampires". It refers to people who suck you dry and leave you feeling exhausted and sometimes even depressed after you spend any amount of time with them. In this episode, I am going to give you my best tips on how to deal with them.

Energy vampires don't only affect our lives, they also affect our businesses and careers. They can also affect you without you even speaking to them. Not that I want you to panic, but it happened to me once. Just someone driving down the road who became aggravated because I wasn't driving through a traffic light. She poured insults at me and when she drove off, I felt myself again. There is more to the story, so please listen to the episode.

I also explain why energy vampires do what they do.

I give four steps on how to manage energy vampires and give a lot of examples regarding how they might affect your success.

Step 1 is to refrain from engaging in their negativity and I illustrate how to do this in the episode.

Step 2 is to limit how much time you spend with them.

Step 3 is to let them know the things you will not tolerate.

Step 4 is to suggest ways they can help themselves.

If you want to be able to ask me questions and learn about three more unusual ways to avoid burn out, why not sign up for my business newsletter so that you can receive the link to sign up for my signature webinar called 4 unusual ways to prevent burnout on your path to success.

After the last two episodes that explored the Templars and Freemasonry, I thought it would be beneficial to interview a real life Freemason. Darren and I met about six months ago when I posted in a local Facebook group asking who could fix my crystal bracelets and the rest is history.

Darren joined Freemasonry due to a good friend of his, which is actually quite typical of this organisation, even though I don't think it is in their ethos to push it in other people's faces. He trusted that friend and joined his local lodge about eight years ago and has now reached Master level.

I found my discussion with Darren to be incredibly refreshing as he shared openly about his experience, what it's been like and why he has stayed so long. We also talked about a spiritual experience that he calls his awakening and how this led him to various paths, amongst others reiki and massage, whilst holding a job in corporate at the same time.

To Darren, but it also surfaced from the book I read for last week's episode, Freemasonry is about finding your true self.

You can find Darren on Instagram and Facebook. If you are local to Bristol, you can also find his bracelets and necklaces in some shops. Feel free to reach out to him to ask him where.

In this episode I explore Freemasonry, as a logical follow up topic from my episode on the Knights Templar last week.

My research has centered around a book published in 1922 by an author called W. L. Wilmshurst and a book published by an author called Michel Maffesoli who is a former French freemason and professor of sociology.

It was an interesting exploration of this organisation that made me realise that there are actually two schools of freemasonry that are quite different, called Anglo-American and Continental. I discuss the differences between these organisations in the episode.

Before diving into this secret world, which I need to say I am not a part of, I had no idea how spiritual the core of Anglo-American masonry was but also the influence it has had on theosophy and the new age movement. It incorporates many notions from astrology and numerology. Their understanding of numbers even tie in to Angel Numbers, which is an episode i invite you to listen to if you have not already.

The creator of the Rider-Waite deck, which is a classic tarot deck used by teachers around the world, was himself a freemason which explains the symbology of the High Priestess card, in particular. You may not know that I used to be a tarot teacher and have a self study course about the tarot. If you are interested, please free to use the contact form on this website to enquire about it.

I also want to invite you to explore the three episodes I did about the tarot (Episodes 34, 35 and 36).